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pxlated
01/14/18 10:42:16 PM
#153:


Nelson_Mandela posted...
Serious question: what if a girl's turn on/kink was being submissive? Letting the guy be, within reason, a little pushy and dominant. Should those women never get to experience that without ruining the mood with a lengthy conversation about consent?


Having spent a large amount of time in the kink community and with friends that actually teach kink classes, any good kink relationship involves clear and direct communication about what is and isn't okay.

And "what if she is just kinky" isn't a fucking excuse to do this. Jesus christ.But
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Nelson_Mandela
01/14/18 10:42:43 PM
#154:


TheRock1525 posted...
Like I gotta be honest, I bet ExTha would look at Aziz's behavior and not approve of it. He might attack the lady, too, for possibly giving mixed signals (I don't think a blowjob precludes sex as a guarantee) but I doubt he was ever alone with a woman and constantly harassed her around a room, sticking his fingers down her throat and continuing to ask her where she wants to be fucked after saying she didn't want to have sex that night.

You do realize that foreplay also functions as a way to turn on your partner... Girls are allowed to change their minds. They're also allowed to leave if they feel pressured.
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TheRock1525
01/14/18 10:44:31 PM
#155:


Nelson_Mandela posted...
Serious question: what if a girl's turn on/kink was being submissive? Letting the guy be, within reason, a little pushy and dominant. Should those women never get to experience that without ruining the mood with a lengthy conversation about consent?


What the fuck is this even? Do you just poke and guess at other people's kinks?

Secondly, submissive women's goal is to SUBMIT. They don't fight it at all. She was clearly fighting him the whole experience.
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Reg
01/14/18 10:45:25 PM
#156:


Literally nothing Seph is saying surprises me in light of things he's said before.
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Nelson_Mandela
01/14/18 10:45:50 PM
#157:


Again, look at the reactions to the Aziz article. It is getting shredded by almost everyone as a step backwards in the metoo movement. Only the most socially insulated of men and radicalized feminists are defending it. I know that's not necessarily a counterpoint, but don't act like I'm some fringe monster on this issue.
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Inviso
01/14/18 10:46:31 PM
#158:


Nelson_Mandela posted...
Again, look at the reactions to the Aziz article. It is getting shredded by almost everyone as a step backwards in the metoo movement. Only the most socially insulated of men and radicalized feminists are defending it. I know that's not necessarily a counterpoint, but don't act like I'm some fringe monster on this issue.


Your DEFENSE in the past several posts is why you're some "fringe monster".
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pxlated
01/14/18 10:47:12 PM
#159:


TheRock1525 posted...
Nelson_Mandela posted...
Serious question: what if a girl's turn on/kink was being submissive? Letting the guy be, within reason, a little pushy and dominant. Should those women never get to experience that without ruining the mood with a lengthy conversation about consent?


What the fuck is this even? Do you just poke and guess at other people's kinks?

Secondly, submissive women's goal is to SUBMIT. They don't fight it at all. She was clearly fighting him the whole experience.


There definitely are people into this kind of play, but its not something you guess at or that serves an excuse to coerce someone
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TheRock1525
01/14/18 10:47:39 PM
#160:


Nelson_Mandela posted...
It is getting shredded by almost everyone as a step backwards in the metoo movement.


You keep saying that. What's your proof because I'm seeing a lot of people, even Aziz himself, agree the behavior was wrong.
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Nelson_Mandela
01/14/18 10:48:20 PM
#161:


TheRock1525 posted...
Nelson_Mandela posted...
Serious question: what if a girl's turn on/kink was being submissive? Letting the guy be, within reason, a little pushy and dominant. Should those women never get to experience that without ruining the mood with a lengthy conversation about consent?


What the fuck is this even? Do you just poke and guess at other people's kinks?

Secondly, submissive women's goal is to SUBMIT. They don't fight it at all. She was clearly fighting him the whole experience.

