Poll of the Day > Set up a little display/home for my Wife <3

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I made the mistake of not explaining before: That necklace contains the ashes of my wife that died violently in a car crash while sitting next to me on October 3rd, 2017.

Purple has always been my wife's color. Before I met her, a psychic told my mom to tell me "the purple will save you [MannerSaurus] and keep you safe." Without telling my late-wife this story, when we first started dating, she told me that a psychic had told her her "spirit is purple." After I told her what my mother was told long ago, it became extremely important in our relationship. If you see anything purple in anything I share, especially if it's about the love of my wife or the physical loss of her body on this Earth, you guys have a little insight as to why I'm using that color.

I cried while putting this all together, but it also felt really good at the same time. Like I was helping her somehow.
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Thank you @Jen0125 for the idea.
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very nice!
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Nice display, and my condolences.
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I'm truly sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how I'd go on if I lost my love.

Nothing will replace the void, but other doors will open for you if you keep an open heart.
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That's beautiful.
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Looks nice man.

On a side note: Perhaps you could contain all this in one topic so folk who may want to help know the full story rather then making multiple topics that folk would have to search for(assuming they are not deleted).
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wwinterj25 posted...

Looks nice man.

On a side note: Perhaps you could contain all this in one topic so folk who may want to help know the full story rather then making multiple topics that folk would have to search for(assuming they are not deleted).

That's a pretty good point. That's how I handled it on the Corvette and ZDoom forums (which have "infinite" time frame), but I know POTD has really fast purging, so I've just been firing them out. My bad, brother.
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Damn, I got that she died in a car crash from the last(?) topic, but didn't realize you were sitting next to her when it happened. That must've been traumatizing, you're very strong for being able to function after such a horrific event.
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lihlih posted...

Damn, I got that she died in a car crash from the last(?) topic, but didn't realize you were sitting next to her when it happened. That must've been traumatizing, you're very strong for being able to function after such a horrific event.

@lihlih

God spared me some of that trauma by knocking me out. I have no memory of the wreck. I don't even remember most of October. I was in a restaurant one second, and a hospital the next. The doctors told me I was cut out with the jaws of life and airlifted by helicopter. My mother-in-law came in and told me what happened. I demanded to know where my wife was, and she just sobbed and cried, and said "I'm sorry [MannerSaurus], I'm so sorry..." and I grabbed her and screamed at the top of my lungs, practically falling out of the hospital bed. I cried for what felt like hours. I don't remember much else for the rest of the month, except a few images.. like seeing her body at the morgue and saying goodbye, before having a total panic attack and throwing up and screaming/crying. Same reaction to seeing the wrecked car in order to get some of my personal belongings.



I was in the passenger seat, my wife was driving, and my 5 year old niece was in the back seat behind me. The engine was basically to the back seat, nothing but metal glass and blood where me and her were sitting. My older brother first got a call from my mom that "There was an accident. [MannerSaurus's wife] is dead, and your brother might be." He dropped his phone and beer and ran to his wife and they both cried freaking out. He got a phone call a few hours later that I was breathing but comatose and critical in the ICU. He told me "I don't mean this in a shitty way, but that second phone call didn't make me feel any better. I knew that either way, you had died in that wreck."

I'm sorry to unload all of that on you. Everyday is a nightmare whether I talk about it or not, so I might as well talk about it and share my pain/grief. Not that I want to burden you or anyone else, it just feels good to connect to other human life during this... whatever the hell this horrible remaining part of my life is.
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MannerSaurus posted...

lihlih posted...

Damn, I got that she died in a car crash from the last(?) topic, but didn't realize you were sitting next to her when it happened. That must've been traumatizing, you're very strong for being able to function after such a horrific event.

@lihlih

God spared me some of that trauma by knocking me out. I have no memory of the wreck. I don't even remember most of October. I was in a restaurant one second, and a hospital the next. The doctors told me I was cut out with the jaws of life and airlifted by helicopter. My mother-in-law came in and told me what happened. I demanded to know where my wife was, and she just sobbed and cried, and said "I'm sorry [MannerSaurus], I'm so sorry..." and I grabbed her and screamed at the top of my lungs, practically falling out of the hospital bed. I cried for what felt like hours. I don't remember much else for the rest of the month, except a few images.. like seeing her body at the morgue and saying goodbye, before having a total panic attack and throwing up and screaming/crying. Same reaction to seeing the wrecked car in order to get some of my personal belongings.



I was in the passenger seat, my wife was driving, and my 5 year old niece was in the back seat behind me. The engine was basically to the back seat, nothing but metal glass and blood where me and her were sitting. My older brother first got a call from my mom that "There was an accident. [MannerSaurus's wife] is dead, and your brother might be." He dropped his phone and beer and ran to his wife and they both cried freaking out. He got a phone call a few hours later that I was breathing but comatose and critical in the ICU. He told me "I don't mean this in a shitty way, but that second phone call didn't make me feel any better. I knew that either way, you had died in that wreck."

