Current Events > Does/Did anyone here actually live in moms basement?

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I wonder if that's a thing. I hear this as a regular running joke.

>_>

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But trust me I REALLY wish I didn't...

Literally speaking its almost never the case. People live in bedrooms, not basements - unless its a basement converted to a bedroom.

No, although I would if I moved in with my grandma instead, since her basement was remodeled by a former owner and has its own kitchen and bathroom and everything. It's basically a subterranean apartment.

As a drummer, I fucking wish I had a basement to grow up in.

Nope

I plead the fifth.

Literally shaking. . I still live in mom's basement! Grrrr

I lived for 11 years in a bedroom in a daylight basement. I never lived in a true basement. My older brother always took the basement bedrooms everywhere we moved. I only got that daylight one because he had left for college by then

I never did, but my best friend did for a few years. He was starting his own business and was pouring everything he had into it when he first got started. It worked out for him in the long run.

Yup

Lived at home until I was 29. But my bedroom remained my room there.

I wish we had a basement to konvert into my own room back then.

One of my oldest friends did.

He's 40 and still lives with his mom, but no longer in the basement in the same house. But yes, he very much does fit the stereotype.

If someone is living in their parents basement, then who is currently living in their old childhood bedroom I wonder?

I'm about to in a couple months... But that's because the house I'm renting with friends is going to be sold later this year and also because with my dad having passed at the end of the last year, I'm moving in to help my mom and so she's not alone... It also just happens the free rooms are in the basement...

boomgetchopped3 posted...

If someone is living in their parents basement, then who is currently living in their old childhood bedroom I wonder?

the bull

When i was growing up one of my moms friends son lived in her basement.

That basement was nicer than any apartment i ever lived in. Bedroom, living room, kitchen, bathroom and you could leave without ever going up stairs....

When I lived with my mother in my 20s and most of my 30s, my room was in the basement. It was bigger than my bedroom was when I was a kid (same house) and she became a hoarder, so my old bedroom was filled up with things anyway. I lived with her for so long because it was less expensive than trying to get a place of my own, even though I did look around at one point, and I was saving up to get a house, which I eventually did in 2019. I paid rent to my mother as well, so it wasn't like I was a freeloader.

i've never lived in a place with a basement. I live with my mom though.

In this economy, rushing to move out is a poor move unless you REALLY hate your parents or they hate you lol

but no I don't think many people literally live in their moms basement

No. At the same time I don't get how the stipulation has blown up to be a bad thing.

It seems to be a badge of honor to struggle on your own in the states. If you have parents who are willing to let you live there for free, and both parties are happy, take advantage. There's no bonus points for struggling through life.

Akagami_Shanks posted...

In this economy, rushing to move out is a poor move unless you REALLY hate your parents or they hate you lol

but no I don't think many people literally live in their moms basement

My niece moved out of her parent's place shortly after she turned 18 because she didn't like where she lived (they live out in the middle of nowhere where the nearest house is miles away) and got an apartment with her boyfriend and her friend. I don't blame her at all for getting out of there as soon as she could. I've been there and it's just a small RV filled with junk.

LightningThief posted...

No. At the same time I don't get how the stipulation has blown up to be a bad thing.

It seems to be a badge of honor to struggle on your own in the states. If you have parents who are willing to let you live there for free, and both parties are happy, take advantage. There's no bonus points for struggling through life.

it's one of those self afflicted wounds in society. For men if you still live with your parents you "failed" while nobody really bats an eye if a woman still lives with her parents because they expect her to move in with her boyfriend or something.

Although that sentiment is slowly eroding as Gen Z/Alpha grows up

Akagami_Shanks posted...

In this economy, rushing to move out is a poor move

LightningThief posted...

No. At the same time I don't get how the stipulation has blown up to be a bad thing.

Akagami_Shanks posted...

For men if you still live with your parents you "failed" while nobody really bats an eye if a woman still lives with her parents because they expect her to move in with her boyfriend or something.

Although that sentiment is slowly eroding as Gen Z/Alpha grows up

Like many other terrible perspectives, it's mostly a boomer thing. For them graduating high school and walking straight into their first job (which could pay for a house) was the norm. Something my father and uncle don't seem to fucking understand is not the case for my generation.

I grew up in a single story house, but now that I own my own home I have a basement to sleep in.

Gloriously cozy basement.

Quiet, dim and temperate.

I'm 42 and still live with my parents. (never left home) and I haven't had a job since age 18.

boomgetchopped3 posted...

If someone is living in their parents basement, then who is currently living in their old childhood bedroom I wonder?

Statistically, some kid from an Xbox online lobby who openly brags about doing the person's mom.

