Poll of the Day > Have you ever had to deal with unwanted affections?

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YES.

It's not pretty. It's not flattering.

It's stressful and toxic. I wouldn't wish it on anyone...
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Alexandra_Trent posted...

YES.

It's not pretty. It's not flattering.

It's stressful and toxic. I wouldn't wish it on anyone...

I know, just wanted to include the full spectrum
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ivegotthebends posted...

Alexandra_Trent posted...

YES.

It's not pretty. It's not flattering.

It's stressful and toxic. I wouldn't wish it on anyone...

I know, just wanted to include the full spectrum

Have you experienced this before? :(((
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Alexandra_Trent posted...

ivegotthebends posted...

Alexandra_Trent posted...

YES.

It's not pretty. It's not flattering.

It's stressful and toxic. I wouldn't wish it on anyone...

I know, just wanted to include the full spectrum

Have you experienced this before? :(((

Yeah, I have
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ivegotthebends posted...

Alexandra_Trent posted...

ivegotthebends posted...

Alexandra_Trent posted...

YES.

It's not pretty. It's not flattering.

It's stressful and toxic. I wouldn't wish it on anyone...

I know, just wanted to include the full spectrum

Have you experienced this before? :(((

Yeah, I have

If I may ask, how did you deal with it?
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My choice isn't up there. My answer is "Yes, and it made me uncomfortable."
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Alexandra_Trent posted...

ivegotthebends posted...

Alexandra_Trent posted...

ivegotthebends posted...

Alexandra_Trent posted...

YES.

It's not pretty. It's not flattering.

It's stressful and toxic. I wouldn't wish it on anyone...

I know, just wanted to include the full spectrum

Have you experienced this before? :(((

Yeah, I have

If I may ask, how did you deal with it?

I don't really talk about it much, though ultimately most situations ended up being relatively benign

No matter what it makes you wary of every person you meet though and I hate that

You can PM me if you want
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fishy071 posted...

My choice isn't up there. My answer is "Yes, and it made me uncomfortable."

I only get so many poll options bruh
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Yeah. I don't regret many things I've done, but having to break somebody's heart stays with me... Of the ones I'm still in touch with, they are all happily taken now (except for one), but I still feel bad. I accidentally led girls on somewhat regularly and then it would all click and become a wave of guilt. Brutal stuff like asking girl A to help me pick a cologne for girl B, utterly oblivious to the fact girl A fell for me...
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Baby don't hurt me,
don't hurt me,
No more

I want to say I've never even had wanted affections, but there was that woman last year who really wanted us to have a baby together. It was uncomfortable and stressful, but even then I nearly went for it.

I haven't even bothered to try since then. I think I'm officially done, even though it still hurts to think I'll never be with anyone. It's probably for the best.
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I've had several people confess to me when I didn't return their feelings, which made me feel guilty and awful. It really, truly sucks for the person who's rejected and heartbroken, and being the one to cause that made me feel like the lowest person in the world :/ Then I had one case where a guy who desperately needed psychiatric help just wouldn't let it go and went full-blown creep mode once he found out I had a boyfriend. It was extremely stressful to say the least, especially since I lived alone, but now that I'm married I don't worry about it as much.
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Yeah

I have lots of unwanted affections for girls that don't want me :(

Joking aside yeah, last year I caused a major rift in my university course because, unwilingy, led a girl on while i was in love with one of her room mates (i did not know they lived together)
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KogaSteelfang posted...

I think I'm officially done, even though it still hurts to think I'll never be with anyone. It's probably for the best.

What makes you think you'll never be with someone? It's okay if you don't want to talk about it, or if you'd rather not talk publicly. If you need a sympathetic ear or a woman's advice, feel free to drop me a PM.
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Everyone who has expressed romantic interest in me has been either taken, gay, batshit crazy, or some combination of the three. So yeah..

No stalkers though, so I don't know how to answer the poll.
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I have been on both ends. It was actually two really big girls that likes me. Now i am a big guy but not that big. I am okay if someone is a little heavier then me but that was way over my weight. But they were cool to talk too but i wasn't really feeling the connection either way. One laughed at every joke i ever said, like it was the most hysterical thing ever. Other changed her hair to red (after i mentioned i liked red heads with green eyes) and i think she was looking to get contacts. : / so i just played it off and continued to be friendly while doing my best to not let them think i was returning their affection.

Now im not a llow person, but if i am not physically attracted to said person, then they have to have an amazing personality to go over it. If a person is extremely attractive and has a tty personality, then I won't be interested either. Personality and connection is he major deal breaker. Attractiveness can be overridden, but nothing can override personality.
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KogaSteelfang posted...

I want to say I've never even had wanted affections, but there was that woman last year who really wanted us to have a baby together. It was uncomfortable and stressful, but even then I nearly went for it.

I haven't even bothered to try since then. I think I'm officially done, even though it still hurts to think I'll never be with anyone. It's probably for the best.

I hear you dude

Won't give you any of that there is somebody for everybody crap but I feel the same way right now

Former girl really broke me aswell
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ninjabay posted...

KogaSteelfang posted...

I want to say I've never even had wanted affections, but there was that woman last year who really wanted us to have a baby together. It was uncomfortable and stressful, but even then I nearly went for it.

I haven't even bothered to try since then. I think I'm officially done, even though it still hurts to think I'll never be with anyone. It's probably for the best.

