Poll of the Day > when are you supposed to ask someone you're dating what you actually are

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Nightengale 01/09/18 9:51:06 PM #1:	i know i've been calling him my boyfriend on here, but the truth is we've never starting calling each other by any terms in particular. but it's been like 3 months now, we talk pretty much every day, see each other 3-4 times a week, i stay at his place all the time... it feels like we're already there! but at the same time, we're not kids. there was never a "will you go out with me? :3c" moment because it doesn't usually work like that when you're an adult. idk. this is bugging me more than it should i think --- I know it sounds kind of odd for me to say this about myself, but you should know that my mood changes with the wind. <cite>Nightengale posted [p:893742997] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote>i know i've been calling him my boyfriend on here, but the truth is we've never starting calling each other by any terms in particular. but it's been like 3 months now, we talk pretty much every day, see each other 3-4 times a week, i stay at his place all the time... it feels like we're already there! but at the same time, we're not kids. there was never a "will you go out with me? :3c" moment because it doesn't usually work like that when you're an adult. idk. this is bugging me more than it should i think</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LinkPizza 01/09/18 9:55:58 PM #2:	You probably are then. I never started calling the guy I'm seeing my boyfriend, but I suppose that's what we are. You just kinda know sometimes. You don't have to ask. You can if you want. Or introduce him as your boyfriend to somebody. And see if he corrects you or says something later. --- 3DS Friend Code: 4742 6214 5315 Add Me because I'll probably add you. I'm probably the LinkPizza you'll see around. 0001 3388 9537, also. <cite>LinkPizza posted [p:893743257] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote>You probably are then. I never started calling the guy I'm seeing my boyfriend, but I suppose that's what we are. You just kinda know sometimes. You don't have to ask. You can if you want. Or introduce him as your boyfriend to somebody. And see if he corrects you or says something later.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DocDelicious 01/09/18 9:58:25 PM #3:	You don't, in my experience. Usually if you have to ask, you're not. Know what I mean? --- o7 Let strength be granted so the world might be mended. <cite>DocDelicious posted [p:893743420] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote>You don't, in my experience. Usually if you have to ask, you're not. Know what I mean?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Nightengale 01/09/18 10:01:38 PM #4:	i just like to put terms to things. helps me organize it in my head better. --- I know it sounds kind of odd for me to say this about myself, but you should know that my mood changes with the wind. <cite>Nightengale posted [p:893743603] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote>i just like to put terms to things. helps me organize it in my head better.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Doctor Foxx 01/09/18 10:09:24 PM #5:	I'd explain how you enjoy this person's company and bring up that you'd like to be exclusive. If it's mutual then there you go. I'd never assume exclusivity these days without an explicit talk. --- Never write off the Doctor! <cite>Doctor Foxx posted [p:893744088] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote>I'd explain how you enjoy this person's company and bring up that you'd like to be exclusive. If it's mutual then there you go. I'd never assume exclusivity these days without an explicit talk.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
wwinterj25 01/09/18 10:14:15 PM #6:	I'd let them do it first. --- One who knows nothing can understand nothing. http://psnprofiles.com/wwinterj - http://i.imgur.com/kDysIcd.gif <cite>wwinterj25 posted [p:893744352] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote>I'd let them do it first.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zeus 01/09/18 10:24:57 PM #7:	If you have to ask, you aren't. --- (\/)(\/)\|-\| There are precious few at ease / With moral ambiguities / So we act as though they don't exist. <cite>Zeus posted [p:893744955] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote>If you have to ask, you aren't.