A kink is one step further than what the average woman enjoys. I have encountered very few women who like to overtly say yes right away. So yes, you do have to push some boundaries to see what's acceptable. He did the right thing by not having her do anything that she didn't want to do.
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TheRock1525
01/14/18 10:48:56 PM
#162:


pxlated posted...
TheRock1525 posted...
Nelson_Mandela posted...
Serious question: what if a girl's turn on/kink was being submissive? Letting the guy be, within reason, a little pushy and dominant. Should those women never get to experience that without ruining the mood with a lengthy conversation about consent?


What the fuck is this even? Do you just poke and guess at other people's kinks?

Secondly, submissive women's goal is to SUBMIT. They don't fight it at all. She was clearly fighting him the whole experience.


There definitely are people into this kind of play, but its not something you guess at or that serves an excuse to coerce someone


That's my fucking point. You don't just poke and guess at a guy or girl's kink. What if you start making out and then the girl goes "alright, I'll go get my strapon." You really gonna look at that as normal behavior?
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Jakyl25
01/14/18 10:49:53 PM
#163:


Nelson_Mandela posted...
I have encountered very few women who like to overtly say yes right away


Have you ever considered that the problem might be you?
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Nelson_Mandela
01/14/18 10:49:56 PM
#164:


TheRock1525 posted...
Nelson_Mandela posted...
It is getting shredded by almost everyone as a step backwards in the metoo movement.


You keep saying that. What's your proof because I'm seeing a lot of people, even Aziz himself, agree the behavior was wrong.

Search "Aziz" on Twitter, look at the comments under the original link.

For a girl to document a bad date and post intimate details about this just screams "nutcase" to me.
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pxlated
01/14/18 10:50:34 PM
#165:


It doesnt surprise me that people in your circle/places you read react to it the way you say they do. What I have seen is the opposite. And the majority of those reactions arent from "the most radicalized feminists"
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Nelson_Mandela
01/14/18 10:52:15 PM
#166:


Jakyl25 posted...
Nelson_Mandela posted...
I have encountered very few women who like to overtly say yes right away


Have you ever considered that the problem might be you?

I've had relatively few sexual partners! I have many female friends and we discuss their dating/sex lives. Many of them would never have sex with a guy if he isn't aggressive with them. Shyness/lack of trying is a turn off for them.
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Nelson_Mandela
01/14/18 10:54:59 PM
#167:


I really wish people like Rock and pxelated would stop treating women like delicate little victims who aren't capable of arousal from men who aren't perfect gentlemen. It's actually as far from feminism as you can get.
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pxlated
01/14/18 10:56:45 PM
#168:


I never said anything like that.

What I said was "pulling out your dick after someone says no isn't cool".

There's a big difference.
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EndOfDiscOne
01/14/18 10:57:22 PM
#169:


Aziz did seem to be too aggressive. But Seph isnt wrong that a common part of hooking up is trying to turn a no into a yes. From the initial meeting at the bar or wherever, to having sex. Women playing hard to get IS a thing.
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TheRock1525
01/14/18 10:57:26 PM
#170:


I wish you wouldn't look at an encounter where a woman is repeatedly made uncomfortable as the only way to court a woman.

I thought Republicans gave a shit about chivalry.
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Nelson_Mandela
01/14/18 10:57:55 PM
#171:


pxlated posted...
I never said anything like that.

What I said was "pulling out your dick after someone says no isn't cool".

There's a big difference.

Yes she hated it so much that she tried to suck it off of him!
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Nelson_Mandela
01/14/18 10:59:24 PM
#172:


EndOfDiscOne posted...
Aziz did seem to be too aggressive. But Seph isnt wrong that a common part of hooking up is trying to turn a no into a yes. From the initial meeting at the bar or wherever, to having sex. Women playing hard to get IS a thing.

