Current Events > One thing that sucks about being one of the only single guys in a group is...

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My friend's wives or girlfriends always trying to set me up with their fat/ugly friends. I can go to a local club and can pull average to slightly above average chicks on some weekends with minimal effort, and my friend's wives are trying to set me up these ugly girls.

About a year ago I ended a two and half year relationship with a decent looking girl and not even a week later the wife of a friend tried setting me up with a whale. She told me "You guys would look so cute together. She would make you happy." Thankfully then I had the excuse that I was still hurting and wasn't ready to get back onto the dating scene, which was actually true. But now I can't use that excuse and I'm too nice to just shoot them down. My only saving grace is that I've been working 7 days a week and I don't have time to waste my money on these girls I have no interest in meeting.

I'm no Chris Hemsworth, but being 6'3" and only roughly 230 llbs, I know I can and have done much better.

Just today a co-worker told me to friend request this girl that she "just knows I'll love". I find the girl on facebook and of course she's ugly. So now I've got to think of an excuse to tell my co-worker on why I have no interest in her friend.
/rant
tl;dr I'm a shallow jerk that doesn't want to date fat chicks.
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Just tell them youre not attracted to their friends??
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AABLMD82 posted...

Just tell them youre not attracted to their friends??

jackgunney posted...

I'm too nice to just shoot them down

It's stupid I know, but that's just how I am.
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jackgunney posted...

It's stupid I know, but that's just how I am.

It's cowardly. You say you're worth better so make that clear to your friends. IF you want them to help you.

Of course, this is me speaking from a place where in my thirty-nine years of life people have tried to set me up with someone else all of twice. The first time they didn't know I was already going out with someone, and the second time it just didn't work out.

It's entirely possible I'm undateable and they're too nice to tell me.
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Sorry, Im not interested. Dont go into details, and thats all that needs to be said. If they pester you, just repeat the same phrase but in a different way.
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Just tell them you'd rather search on your own but you appreciate the effort. I know the feeling of being put in those lose/lose situations. Either go on dates that you dont wanna go on with people you're not attracted to or piss of your friends' SOs. Although odds are your friends wives/gfs are looking out for their friends more than you anyways, especially if they're all unattractive, but they shouldn't use you as the go to solution all the time just because you're available, that's kind of a dick move. Find a way to get that point across.
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CyricZ posted...

IF you want them to help you.

I don't and I've told them that but they think they know what's best.
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jackgunney posted...

CyricZ posted...

IF you want them to help you.

I don't and I've told them that but they think they know what's best.

Bummer. You're on your own on that one.
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CyricZ posted...

jackgunney posted...

It's stupid I know, but that's just how I am.

It's cowardly. You say you're worth better so make that clear to your friends. IF you want them to help you.

Of course, this is me speaking from a place where in my thirty-nine years of life people have tried to set me up with someone else all of twice. The first time they didn't know I was already going out with someone, and the second time it just didn't work out.

It's entirely possible I'm undateable and they're too nice to tell me.

There are ways to communicate value without explicitly telling others you wont date wonen because of their weight. Its also possible TC could alienate himself if the friends that are suggesting these women have closer ties to the suggested woman than with TC.

TLDR: Tact isnt cowardly
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Deedice posted...

CyricZ posted...

jackgunney posted...

It's stupid I know, but that's just how I am.

It's cowardly. You say you're worth better so make that clear to your friends. IF you want them to help you.

Of course, this is me speaking from a place where in my thirty-nine years of life people have tried to set me up with someone else all of twice. The first time they didn't know I was already going out with someone, and the second time it just didn't work out.

It's entirely possible I'm undateable and they're too nice to tell me.

There are ways to communicate value without explicitly telling others you wont date wonen because of their weight. Its also possible TC could alienate himself if the friends that are suggesting these women have closer ties to the suggested woman than with TC.

TLDR: Tact isnt cowardly

Agreed so long as you arent careful to the point of sending mixed signals, which Ive unfortunately done a couple times.
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I was the single guy in our group for a long time, and no one ever tried to set me up. I wish they had. I was not picky, just shy.
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eston posted...

I was not picky, just shy.

Low self-esteem, here.

But hey, good on you for finding someone. :)
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eston posted...

I wish they had

Back when my friends first started dating their significant others I did too.

eston posted...

I was not picky, just shy.

I've been there too.
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