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SushiSquid 01/09/18 10:30:24 PM #8:	Call him your boyfriend in front of him. When my wife and I first went out, I insisted it was a date even when she didn't. After a few weeks, I insisted she was my girlfriend even when she wasn't sure yet. Worked fine. Just be confident. Not pushy, just confident. Confidence gets you a lot. If you aren't sure, just ask him, "You're my boyfriend, right?" See his reaction. <cite>SushiSquid posted [p:893745249] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote>Call him your boyfriend in front of him. When my wife and I first went out, I insisted it was a date even when she didn't. After a few weeks, I insisted she was my girlfriend even when she wasn't sure yet. Worked fine. Just be confident. Not pushy, just confident. Confidence gets you a lot. If you aren't sure, just ask him, "You're my boyfriend, right?" See his reaction.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LinkPizza 01/09/18 10:40:08 PM #10:	DocDelicious posted... You don't, in my experience. Usually if you have to ask, you're not. Know what I mean? Zeus posted... If you have to ask, you aren't. I don't understand how that makes any sense. --- 3DS Friend Code: 4742 6214 5315 Add Me because I'll probably add you. I'm probably the LinkPizza you'll see around. 0001 3388 9537, also. <cite>LinkPizza posted [p:893745810] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote><cite>DocDelicious posted...</cite> <quote>You don't, in my experience. Usually if you have to ask, you're not. Know what I mean?</quote> <cite>Zeus posted...</cite> <quote>If you have to ask, you aren't.</quote> I don't understand how that makes any sense.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DocDelicious 01/09/18 11:00:30 PM #11:	LinkPizza posted... DocDelicious posted... You don't, in my experience. Usually if you have to ask, you're not. Know what I mean? Zeus posted... If you have to ask, you aren't. I don't understand how that makes any sense. Well, usually when people are together...they just are. It's a mutual understanding. If either partner has to question whether or not you're exclusive, then you're not...one of you has already made up your mind. --- o7 Let strength be granted so the world might be mended. <cite>DocDelicious posted [p:893746851] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote><cite>LinkPizza posted...</cite> <quote><cite>DocDelicious posted...</cite> <quote>You don't, in my experience. Usually if you have to ask, you're not. Know what I mean?</quote> <cite>Zeus posted...</cite> <quote>If you have to ask, you aren't.</quote> I don't understand how that makes any sense.</quote> Well, usually when people are together...they just are. It's a mutual understanding. If either partner has to question whether or not you're exclusive, then you're not...one of you has already made up your mind.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Mead 01/09/18 11:24:13 PM #12:	When youre comfortable with it --- All praise Mead <cite>Mead posted [p:893748030] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote>When youre comfortable with it</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Nightengale 01/09/18 11:54:39 PM #13:	you people keep using this word, "exclusive". that is not my appellation. i said "boyfriend" --- I know it sounds kind of odd for me to say this about myself, but you should know that my mood changes with the wind. <cite>Nightengale posted [p:893749395] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote>you people keep using this word, "exclusive". that is not my appellation. i said "boyfriend"</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Cacciato 01/10/18 12:04:37 AM #14:	Nightengale posted... you people keep using this word, "exclusive". that is not my appellation. i said "boyfriend" for fuck's sake --- "I properly understand when a woman wants my dick and I can do whatever I want to them, and then do it." AlphaForrestGump <cite>Cacciato posted [p:893749881] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote><cite>Nightengale posted...</cite> <quote>you people keep using this word, "exclusive". that is not my appellation. i said "boyfriend"</quote> for fuck's sake</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
wwinterj25 01/10/18 12:07:27 AM #15:	Nightengale posted... you people --- One who knows nothing can understand nothing. http://psnprofiles.com/wwinterj - http://i.imgur.com/kDysIcd.gif <cite>wwinterj25 posted [p:893750015] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote><cite>Nightengale posted...</cite> <quote>you people</quote> </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Troll_Police_ 01/10/18 12:10:54 AM #16:	Nightengale posted... i just like to put terms to things. helps me organize it in my head better. oh yeah, we all know how much you like putting labels on shit bro --- Is this going to be one of those times when you pretend not to have a plan until the last moment? And then turn out to really not have one? <cite>Troll_Police_ posted [p:893750161] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote><cite>Nightengale posted...</cite> <quote>i just like to put terms to things. helps me organize it in my head better.</quote> oh yeah, we all know how much you like putting labels on shit bro</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
