Poll of the Day > Can a man and a woman just be friends?

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Can a man and a woman just be friends, without any sexual connections?
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yes. doesn't mean one of them wouldn't want more though
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Yes, if they're both unattractive.
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Kyuubi4269 posted...

Yes, if they're both unattractive.

ugly people can't be more than friends? the population would be dead if that were the case
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Do you keep making alts just to make them or do they keep getting banned?
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Being friendzoned is the worst thing to exist

how the fuck what logic are people using when they're saying no?
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Action53 posted...

Do you keep making alts just to make them or do they keep getting banned?

No
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Krazy_Kirby posted...

Kyuubi4269 posted...

Yes, if they're both unattractive.

ugly people can't be more than friends? the population would be dead if that were the case

They're not unattractive to eachother.

spooky96 posted...

how the fuck what logic are people using when they're saying no?

Why would you ruin a perfectly good friendship with celibacy? If you like eachother, I don't see why you wouldn't want to bang it out.
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Oh look, this topic again.

Krazy_Kirby posted...

yes. doesn't mean one of them wouldn't want more though

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TheWorstPoster posted...

Being friendzoned is the worst thing to exist

Unless you actually value that friendship and aren't just agreeing to be friends out of a desperately obsessive need to keep her around while you wallow in self-pity every time a conversations ends without her falling in love with you. Then being friendzoned isn't really a problem, because you end up with a friend and that's fun.
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Yes. I don't have sexual thoughts about my sisters.
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Not without a special municipal certicicate
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Depends on how attractive you find them. I don't really want to be just friends with a super hot girl.

Yes if one of them is gay.
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I'm married. I don't sleep with my male friends. We're just friends.
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Typically, no.
If they can take it further, they will. If they can't due to other issues, it won't stop them wanting to or one of the 2 pining over the other.
I'm sure it happens from time to time but a genuinely platonic relationship between 2 likeminded people of the opposite sex? Not the sort of thing I'd place a bet on.
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I think if the man is virgin, it's probably a lot harder. I have plenty of female friends and it seems fine on my end.
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TheCyborgNinja posted...

I think if the man is virgin, it's probably a lot harder.

You think? I mean I wound guess that those guys who have had sex would crave it more as they have already experienced what it's like. A virgin on the other hand can't miss what they have never had. Of course this could be subjective.
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Yes. Only troubled men who only see women as objects for their sexual gratification would say no.
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wwinterj25 posted...

TheCyborgNinja posted...

I think if the man is virgin, it's probably a lot harder.

You think? I mean I wound guess that those guys who have had sex would crave it more as they have already experienced what it's like. A virgin on the other hand can't miss what they have never had. Of course this could be subjective.

Well, based on personal experience, it became easier for me because I didn't care about getting laid anymore. A lot of the dudes who get smitten easily and stuff tend to be less experienced and probably just want their turn.
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SusanGreenEyes posted...

I'm married. I don't sleep with my male friends. We're just friends.

So you don't find any of them attractive at all-physically or emotionally-and if you weren't married/loyal then you'd prefer to stay friends with them and not take things further?
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SunWuKung420 posted...

Yes. Only troubled men who only see women as objects for their sexual gratification would say no.

That's a)ridiculous because it implies that we either see women as objects or have them as platonic friends, nothing in between and b)sexist because who's to say a woman can't want more from a male friend? You'd never make that comment about a woman's intentions if she answered no.
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Syntheticon posted...

SusanGreenEyes posted...

I'm married. I don't sleep with my male friends. We're just friends.

So you don't find any of them attractive at all-physically or emotionally-and if you weren't married/loyal then you'd prefer to stay friends with them and not take things further?

I've been married for 11 years. I only think of my husband in that way.
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SusanGreenEyes posted...

Syntheticon posted...

SusanGreenEyes posted...

I'm married. I don't sleep with my male friends. We're just friends.

So you don't find any of them attractive at all-physically or emotionally-and if you weren't married/loyal then you'd prefer to stay friends with them and not take things further?

I've been married for 11 years. I only think of my husband in that way.

You've only answered half the question there...interesting...
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Syntheticon posted...

SunWuKung420 posted...

Yes. Only troubled men who only see women as objects for their sexual gratification would say no.

That's a)ridiculous because it implies that we either see women as objects or have them as platonic friends, nothing in between and b)sexist because who's to say a woman can't want more from a male friend? You'd never make that comment about a woman's intentions if she answered no.

Most women do believe they can be just friends with men. It's usually always men who say they can't be just friends with a woman.
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SusanGreenEyes posted...

I'm married. I don't sleep with my male friends. We're just friends.

But the real questions is, do they want to sleep with you?

SunWuKung420 posted...

Syntheticon posted...

SunWuKung420 posted...

Yes. Only troubled men who only see women as objects for their sexual gratification would say no.

That's a)ridiculous because it implies that we either see women as objects or have them as platonic friends, nothing in between and b)sexist because who's to say a woman can't want more from a male friend? You'd never make that comment about a woman's intentions if she answered no.