No. My getting fucked over by the company I worked for after a string of financial struggles happened to coincide with my mother having a bad wreck, so I moved back in with my parents to take care of her and still live there, but in my bedroom. I cant drive due to being born legally blind, so currently Im in a state of symbiosis where Im physically dependent on my parents to get around and theyre financially dependent on me to make ends meet.

If the basement was cleared out and finished though, I could live down there, as its plumbed for a bathroom and has something of a kitchen area (theres a sink and a wood stove, and a coup,e of old refrigerators we use to keep extra stuff that wont fit in the main one, like hams around Thanksgiving and briskets and such).

CosmicShadows posted...

I wonder if that's a thing. I hear this as a regular running joke.

Yes, doing that right now. I had a medical issue early last year which forced me to move back in with them, my room and office are in the basement. It's not a permanent thing, but it lets me put aside some money for another house once August comes.

Technically but thats just how the house was built.

Both me and my sister had our rooms in the basement, mine being the furthest away from the staircase

..i dont remember why though. For equallitys sake maybe? There was only one bedroom upstairs.

I've never even been in a basement. But I've seen em on TV! They're usually haunted and filled with bugs, so they're clearly something to avoid.

random_man9119 posted...

I'm about to in a couple months... But that's because the house I'm renting with friends is going to be sold later this year and also because with my dad having passed at the end of the last year, I'm moving in to help my mom and so she's not alone... It also just happens the free rooms are in the basement...

My condolences for your loss.

No, I live with my boyfriend in an apartment.

Even if I did live at home with my parents, I wouldn't be ashamed. It would be a great way to save money while attending MRI school.

Only reason why I'm not living with them is because I like my privacy too much.

TuxedoCyan posted...

I'm 42 and still live with my parents. (never left home) and I haven't had a job since age 18.

Why don't you have a job?

ZannoL posted...

Why don't you have a job?

Severe social anxiety. I absolutely hate being around people and hate talking to or being talked to. Being around large groups of people almost always leads to me having panic attacks.

I'm extremely immature for my age. I honestly feel like a teenager mentally. I've never done a single "adult" thing in my life. I don't like responsibility.

But more so than anything, I just don't want to work for a living.

TuxedoCyan posted...

Severe social anxiety. I absolutely hate being around people and hate talking to or being talked to. Being around large groups of people almost always leads to me having panic attacks.

I'm extremely immature for my age. I honestly feel like a teenager mentally. I've never done a single "adult" thing in my life. I don't like responsibility.

But more so than anything, I just don't want to work for a living.

Have you tried any medication for anxiety?

And I have to ask, but how will you support yourself when your parents are no longer able to care for you?

Not trying to be rude. Its just so important to have a backup plan.

ZannoL posted...

Have you tried any medication for anxiety?

And I have to ask, but how will you support yourself when your parents are no longer able to care for you?

Not trying to be rude. Its just so important to have a backup plan.

I tried meds a long time ago and they didn't work. They made me feel worse in fact.
I exercise everyday (since 2019) and that has helped a little but not enough.
I have no plans for after my parents are gone.

TuxedoCyan posted...

I have no plans for after my parents are gone.

Tux... you should have plans. You have value as a person and deserve to care for yourself.

We only get this one life. Make it amazing.

ZannoL posted...

Tux... you should have plans. You have value as a person and deserve to care for yourself.

We only get this one life. Make it amazing.

I've gone my entire life with zero self confidence and disdain for even living. I do not value myself as a person. I get what you are saying but nothing is ever going to change for me. I can't take a step forward if I refuse to move to begin with. I've talked to hundreds of people online about my situation and not one person has been able to help me, because I don't want to be helped.

TuxedoCyan posted...

I've gone my entire life with zero self confidence and disdain for even living. I do not value myself as a person. I get what you are saying but nothing is ever going to change for me. I can't take a step forward if I refuse to move to begin with. I've talked to hundreds of people online about my situation and not one person has been able to help me, because I don't want to be helped.

I'm not going to help, but take it from someone who started off 10 years ago with 0 social skills, stuff like that isn't always natural, sometimes its trained. I'll give you a short example. in 2011, I started working at a grocery store as a cashier. My anxiety was so bad I couldn't look people in the eye or even talk to people. Imagine, a cashier who was unable to speak with customers.

Fast forward 2 months later, I'm finally able to talk to people. Not great, but I can mumble. Still can't look them in the eye. It took me 2 full years to finally build that up to the point now where its like I never had that issue in the first place. And I hated every minute of it. I hated the bosses I worked with, and the way I was treated. But it shaped me into a better person.

That said, I still have crippling fear of talking to people over the phone, which is why I like communication through messaging and email. But I work as an IT tech who only deals with phone issues, so I'm building myself up again to get over that fear. I'm 38, and I hate people helping me, the only reason I wanted to be able to talk to people was because I wanted to be able to buy things from people without being an introvert.