I'm sorry to unload all of that on you. Everyday is a nightmare whether I talk about it or not, so I might as well talk about it and share my pain/grief. Not that I want to burden you or anyone else, it just feels good to connect to other human life during this... whatever the hell this horrible remaining part of my life is.

Wow, that sucks, sorry man... Is the niece ok?
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lihlih posted...

MannerSaurus posted...

lihlih posted...

Damn, I got that she died in a car crash from the last(?) topic, but didn't realize you were sitting next to her when it happened. That must've been traumatizing, you're very strong for being able to function after such a horrific event.

@lihlih

God spared me some of that trauma by knocking me out. I have no memory of the wreck. I don't even remember most of October. I was in a restaurant one second, and a hospital the next. The doctors told me I was cut out with the jaws of life and airlifted by helicopter. My mother-in-law came in and told me what happened. I demanded to know where my wife was, and she just sobbed and cried, and said "I'm sorry [MannerSaurus], I'm so sorry..." and I grabbed her and screamed at the top of my lungs, practically falling out of the hospital bed. I cried for what felt like hours. I don't remember much else for the rest of the month, except a few images.. like seeing her body at the morgue and saying goodbye, before having a total panic attack and throwing up and screaming/crying. Same reaction to seeing the wrecked car in order to get some of my personal belongings.



I was in the passenger seat, my wife was driving, and my 5 year old niece was in the back seat behind me. The engine was basically to the back seat, nothing but metal glass and blood where me and her were sitting. My older brother first got a call from my mom that "There was an accident. [MannerSaurus's wife] is dead, and your brother might be." He dropped his phone and beer and ran to his wife and they both cried freaking out. He got a phone call a few hours later that I was breathing but comatose and critical in the ICU. He told me "I don't mean this in a shitty way, but that second phone call didn't make me feel any better. I knew that either way, you had died in that wreck."

I'm sorry to unload all of that on you. Everyday is a nightmare whether I talk about it or not, so I might as well talk about it and share my pain/grief. Not that I want to burden you or anyone else, it just feels good to connect to other human life during this... whatever the hell this horrible remaining part of my life is.

Wow, that sucks, sorry man... Is the niece ok?

Thanks, man. It means a lot to me. She just has some bruising from the seatbelts, but she wasn't knocked out, so she's ... having problems mentally. She saw my wife die and me bleeding everywhere unconscious being cut out and taken to a helicopter. She's in therapy. My mother-in-law tells me that the niece doesn't want to ride in the car anymore, and ... I mean... that's pretty understandable at 5 years old after that.
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It's important for you talk about how you feel because it's a lot worse if you hold it all inside.
Please don't think for a second that you're burdening anyone.
We care about you and want to help in any way that we can, even if all we can do is listen and be here for you in your time of need.
I already told you that you're part of the tribe now, remember? !
Sending hugs and prayers your way.
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SusanGreenEyes posted...

It's important for you talk about how you feel because it's a lot worse if you hold it all inside.
Please don't think for a second that you're burdening anyone.
We care about you and want to help in any way that we can, even if all we can do is listen and be here for you in your time of need.
I already told you that you're part of the tribe now, remember? !
Sending hugs and prayers your way.

Yes, maam. I hear you...

Thank you, though, you're an angel. I'm glad I made some new friends while visiting here.
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MannerSaurus posted...

SusanGreenEyes posted...

It's important for you talk about how you feel because it's a lot worse if you hold it all inside.
Please don't think for a second that you're burdening anyone.
We care about you and want to help in any way that we can, even if all we can do is listen and be here for you in your time of need.
I already told you that you're part of the tribe now, remember? !
Sending hugs and prayers your way.

Yes, maam. I hear you...

Thank you, though, you're an angel. I'm glad I made some new friends while visiting here.

You're kind of stuck with some of us now. Lol

By the way the display for Sabine is beautiful.
She sounds incredible and I'm sorry I never had the honor of meeting her.
The purple display is a lovely way to honor her memory.
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I haven't really wrote in any of the topics and avoided them because the thought of this happening to a sibling or parent scares me and makes me too emotional. I wish you the best, stay strong.
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daw
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FellWolf posted...

I haven't really wrote in any of the topics and avoided them because the thought of this happening to a sibling or parent scares me and makes me too emotional. I wish you the best, stay strong.

I completely understand. I don't take it personally at all. I have friends and non-immediate family who avoid me and my grief out of fear and discomfort. This horror-hell show that I'm on isn't something I wish on anyone, and I understand anyone that doesn't want to touch or get near this kind of pain. Fear of saying the wrong thing, fear of doing too much/not enough, fear of empathy for their own loved ones (like you said.) Like, I totally get it, brother.

Thank you, I'm trying my best.
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