OhhhJa 01/10/18 12:14:26 AM #17:	LinkPizza posted... DocDelicious posted... You don't, in my experience. Usually if you have to ask, you're not. Know what I mean? Zeus posted... If you have to ask, you aren't. I don't understand how that makes any sense. It doesn't really. Even for adults (since someone said only kids do this) there comes a point usually after a few months or so where you clarify whether you're exclusively in a relationship or not <cite>OhhhJa posted [p:893750290] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote><cite>LinkPizza posted...</cite> <quote><cite>DocDelicious posted...</cite> <quote>You don't, in my experience. Usually if you have to ask, you're not. Know what I mean?</quote> <cite>Zeus posted...</cite> <quote>If you have to ask, you aren't.</quote> I don't understand how that makes any sense.</quote> It doesn't really. Even for adults (since someone said only kids do this) there comes a point usually after a few months or so where you clarify whether you're exclusively in a relationship or not</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SusanGreenEyes 01/10/18 12:17:23 AM #18:	Use the words 'boyfriend' and 'date' when you're together and see how he responds. --- Been a murder, over in Riften. Some old lady who runs an orphanage. Those poor children must be heartbroken. <cite>SusanGreenEyes posted [p:893750416] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote>Use the words 'boyfriend' and 'date' when you're together and see how he responds.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
trodi_911 01/10/18 12:19:27 AM #19:	Be straightforward. Just ask and say it's to put your mind at ease about it. --- "You rat! How dare you sell me so cheap." "NO ONE CALLS ME THAT WITHOUT SOME CHEESE!" Life is uncertain. Eat dessert first. <cite>trodi_911 posted [p:893750490] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote>Be straightforward. Just ask and say it's to put your mind at ease about it.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
PK_Spam 01/10/18 12:24:30 AM #20:	trodi_911 posted... Be straightforward. Just ask and say it's to put your mind at ease about it. That In every relationship Ive had, the early stages always had me taking it 100% seriously after the second or third date. And usually, sometime after that, when were alone, I bring up the Yeah, my friends and I are throwing this party. Youre coming, right? Theyre gonna think its weird if my boyfriend isnt gonna be there and then a short pause and then We ARE dating, right, man? But I only do that when Im already sure its a serious thing. And we throw on the label after. If its just a casual-ish thing, I dont even bring it up, but I also consciously put in less effort, so its usually obvious its not a real thing. --- https://i.imgur.com/hCHZS1f.gif <cite>PK_Spam posted [p:893750682] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote><cite>trodi_911 posted...</cite> <quote>Be straightforward. Just ask and say it's to put your mind at ease about it.</quote> That In every relationship Ive had, the early stages always had me taking it 100% seriously after the second or third date. And usually, sometime after that, when were alone, I bring up the Yeah, my friends and I are throwing this party. Youre coming, right? Theyre gonna think its weird if my boyfriend isnt gonna be there and then a short pause and then We ARE dating, right, man? But I only do that when Im already sure its a serious thing. And we throw on the label after. If its just a casual-ish thing, I dont even bring it up, but I also consciously put in less effort, so its usually obvious its not a real thing.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Nightengale 01/10/18 12:28:42 AM #21:	ok thanks everyone. i guess i'm just gonna ask him. ... eventually --- I know it sounds kind of odd for me to say this about myself, but you should know that my mood changes with the wind. <cite>Nightengale posted [p:893750825] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote>ok thanks everyone. i guess i'm just gonna ask him. ... eventually</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Smarkil 01/10/18 1:54:26 AM #22:	just ask him to go steady when he takes you to the motel after prom --- "We're not even close" - Romans building Rome at the end of Day 1 <cite>Smarkil posted [p:893753634] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote>just ask him to go steady when he takes you to the motel after prom</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Nightengale 01/10/18 3:11:01 AM #23:	what do you think i am, smarkil, some kinda hussy --- I know it sounds kind of odd for me to say this about myself, but you should know that my mood changes with the wind. <cite>Nightengale posted [p:893755776] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote>what do you think i am, smarkil, some kinda hussy</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Grendel 01/10/18 4:36:42 AM #24:	If it bothers you then talk about it. It's not that complicated. <cite>Grendel posted [p:893757449] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote>If it bothers you then talk about it. It's not that complicated.