Thank you

Also I would argue that his aggressiveness was validated by her reactions. She went home with him and let him eat her out for Christ's sake. Was he supposed to repeatedly check in with her after that?
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Jakyl25
01/14/18 10:59:25 PM
#173:


Nelson_Mandela posted...
Jakyl25 posted...
Nelson_Mandela posted...
I have encountered very few women who like to overtly say yes right away


Have you ever considered that the problem might be you?

I've had relatively few sexual partners! I have many female friends and we discuss their dating/sex lives. Many of them would never have sex with a guy if he isn't aggressive with them. Shyness/lack of trying is a turn off for them.


Do you want to have sex? isnt a lack of trying to have sex
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pxlated
01/14/18 11:00:25 PM
#174:


Yes, thanks for reinforcing the fact that you understand nothing about the pressure and how fucking shitty it can be to be in a situation like this. Especially when the person doing it is fucking famous.

Having had shit like this happen to me, trust me. It's not fun. And it's not as easy as just leaving.
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TheRock1525
01/14/18 11:00:37 PM
#175:


BTW, I don't treat women as "delicate little victims." I treat women as human beings, with their own thoughts, wants, and desires. I trust myself enough to not have to work a no into a yes.
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Nelson_Mandela
01/14/18 11:01:26 PM
#176:


Jakyl25 posted...
Nelson_Mandela posted...
Jakyl25 posted...
Nelson_Mandela posted...
I have encountered very few women who like to overtly say yes right away


Have you ever considered that the problem might be you?

I've had relatively few sexual partners! I have many female friends and we discuss their dating/sex lives. Many of them would never have sex with a guy if he isn't aggressive with them. Shyness/lack of trying is a turn off for them.


Do you want to have sex? isnt a lack of trying to have sex

It's fucking boring and can be a turn off to make things so dry and clinical. These women are adults. People need to stop treating them like they don't have their own free will.
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pxlated
01/14/18 11:02:01 PM
#177:


And yes, while persistence is a thing people do, Aziz crossed a line. Several times apparently.

But it doesnt surprise me that you don't understand nuance.
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Nelson_Mandela
01/14/18 11:02:30 PM
#178:


TheRock1525 posted...
I trust myself enough to not have to work a no into a yes.

That kind of attitude would be a major turn off for the majority of women I know
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Nelson_Mandela
01/14/18 11:03:42 PM
#179:


pxlated posted...
And yes, while persistence is a thing people do, Aziz crossed a line. Several times apparently.

But it doesnt surprise me that you don't understand nuance.

The consequence of his over persistence should be that he doesn't get laid by her or get a second date. Not being accused of sexual assault.
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TheRock1525
01/14/18 11:03:57 PM
#180:


Most of the persistence should occur long before you're alone with another person.
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Nelson_Mandela
01/14/18 11:04:51 PM
#181:


pxlated posted...
Yes, thanks for reinforcing the fact that you understand nothing about the pressure and how fucking shitty it can be to be in a situation like this. Especially when the person doing it is fucking famous.

Having had shit like this happen to me, trust me. It's not fun. And it's not as easy as just leaving.

Poor little baby

The woman is 22 years old. I have enough respect for women to trust that she can make her own decisions.
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TheRock1525
01/14/18 11:05:14 PM
#182:


Nelson_Mandela posted...
pxlated posted...
And yes, while persistence is a thing people do, Aziz crossed a line. Several times apparently.

But it doesnt surprise me that you don't understand nuance.

The consequence of his over persistence should be that he doesn't get laid by her or get a second date. Not being accused of sexual assault.


Probably shouldn't try to sexually assault women if he doesn't want to get accused of it.
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Nelson_Mandela
01/14/18 11:05:23 PM
#183:


TheRock1525 posted...
Most of the persistence should occur long before you're alone with another person.

Ugh Jesus
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TheRock1525
01/14/18 11:06:02 PM
#184:


Nelson_Mandela posted...
I have enough respect for women to trust that she can make her own decisions.


