Poll of the Day > I'm alone, don't know how to make friends, and have no time for friends.

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EclairReturns
03/14/18 2:22:27 AM
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I'm always either at school, at work, or doing homework, and I can't really find the time to make any friends or hang out with anyone. Even if I did have the time or energy to make friends, it's not like I'm good at socializing, anyway. I never make eye-contact with people I am talking to, I never smile (I scowl ninety-percent of the time I'm doing regular stuff), and the only thing I contribute to a conversation is one-sentence, or one-word replies. I never have anything to talk about, I never have anything I want to talk about, and the only thing I'm good at talking about is homework, and hardly anyone wants to talk about that. I'm not an interesting person at all, so I can't talk about myself even if I wanted to. There's nothing to talk about. I just suck at socializing, and I freak out sometimes when I don't know what to say, when I don't know how to respond to anything people say, if I said something weird, or if I said nothing at all when I should have been saying something useful to the conversation. Sometimes, I feel like I cannot even relate to the people I go to school with, at all. And forget talking to people at my work, because they like me already (or pretend to). I'm afraid in general, that the more people know about me, the more they will find out about me, and the more reasons they will find to dislike me. Then I go home, unable to relax because I'm lonely, and with few sources of comfort and means of keeping myself busy to distract myself from thinking about my routine of going to work, going to school, and going home, that's enough to make me feel trapped, and feel like I want to sulk about everything that's wrong with me. So do you think I should have spaced this paragraph out like a normal person?

I must have these answers.
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Zeus
03/14/18 2:42:42 AM
#2:


EclairReturns posted...
I'm always either at school, at work, or doing homework, and I can't really find the time to make any friends or hang out with anyone.


Well, those are two places where you can make friends... Honestly, there are few times as easy to randomly make friends with all sorts of people as when you're in school.

EclairReturns posted...
I never make eye-contact with people I am talking to, I never smile (I scowl ninety-percent of the time I'm doing regular stuff), and the only thing I contribute to a conversation is one-sentence, or one-word replies. I never have anything to talk about, I never have anything I want to talk about, and the only thing I'm good at talking about is homework, and hardly anyone wants to talk about that. I'm not an interesting person at all, so I can't talk about myself even if I wanted to. There's nothing to talk about. I just suck at socializing,


The good news is you can practice *all* of those things until you get better at them.

EclairReturns posted...
I'm afraid in general, that the more people know about me, the more they will find out about me, and the more reasons they will find to dislike me.


And I'm sure you'll dislike people when you get to know them, too. But some people you'll like and some people will like you. Otherwise, it's important to not obsess over others' opinions.

EclairReturns posted...
So do you think I should have spaced this paragraph out like a normal person?


Yes. In fact, if other people had done it, I might have assumed it was a copypasta. Wait, is it a copypasta? You got me again!
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do_ob_tpkillr
03/14/18 2:44:32 AM
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Your life sucks and your life will continue to suck until you die. Alone.

Deal with it.
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TheCyborgNinja
03/14/18 3:09:03 AM
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A lot of things that seem outside your control are within it. Join a club or team or something. Make the time. If you can't find an hour or two in a week to do that, you're not trying. It's an easy way to get comfortable around people because you're not there to make friends, technically, so the pressure is off and it will just happen as everyone gets to know you.
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Yellow
03/14/18 3:12:48 AM
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EclairReturns posted...
one-word replies.

You just wall of texted me.
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Greenfox111
03/14/18 3:39:02 AM
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i feel you dude, im awful at conversations, just awful
sometimes i can get in one or two actually good replies but after that i got nothing
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LittleRoyal
03/14/18 3:39:30 AM
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I will be your friend ^^
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mastermix3000
03/14/18 7:02:51 AM
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Every person who is able to get themselves out of this problem always realize something when they find the solution: they were their only limitation.

Already brought up in this thread you are able to control a lot of those things yourself. If you know your issues why arent you doing anything to fix them?

Not trying to be a dick but you sound silly complaining about things you can change yourself right now. Focus on maintaining eye contact, holding good conversations, meeting new people, etc.

Your life your choice; continue to make long paragraphs or actually do songs to better your life. The only person who can fix this issue is you and you know how. Dont be like the majority who blame crippling anxiety, they just make excuses to cope with their unwillingness to change

I really hope you can get out of your current mentality ASAP
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Akicon
03/14/18 7:14:51 AM
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Just give in to anime girls
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FrozenBananas
03/14/18 8:18:29 AM
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LittleRoyal posted...
I will be your friend ^^

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Sethera
03/14/18 8:25:45 AM
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do_ob_tpkillr posted...
Your life sucks and your life will continue to suck until you die. Alone.

Deal with it.

You're a disgusting person. If you died alone, no one would care.
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mastermix3000
03/14/18 8:58:23 AM
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Sethera posted...
do_ob_tpkillr posted...
Your life sucks and your life will continue to suck until you die. Alone.

Deal with it.

You're a disgusting person. If you died alone, no one would care.


wow, yea idk why people post things like this

Can we be more positive, seriously
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Sethera
03/14/18 9:20:26 AM
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mastermix3000 posted...
wow, yea idk why people post things like this

Some people forget they're interacting with actual humans.

mastermix3000 posted...
Can we be more positive, seriously

Positivity on GameFAQs is rare.
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EvilMegas
03/14/18 10:15:56 AM
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Stop making salty johns and just do the thing.
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SusanGreenEyes
03/14/18 10:18:49 AM
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Eclair, if you add me on Facebook I will chat with you on messenger.
We can have conversations and work on social skills together.
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EclairReturns
03/14/18 11:37:40 PM
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Zeus posted...
And I'm sure you'll dislike people when you get to know them, too. But some people you'll like and some people will like you. Otherwise, it's important to not obsess over others' opinions.