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Nightengale 01/10/18 4:38:47 AM #25:	it is literally THE most complicated thing ever --- I know it sounds kind of odd for me to say this about myself, but you should know that my mood changes with the wind. <cite>Nightengale posted [p:893757480] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote>it is literally THE most complicated thing ever</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Yellow 01/10/18 4:49:31 AM #26:	Nightengale posted... it is literally THE most complicated thing ever Maybe it's extremely simple but hard to accept. --- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rh98Kscctw4 <cite>Yellow posted [p:893757636] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote><cite>Nightengale posted...</cite> <quote>it is literally THE most complicated thing ever</quote> Maybe it's extremely simple but hard to accept.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Grendel 01/10/18 4:54:54 AM #27:	Nightengale posted... it is literally THE most complicated thing ever No, no it is not. It can be resolved in literally a 45 second conversation. <cite>Grendel posted [p:893757728] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote><cite>Nightengale posted...</cite> <quote>it is literally THE most complicated thing ever</quote> No, no it is not. It can be resolved in literally a 45 second conversation.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Cacciato 01/10/18 5:16:36 AM #28:	Grendel posted... Nightengale posted... it is literally THE most complicated thing ever No, no it is not. It can be resolved in literally a 45 second conversation. --- "I properly understand when a woman wants my dick and I can do whatever I want to them, and then do it." AlphaForrestGump <cite>Cacciato posted [p:893758105] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote><cite>Grendel posted...</cite> <quote><cite>Nightengale posted...</cite> <quote>it is literally THE most complicated thing ever</quote> No, no it is not. It can be resolved in literally a 45 second conversation.</quote></quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
EvilMegas 01/10/18 7:31:54 AM #29:	You a side ho --- Official King of Black People http://i.imgur.com/Zk3VS3o.jpg http://imgur.com/a/UeQiE <cite>EvilMegas posted [p:893760609] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote>You a side ho</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GameReviews 01/10/18 7:55:35 AM #30:	Zeus posted... If you have to ask, you aren't. I thought I was "dating" a girl for about 6 months back right after I graduated high school. I was 17 at the time. We never called ourselves boyfriend and girlfriend, but I assumed we were, we went out to dinner together, talked all the time, fucked like crazy. After 6 months I found out that she had fucked literally around 10 other guys during the time we were "dating" and never considered me anything more than a friend with benefits. It destroyed me emotionally at the time. --- Sign here. <cite>GameReviews posted [p:893761220] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote><cite>Zeus posted...</cite> <quote>If you have to ask, you aren't.</quote> I thought I was "dating" a girl for about 6 months back right after I graduated high school. I was 17 at the time. We never called ourselves boyfriend and girlfriend, but I assumed we were, we went out to dinner together, talked all the time, fucked like crazy. After 6 months I found out that she had fucked literally around 10 other guys during the time we were "dating" and never considered me anything more than a friend with benefits. It destroyed me emotionally at the time.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