And she decided it was sexual assault, so why aren't you trusting her decisions now?
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Jakyl25
01/14/18 11:06:31 PM
#185:


Nelson_Mandela posted...
pxlated posted...
Yes, thanks for reinforcing the fact that you understand nothing about the pressure and how fucking shitty it can be to be in a situation like this. Especially when the person doing it is fucking famous.

Having had shit like this happen to me, trust me. It's not fun. And it's not as easy as just leaving.

Poor little baby

The woman is 22 years old. I have enough respect for women to trust that she can make her own decisions.


But not enough to respect her opinion on the matter afterwards
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TheRock1525
01/14/18 11:07:09 PM
#186:


Nelson_Mandela posted...
TheRock1525 posted...
Most of the persistence should occur long before you're alone with another person.

Ugh Jesus


Sorry that I'm much better at winning women over that they want me to come back and fuck them instead of inviting them over and hoping I can convince them in my house.
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Nelson_Mandela
01/14/18 11:07:41 PM
#187:


TheRock1525 posted...
Nelson_Mandela posted...
I have enough respect for women to trust that she can make her own decisions.


And she decided it was sexual assault, so why aren't you trusting her decisions now?

Did she make that decision while she let him go down on her or when she blew him?

You're not allowed to decide you were assaulted because you regret your own choices after the fact
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Inviso
01/14/18 11:07:51 PM
#188:


Sephy's argument in this topic is like if someone didn't understand Dennis Reynolds' "implication" speech was being said by a total scumbag, and wasn't something to serve as a personal mantra in real life.
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Jakyl25
01/14/18 11:09:20 PM
#189:


Nelson_Mandela posted...

Did she make that decision while she let him go down on her or when she blew him?


Probably when she was saying she didnt want to do anything with him in the moment
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Nelson_Mandela
01/14/18 11:09:29 PM
#190:


TheRock1525 posted...
Nelson_Mandela posted...
TheRock1525 posted...
Most of the persistence should occur long before you're alone with another person.

Ugh Jesus


Sorry that I'm much better at winning women over that they want me to come back and fuck them instead of inviting them over and hoping I can convince them in my house.

Oh so you directly establish that you are going home to have sex while you're out at dinner? Fun!
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Nelson_Mandela
01/14/18 11:10:20 PM
#191:


Jakyl25 posted...
Nelson_Mandela posted...

Did she make that decision while she let him go down on her or when she blew him?


Probably when she was saying she didnt want to do anything with him in the moment

To which he replied "it's no fun unless we are both into it" and got her a cab. Monster!
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Jakyl25
01/14/18 11:12:00 PM
#192:


Seph, what were your thoughts on Trumps Grab em by the pussy, dont even wait strategy?
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Nelson_Mandela
01/14/18 11:12:52 PM
#193:


Anyway maybe someone else wants to weigh in but I'm thoroughly convinced that rock, pxl, and inviso represent the fringes of society who are completely out of touch with the realities of human interaction. Probably no convincing you all otherwise!
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Nelson_Mandela
01/14/18 11:14:26 PM
#194:


Jakyl25 posted...
Seph, what were your thoughts on Trumps Grab em by the pussy, dont even wait strategy?

Literal assault

But if a girl comes home with you and starts hooking up with you after a date? Grab her pussy gently!
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KamikazePotato
01/14/18 11:15:19 PM
#195:


Nelson_Mandela posted...
To which he replied "it's no fun unless we are both into it" and got her a cab. Monster!


Here's the quote in question:

He said, Oh, of course, its only fun if were both having fun. The response was technically very sweet and acknowledging the fact that I was very uncomfortable. Verbally, in that moment, he acknowledged that I needed to take it slow. Then he said, Lets just chill over here on the couch.


In between him saying this and calling a cab, these things happened:

Ansari instructed her to turn around. He sat back and pointed to his penis and motioned for me to go down on him. And I did. I think I just felt really pressured. It was literally the most unexpected thing I thought would happen at that moment because I told him I was uncomfortable.