I'm just very self-conscious about what others think of me. ><

TheCyborgNinja posted...
Join a club


I wish I could find one that only met on Tuesdays and Sundays because those are the only days I don't have work, or lab.

mastermix3000 posted...
Focus on maintaining eye contact, holding good conversations, meeting new people, etc.


I just get really nervous when I make eye contact with people I talk with (which is probably something I should keep in mind for something else). I'm not really a conversationalist, either; but I suppose I can just start by talking to the bloke nearest me in class, or something... Of course, when I used to see my therapist, or whenever I made these topics before, I made similar promises to myself but always gave up sometime after. So there's that. >>

SusanGreenEyes posted...
add me on Facebook


No, thank you. //////

Yellow posted...
You just wall of texted me.


Yeah, but I wouldn't be able to do that in real life unless I were talking about math.
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RCtheWSBC
03/14/18 11:45:17 PM
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See a professional therapist.
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wwinterj25
03/15/18 12:03:37 AM
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Social anxiety sounds terrible. I assume that's what this is. Not sure what advice to give other than I wouldn't be worried what others think of you and generic lines like "be yourself". I know it's not that simple. Still you'll always be in this bubble you've got yourself into if you don't at least attempt to make conversation with people. It doesn't even have to be about anything interesting. Most people talk about random stuff all the time. Hell you could even practice talking to people online with webcams or whatever. I read posts like this and kinda wish I could go for a beer or whatever with the poster and help them with their problems or at least try to.
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Revelation34
03/15/18 12:12:09 AM
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Sethera posted...
You're a disgusting person. If you died alone, no one would care.


The irony of you doing the exact same thing they did is pretty funny.
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Sethera
03/15/18 3:38:02 AM
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@Revelation34 posted...
Sethera posted...
You're a disgusting person. If you died alone, no one would care.


The irony of you doing the exact same thing they did is pretty funny.

You know I actually thought of the "only the Sith deal in absolutes" paradox while writing this post.
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AllstarSniper32
03/15/18 3:42:33 AM
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EclairReturns posted...
SusanGreenEyes posted...
add me on Facebook

No, thank you. //////

This seems to be a problem with your social skills.
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Alexandra_Trent
03/15/18 4:56:07 AM
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LittleRoyal posted...
I will be your friend ^^

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SmokeMassTree
03/15/18 5:05:54 AM
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SusanGreenEyes posted...
Eclair, if you add me on Facebook I will chat with you on messenger.
We can have conversations and work on social skills together.


It's odd how much you're pushing to be friends with people on Facebook.
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Sethera
03/15/18 5:16:06 AM
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SmokeMassTree posted...
SusanGreenEyes posted...
Eclair, if you add me on Facebook I will chat with you on messenger.
We can have conversations and work on social skills together.


It's odd how much you're pushing to be friends with people on Facebook.

Undercover Zuckerberg on GameFAQs?
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SusanGreenEyes
03/15/18 7:43:27 AM
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SmokeMassTree posted...
SusanGreenEyes posted...
Eclair, if you add me on Facebook I will chat with you on messenger.
We can have conversations and work on social skills together.


It's odd how much you're pushing to be friends with people on Facebook.

I'm not though.
Ziggi left as far as I know, and put the offer out there.
My reasoning with Eclair was to work on social skills via what amounts to a texting app.
Those are only 2 offers.
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AllstarSniper32
03/15/18 8:43:27 AM
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SusanGreenEyes posted...
SmokeMassTree posted...
SusanGreenEyes posted...
Eclair, if you add me on Facebook I will chat with you on messenger.
We can have conversations and work on social skills together.

It's odd how much you're pushing to be friends with people on Facebook.

I'm not though.
Ziggi left as far as I know, and put the offer out there.
My reasoning with Eclair was to work on social skills via what amounts to a texting app.
Those are only 2 offers.

It's best to not bother with SMT. Logic won't get through.
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SusanGreenEyes
03/15/18 8:52:02 AM
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AllstarSniper32 posted...
SusanGreenEyes posted...
SmokeMassTree posted...
SusanGreenEyes posted...
Eclair, if you add me on Facebook I will chat with you on messenger.
We can have conversations and work on social skills together.

It's odd how much you're pushing to be friends with people on Facebook.

I'm not though.
Ziggi left as far as I know, and put the offer out there.
My reasoning with Eclair was to work on social skills via what amounts to a texting app.
Those are only 2 offers.

It's best to not bother with SMT. Logic won't get through.

He doesn't bother me. It's okay.
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shadowsword87
03/15/18 8:55:17 AM
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Dungeons and Dragons group on Sunday?
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Bear
03/15/18 11:41:09 AM
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go take a walk occasionally
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Zeus
03/15/18 10:04:18 PM
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EclairReturns posted...
Zeus posted...
And I'm sure you'll dislike people when you get to know them, too. But some people you'll like and some people will like you. Otherwise, it's important to not obsess over others' opinions.


I'm just very self-conscious about what others think of me. ><


The only opinion that matters is your own... and, well, to a much lesser extent that of employers, loved ones, and colleagues. But mostly your opinion. That's not to say that you shouldn't step up when people are maligning you, but you shouldn't limit yourself simply because you suspect people will think less of you. Otherwise once you get comfortable with being uncomfortable, you'll find it easier to be assertive which will give you a bit of an advantage in life.
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