TuxedoCyan posted...

Severe social anxiety. I absolutely hate being around people and hate talking to or being talked to. Being around large groups of people almost always leads to me having panic attacks.

I'm extremely immature for my age. I honestly feel like a teenager mentally. I've never done a single "adult" thing in my life. I don't like responsibility.

But more so than anything, I just don't want to work for a living.

Not trying to be harsh or sound like a douche, but you should seriously look into seeking medical help. Again I'm not saying this be mean.

Unless your parents are loaded, they won't be able to financially take care of you forever. You don't want to end up in a situation where your parents or caretaker passes away, and you are royally screwed.

Just saying you want to at least have some kind of income for yourself rolling in.

Most houses don't even have basements here.

Ivany2008 posted...

I'm not going to help, but take it from someone who started off 10 years ago with 0 social skills, stuff like that isn't always natural, sometimes its trained. I'll give you a short example. in 2011, I started working at a grocery store as a cashier. My anxiety was so bad I couldn't look people in the eye or even talk to people. Imagine, a cashier who was unable to speak with customers.

Fast forward 2 months later, I'm finally able to talk to people. Not great, but I can mumble. Still can't look them in the eye. It took me 2 full years to finally build that up to the point now where its like I never had that issue in the first place. And I hated every minute of it. I hated the bosses I worked with, and the way I was treated. But it shaped me into a better person.

That said, I still have crippling fear of talking to people over the phone, which is why I like communication through messaging and email. But I work as an IT tech who only deals with phone issues, so I'm building myself up again to get over that fear. I'm 38, and I hate people helping me, the only reason I wanted to be able to talk to people was because I wanted to be able to buy things from people without being an introvert.

That's the difference though, you want to be less of an introvert so you push yourself. I don't have any interest in changing. I don't want to push myself and nobody around me wants to push me so I'm just not going to try.

LightningThief posted...

Not trying to be harsh or sound like a douche, but you should seriously look into seeking medical help. Again I'm not saying this be mean.

Unless your parents are loaded, they won't be able to financially take care of you forever. You don't want to end up in a situation where your parents or caretaker passes away, and you are royally screwed.

Just saying you want to at least have some kind of income for yourself rolling in.

I've tried to get help (psychiatrist/physiologist) in the past and it didn't work and it is just a waste of money. My parents are not loaded but they will be leaving me all of their savings after they are gone.

I already know that my parents won't be around one day. I know It's going to be a really bad situation if I don't prepare. I honestly just don't care though.

I live in a sub-level apartment

Does that count?

TuxedoCyan posted...

That's the difference though, you want to be less of an introvert so you push yourself. I don't have any interest in changing. I don't want to push myself and nobody around me wants to push me so I'm just not going to try.

I've tried to get help (psychiatrist/physiologist) in the past and it didn't work and it is just a waste of money. My parents are not loaded but they will be leaving me all of their savings after they are gone.

I already know that my parents won't be around one day. I know It's going to be a really bad situation if I don't prepare. I honestly just don't care though.

Oh hell no. I actively choose to stay home instead of go out and socialize. I can go months without seeing my friends and since I work from home the only time I leave to go out is to get food. I just realize that I want to be around for the PS7, and when that comes out, the PS8, and then the PS9. You get my point. Yeah, I have friends but I'm more energetic when I'm alone.

Venixon posted...

I've never even been in a basement. But I've seen em on TV! They're usually haunted and filled with bugs, so they're clearly something to avoid.

This is my experience as well.

TuxedoCyan posted...

I've gone my entire life with zero self confidence and disdain for even living. I do not value myself as a person. I get what you are saying but nothing is ever going to change for me. I can't take a step forward if I refuse to move to begin with. I've talked to hundreds of people online about my situation and not one person has been able to help me, because I don't want to be helped.

I doubt I post often enough for people to know me from Adam, much less care for my opinions, but posts like this are why I'm often more than a bit nasty towards people who don't fit my criteria for "standard person". The other replies you've received are nothing but encouraging, but you've more or less admitted that it doesn't matter, because you're still going to hide away from the world.

Anxiety and other conditions can be a barrier, I know from experience, but there's nothing so special about you that you can't live something close to an ordinary life if you were willing to try for it. It would take time, but it's achievable.

Having known people with similar conditions in real life, and I am trying to be as kind as I can be whilst still being honest, I feel there comes a point where it stops being a condition that serves as an extra hurdle and starts being an issue with your personality in general.

An ordinary life was never lost to you and you can start anytime you like.

I have never even seen a basement before which is particularly concerning considering I live in a high tornado threat area.