I hear you dude

Won't give you any of that there is somebody for everybody crap but I feel the same way right now

Former girl really broke me aswell

I just don't care for relationships in general. Too much added stress. Right now im in love with a woman. But i wont tell her, if she doesn't feel the same, just add a wedge into our friendship for no reason. If she does then it will jsut add stress when she finally moves to the east cost. That's what i call a lose lose situation.
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Luck plays a huge part in being successful at the dating game :/ It's not that people aren't attractive or don't have great things to offer someone, it's just being lucky enough to meet someone who has what you want and wants what you have. There are things you can do to help your chances, like improving yourself and knowing your dealbreakers, but that's still not a guarantee. Plenty of awesome people are single and many of them are even happier that way. Mass media has trained people to think that you need a relationship to be happy, but you don't. It should be icing on the cake of your life, rather. And if you (general you) think a significant other will solve all your problems for you, you definitely shouldn't be looking for a relationship. If you can't handle your own problems by yourself, you sure as hell won't be able to handle someone else's problems on top of yours.
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I've been on both sides of the fence, but I just kept it bottled up and never told a girl I liked them. I was overly nice and I still cringe about it. But never pursued a romantic relationship when I was younger. Which is good because we had nothing in common. :D I was quite dense...XD

Now though I'm happy to be single, but I'll date if the opportunity arises. I met this woman online and we talked for a while, she was definitely more..eager to progress the relationship and I was hesitant to go forward until I actually met her. And sure enough, more overweight than I gathered from her pictures, and looked way over at another wall the entire time we were talking. She was happy, we talked for a few hours and after giving some thought to it I decided to let her go before she got too attached. That's about it though, but it's noteworthy to me because I barely date. Haha.

She immediately and completely cut all ties with me afterwards, so I guess I should be thankful I never got into a stalker issue situation.
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Quite a few, yes. At least once a year every year since I was 14, and about 2-3 a year during my university days.
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I had a girl I worked with flirt with me. She knew I was in a relationship and she herself was in one as well. She sent me nasty texts, took a nude selfie at work, and left me a voicemail of herself masturbating and moaning. She was batshit insane and I wasn't the least bit interested as I'm with someone.

Eventually she quit her job and I haven't heard from her since but that was a rough couple of months.
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Jiggy101011 posted...

I had a girl I worked with flirt with me. She knew I was in a relationship and she herself was in one as well. She sent me nasty texts, took a nude selfie at work, and left me a voicemail of herself masturbating and moaning. She was batshit insane and I wasn't the least bit interested as I'm with someone.

Bro that goes beyond flirting, that's like full on sexual harassment.
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Sort of. I had a friend that I was worried about leading on, since the way she was acting gave me the impression she was kind of into me. More so when we ended up in a sort of platonic cuddle buddy situation, and I felt bad because I wasn't sure if that was her having feelings or just enjoying cuddling (which I was quite enjoying myself), and if I might be hurting her by letting it continue. Eventually, after I felt bad about that for a while, she cleared the air by outright asking my thoughts on what our relationship was (I was feeling like I needed to do the same, but she beat me to it). I said I didn't think I was interested in her as anything more than friends, she said that she would have been interested in more than that if I had been (though didn't feel like I'd been leading her on), but that she was very happy just continuing as we had been, and that was that.

And then three weeks later we made out and now she's been my girlfriend for three very happy months, because apparently I suck at emotional self-awareness and took far too long to realize how I felt. All's well that ends well, I guess.

Does that count as unwanted affections? Probably not, since it wasn't so much that I didn't want affections as that I was enjoying our relationship as it was and just didn't want to hurt her if she was getting the wrong idea, plus it turned out I did want the affections, but it's the closest I've got. Next closest would be suspecting somebody was into me, but nothing ever came of any of those instances.
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faramir77 posted...

Jiggy101011 posted...

I had a girl I worked with flirt with me. She knew I was in a relationship and she herself was in one as well. She sent me nasty texts, took a nude selfie at work, and left me a voicemail of herself masturbating and moaning. She was batshit insane and I wasn't the least bit interested as I'm with someone.

Bro that goes beyond flirting, that's like full on sexual harassment.

You are probably right. While it was happening it just felt surreal. I felt bad for her boyfriend now Husband at the time.
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It was ridiculously stressful.
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Lirishae posted...

And if you (general you) think a significant other will solve all your problems for you, you definitely shouldn't be looking for a relationship. If you can't handle your own problems by yourself, you sure as hell won't be able to handle someone else's problems on top of yours.

This is it here, one of the bigger reasons I need to give up. I can't handle my own problems, why should I stack them on someone else? I don't have anything to offer anyone.

Besides, it's not even an issue because no one will ever be interested in a piece of garbage like me.
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baby's got the bends, i know
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KogaSteelfang posted...

Lirishae posted...

And if you (general you) think a significant other will solve all your problems for you, you definitely shouldn't be looking for a relationship. If you can't handle your own problems by yourself, you sure as hell won't be able to handle someone else's problems on top of yours.

This is it here, one of the bigger reasons I need to give up. I can't handle my own problems, why should I stack them on someone else? I don't have anything to offer anyone.

Besides, it's not even an issue because no one will ever be interested in a piece of garbage like me.

I'd tap that.

Lirishae posted...

Luck plays a huge part in being successful at the dating game :/ It's not that people aren't attractive or don't have great things to offer someone, it's just being lucky enough to meet someone who has what you want and wants what you have. There are things you can do to help your chances, like improving yourself and knowing your dealbreakers, but that's still not a guarantee. Plenty of awesome people are single and many of them are even happier that way. Mass media has trained people to think that you need a relationship to be happy, but you don't. It should be icing on the cake of your life, rather. And if you (general you) think a significant other will solve all your problems for you, you definitely shouldn't be looking for a relationship. If you can't handle your own problems by yourself, you sure as hell won't be able to handle someone else's problems on top of yours.

You're not wrong. There are many variables at work, but luck is one of them.
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