Most women do believe they can be just friends with men. It's usually always men who say they can't be just friends with a woman.

I would argue that one of those groups of people aren't being honest with themselves and/or everyone else. The assumption that women aren't equally capable of having dirty thoughts about and attraction for someone they're friends with is not only incorrect but dismissive of women as well.
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SunWuKung420 posted...

usually always

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Syntheticon posted...

The assumption that women aren't equally capable of having dirty thoughts about and attraction for someone they're friends with

I made no such statement.

Syntheticon posted...

dismissive of women as well.

No it's not.

Your just trying to justify your inability to be just friends with a woman because of your inability to control your libido.
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TheCyborgNinja posted...

Well, based on personal experience, it became easier for me because I didn't care about getting laid anymore. A lot of the dudes who get smitten easily and stuff tend to be less experienced and probably just want their turn.

Fair enough. All I know is I don't want to hump every attractive gal I see into oblivion just because I've never had sex.
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SunWuKung420 posted...

Syntheticon posted...

The assumption that women aren't equally capable of having dirty thoughts about and attraction for someone they're friends with

I made no such statement.

But you've also omitted women from your first statement and taken a different position on them in your subsequent replies because they apparently "all say they don't" so you clearly have some sort of fantasy about women being morally superior and yet disregarding the possibility of and therefore dismissing their sexuality-which is it?

Syntheticon posted...

dismissive of women as well.

No it's not.

Your just trying to justify your inability to be just friends with a woman because of your inability to control your libido.

I never said that I didn't have female friends that I've known for years or that the difference between thinking these things about women you know and acting on them are entirely different things, because the long term friendship can be worth more than the possibility of ruining it for sex. I simply refuse to take your faux feminist attempt at appearing above the fray seriously or to give you any credit for thinking you have some sort of 'woke' understanding of female motivations and urges while clearly having no idea whatsoever and treating them as chaste or dramatically different somehow.
This isn't about females having a better grasp on this situation or males being somehow out of control, it's just about humans and them all doing pretty much the same things when presented with the same stimulus or temptation. It's what you do with those urges that makes you a socially responsible adult.
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Yes, even if there is sexual attraction from one or both.

I'd say yes and hopefully both sides have enough mutual respect for one another to not try and take said friendship any further. Imagine having a good friend that you have no attraction or romantic feelings toward and said friend comes out and expresses his/her feelings toward you. Would you want to be put in a position where you have to either turn down said friend or worse, pretend to have interest so you won't hurt his/her feelings?

I kinda find it disrespectful to put someone in that position especially if it was already established he/she has no feelings toward you. Of course being friendzoned stinks but it just goes you show you care more for your own feelings than the wishes of your friend. At some point one must simply accept the reality of the situation and not keep pressuring said friend.

Granted there is that chance both friends do have some feelings for one another and are clueless to it but I assume this to be a rarity. At the end of the day, if you care for said friend and respect his/her wishes to just stay as friends, don't try and start anyway. Seems cowardly but it goes you show you care more how for he/she feels than what you want.
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@Syntheticon posted...

I skimmed your post.

You make assumptions.

The facts are clear. It's more common for a female to have many platonic male friends than for a male to have many platonic female friends. I'm not saying there aren't women who struggle with maintaining platonic male friendships but more men suffer from it than women, heavily, or that men with many platonic female friends don't exist.

You seem to be really insulted by my calling out males for over sexualizing females constantly and overtly. It's a problem females endure daily that men rarely experience.

Are you a female who has trouble maintaining platonic friendships with men? Or were you really hurt by a woman and hold a very negative view of the them? Seriously, while it may seem like your attacking me in your posts, it's seems like you are really upset at females for not "friend zoning" you while engaging in sexual activity with other men.

#6weeksofmarriage
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Every woman I thought could just be friendly with turned out to just be that because she only wanted to have sex with me.
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SunWuKung420 posted...

You seem to be really insulted by my calling out males for over sexualizing females constantly and overtly.

loooooooool
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I don't think any woman would want to be anything more than "friends" with me, probably...

Jiggy101011 posted...

Yes. I don't have sexual thoughts about my sisters.

You are now.
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SunWuKung420 posted...

I (undeservedly) read your post in it's entirety.
You have weird, repressive ideas about women and somehow have been given the impression that your opinions are evolved while treating them very dismissively. I'd ask about your relationship with your mother but it's low hanging fruit.

#6weeksofmarriage

This isn't twitter, genius. Also if you're trying to humblebrag that you've just been married, wait until it's been a decent chunk of time before you start passing out advice lol
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SunWuKung420 posted...

#6weeksofmarriage

Lmaoooo
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Syntheticon posted...

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Syntheticon posted...

I'd ask about your relationship with your mother but it's low hanging fruit.

I love my mom and my mom loves me.

You seem like quite angry forever alone. I'm sorry you're in that place.
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whenever i meet a woman at work or outside of an online social media site i never look for more than just friends. but when i meet someone on instagram or twitter or whatever, i always think more than just friends first.
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