Halfway into the encounter, he led her from the couch to a different part of his apartment. He said he had to show her something. Then he brought her to a large mirror, bent her over and asked her again, Where do you want me to fuck you? Do you want me to fuck you right here? He rammed his penis against her ass while he said it, pantomiming intercourse.


While the TV played in the background, he kissed her again, stuck his fingers down her throat again, and moved to undo her pants. She turned away. She remembers feeling in a different mindset at that point.


I remember saying, You guys are all the same, you guys are all the fucking same. Ansari asked her what she meant. When she turned to answer, she says he met her with gross, forceful kisses.

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TheRock1525
01/14/18 11:15:48 PM
#196:


Nelson_Mandela posted...
TheRock1525 posted...
Nelson_Mandela posted...
TheRock1525 posted...
Most of the persistence should occur long before you're alone with another person.

Ugh Jesus


Sorry that I'm much better at winning women over that they want me to come back and fuck them instead of inviting them over and hoping I can convince them in my house.

Oh so you directly establish that you are going home to have sex while you're out at dinner? Fun!


No, it's more like I respect the woman's desires and therefore let what's going to happen, happen, and don't throw a fit and try to force myself onto her if she doesn't want to.

And that method has worked out fine.
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Not_an_Owl
01/14/18 11:16:46 PM
#197:


Nelson_Mandela posted...
TheRock1525 posted...
I trust myself enough to not have to work a no into a yes.

That kind of attitude would be a major turn off for the majority of women I know

Do you have a single argument that isn't based on anecdotal evidence?
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Nelson_Mandela
01/14/18 11:17:57 PM
#198:


TheRock1525 posted...
Nelson_Mandela posted...
TheRock1525 posted...
Nelson_Mandela posted...
TheRock1525 posted...
Most of the persistence should occur long before you're alone with another person.

Ugh Jesus


Sorry that I'm much better at winning women over that they want me to come back and fuck them instead of inviting them over and hoping I can convince them in my house.

Oh so you directly establish that you are going home to have sex while you're out at dinner? Fun!


No, it's more like I respect the woman's desires and therefore let what's going to happen, happen, and don't throw a fit and try to force myself onto her if she doesn't want to.

And that method has worked out fine.

Try it the other way sometime. It's a great feeling to touch someone the right way to make them change their mind and decide that they now want to have sex. Again, that's kinda the point of foreplay.
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Nelson_Mandela
01/14/18 11:18:38 PM
#199:


Not_an_Owl posted...
Nelson_Mandela posted...
TheRock1525 posted...
I trust myself enough to not have to work a no into a yes.

That kind of attitude would be a major turn off for the majority of women I know

Do you have a single argument that isn't based on anecdotal evidence?

Like what? Statistics of anecdotal preferences?
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scarletspeed7
01/14/18 11:19:33 PM
#200:


Isn't the bigger news that Jean Ralphio is less of a perv than Tommy Haverford?
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NFUN
01/14/18 11:27:47 PM
#201:


scarletspeed7 posted...
Isn't the bigger news that Jean Ralphio is less of a perv than Tommy Haverford?

holy shit
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CaptainOfCrush
01/14/18 11:32:39 PM
#202:


I'm with Seph here. Aziz doesn't sound like a predator - just a dude who tried to get more than she was offering, but what was done appeared (even from her account solely) consensual. Then she left and he never restrained her from doing so. The account suggests a girl who regretted the whole evening and decided to ruin his character because of it.

And I'm sorry, but the line about the wine immediately jumped out to me as ridiculous.

"The wine was white. I like red and didn't get to choose, but it was wine."

Who the fuck writes like that UNLESS they're trying to insinuate something?

Hope the poor bug eyed dude doesn't lose his career over this, but it doesn't seem like he will.
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