EvilMegas 01/10/18 7:59:19 AM #31:	GameReviews posted... Zeus posted... If you have to ask, you aren't. I thought I was "dating" a girl for about 6 months back right after I graduated high school. I was 17 at the time. We never called ourselves boyfriend and girlfriend, but I assumed we were, we went out to dinner together, talked all the time, fucked like crazy. After 6 months I found out that she had fucked literally around 10 other guys during the time we were "dating" and never considered me anything more than a friend with benefits. It destroyed me emotionally at the time. Side ho --- Official King of Black People http://i.imgur.com/Zk3VS3o.jpg http://imgur.com/a/UeQiE <cite>EvilMegas posted [p:893761316] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote><cite>GameReviews posted...</cite> <quote><cite>Zeus posted...</cite> <quote>If you have to ask, you aren't.</quote> I thought I was "dating" a girl for about 6 months back right after I graduated high school. I was 17 at the time. We never called ourselves boyfriend and girlfriend, but I assumed we were, we went out to dinner together, talked all the time, fucked like crazy. After 6 months I found out that she had fucked literally around 10 other guys during the time we were "dating" and never considered me anything more than a friend with benefits. It destroyed me emotionally at the time.</quote> Side ho</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GameReviews 01/10/18 8:02:29 AM #32:	EvilMegas posted... GameReviews posted... Zeus posted... If you have to ask, you aren't. I thought I was "dating" a girl for about 6 months back right after I graduated high school. I was 17 at the time. We never called ourselves boyfriend and girlfriend, but I assumed we were, we went out to dinner together, talked all the time, fucked like crazy. After 6 months I found out that she had fucked literally around 10 other guys during the time we were "dating" and never considered me anything more than a friend with benefits. It destroyed me emotionally at the time. Side ho Back then it was the closest thing to a real relationship I'd had up until that point lol. --- Sign here. <cite>GameReviews posted [p:893761400] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote><cite>EvilMegas posted...</cite> <quote><cite>GameReviews posted...</cite> <quote><cite>Zeus posted...</cite> <quote>If you have to ask, you aren't.</quote> I thought I was "dating" a girl for about 6 months back right after I graduated high school. I was 17 at the time. We never called ourselves boyfriend and girlfriend, but I assumed we were, we went out to dinner together, talked all the time, fucked like crazy. After 6 months I found out that she had fucked literally around 10 other guys during the time we were "dating" and never considered me anything more than a friend with benefits. It destroyed me emotionally at the time.</quote> Side ho</quote> Back then it was the closest thing to a real relationship I'd had up until that point lol.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BADoglick 01/10/18 8:36:41 AM #33:	If you're that nervous about it, it kind of implies that they don't see it that way. But either way, my suggestion is this.... go out, have him get really really obliterated drunk. Take care of him. If he tells you he loves you, it's official. If he is a drunk slob, takes your help, and doesn't drunkenly confess his love, he's using you. Worked for my girlfriend --- BADoglick to the Max! <cite>BADoglick posted [p:893762356] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote>If you're that nervous about it, it kind of implies that they don't see it that way. But either way, my suggestion is this.... go out, have him get really really obliterated drunk. Take care of him. If he tells you he loves you, it's official. If he is a drunk slob, takes your help, and doesn't drunkenly confess his love, he's using you. Worked for my girlfriend</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Kyuubi4269 01/10/18 8:41:28 AM #34:	BADoglick posted... go out, have him get really really obliterated drunk. Take care of him. If he tells you he loves you, it's official. If he is a drunk slob, takes your help, and doesn't drunkenly confess his love, he's using you. Worked for my girlfriend God, you have horrendous advice, this is the shit I expect from someone with MPD. --- RIP_Supa posted... I've seen some stuff <cite>Kyuubi4269 posted [p:893762506] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote><cite>BADoglick posted...</cite> <quote>go out, have him get really really obliterated drunk. Take care of him. If he tells you he loves you, it's official. If he is a drunk slob, takes your help, and doesn't drunkenly confess his love, he's using you. Worked for my girlfriend</quote> God, you have horrendous advice, this is the shit I expect from someone with MPD.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
OhhhJa 01/10/18 10:27:33 AM #35:	Nightengale posted... ok thanks everyone. i guess i'm just gonna ask him. ... eventually Just do it. It's not gonna be a deal breaker just asking something like that and if it is then it wasn't mutual anyway <cite>OhhhJa posted [p:893766439] in when are y... [t:76184992]...</cite> <quote><cite>Nightengale posted...</cite> <quote>ok thanks everyone. i guess i'm just gonna ask him. ... eventually</quote> Just do it. It's not gonna be a deal breaker just asking something like that and if it is then it wasn't mutual anyway</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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