Poll of the Day > I just found out my sister has lost the Christmas present I got her last year.

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I got her a PSN card worth fifty American dollars, and she told me yesterday that she has lost it. I got it for her in hopes that she would use the PS3 more often (which I also gave to her as a Christmas gift), but she never got around to using it. Eleven months later, she tells me that she hasn't used it. I ask her if she still has it. She answers yes. Then I ask her if she knows where it is, but she doesn't answer me. I then tell her to tell me when she finds it. Overall, I am tired of trying to be nice to her. First, I give her my PS3 because she wants to play her Japanese cartoon games, which judging by my PSN online account, she hasn't touched since August the twenty-ninth of last year. She even bought a couple of games herself that she never plays.

All she wants to do is play on her phone, which she has an unhealthy addiction to. And if I asked her for the PS3 back, since she wasn't using it, she would just keep whining until I relent and let her keep it so that it continues to collect dust, like it's been doing for well over a year. I mean, she could have returned the PSN card to me if she didn't want it. But no, she has to lose my Christmas present to her, and it just hurts me. Anyway, on one year, we agree to swap Christmas presents, but she gives me a condition for doing so: they must be evenly priced. So I find a mechanical keyboard on sale for thirty-six American dollars, and she finds an action figure from a Japanese cartoon worth thirty-four American dollars. She then tells me to split the difference so that we both pay thirty-five American dollars each.

She really doesn't want to give anybody anything unless she's getting something in return, and it just makes the entire gift-swapping process more of an obligation rather than a gesture of good will. I'm sick of being nice to her, and I'm starting to dislike Christmas because of it. She's selfish, lazy, and just a horrible person, which makes me very difficult for me to like her even though I'm chided repeatedly by my mother to get along with her. It's irritating, which is partially why I really want to move out of here... Anyway, what should I get her for Christmas this year? Something that won't cost me money? Something that will? Or nothing at all, to send the message that I am sick of her nonsense and selfishness?

I must have these answers.
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Stop saying American dollars

Stop not breaking up your wall of text
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Do whatever you feel like man. If gift giving is making you feel miserable then simply don't do it. I just put money in a Christmas card myself and don't expect anything back although my sister often does return the gesture despite not seeing her and her kids as much as I'd like these days. My brother on the other hand doesn't do Christmas or Birthdays so I give him nothing. I mean when I have gave him money and a card last year he just gave it me back so why bother? I see my brother frequently though so meh.
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If thats how you feel about it id say no. Whatever suits you though.
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You do you, man. If you're so hung up and miserable thinking about having to give her a Christmas gift, then don't do it, I guess. But please tell us you're not actually holding the $2 difference in gift prices from a previous year against her. That's just ridiculous.

I do see where you're coming from, though, but more from the opposite side of the ordeal. When asked about gift ideas last year, I basically just threw together a bunch of ideas and said "here's a bunch of ideas, any one will do". And come Christmas, my family collectively chewed me out because they assumed I was asking for everything on the list, even though I clearly mentioned I didn't expect all of it for a second. Hence, why I'm just not participating in Christmas this year, minus small gift exchanges with my friends.

speaking of unhealthy, stop being so obsessed over your sister
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Why in the hell would you even consider getting a gift for someone you don't like, and who cannot aid you in your professional life? Also, the only gift you should give an adult is cash, unless you have specific access to discounts that cannot be easily shared (like 25% off of the price of a car, for working for the manufacturer or something).
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Both of you sound pretty absurd in this story. You don't give somebody a gift expecting to get it back if they don't use it. Also, nobody really wants to receive your secondhand PS3 and feel like you were too cheap to actually spend money on a gift for them. If you already had a PS3 you could've just let her borrow it outside of being a gift. Once you made it a gift, you gave up your right to possess it. She also sounds dumb for wanting it and then never using it but I wouldn't be surprised if you're misrepresenting how much she actually wanted to use it. Her splitting hairs over $36 vs. $34 is pretty dumb.

To answer the question, do whatever you feel like, I don't know your relationship with your sister. If you do get her something, maybe just make it like a gift card and/or some food since those are things you know at least everyone will find a use for.

MisterXiado posted...

Why in the hell would you even consider getting a gift for someone you don't like, and who cannot aid you in your professional life? Also, the only gift you should give an adult is cash, unless you have specific access to discounts that cannot be easily shared (like 25% off of the price of a car, for working for the manufacturer or something).

I don't get this post, is this serious, are you making fun of something TC had said previously? Why does somebody have to aid your professional life for a gift? What makes you think adults only want cash?

Chewster posted...

You don't give somebody a gift expecting to get it back if they don't use it.

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Also if she likes anime games but prefers something small and portable like a phone then wouldn't a Vita have made more sense

MisterXiado posted...

Why in the hell would you even consider getting a gift for someone you don't like, and who cannot aid you in your professional life? Also, the only gift you should give an adult is cash, unless you have specific access to discounts that cannot be easily shared (like 25% off of the price of a car, for working for the manufacturer or something).

Why would you just get them cash. Especially when theyre going to mostly just give it back. I can understand giving someone a gift card, but cash is even worse. Might as well not get them anything at that point...
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You sound way too resentful of your sister

Maybe chill
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Eh, some people do like receiving cash, but personally I don't. However, it's probably not a bad idea for Eclair to give some since he sounds like a poor gift-giver. Though a gift card to Walmart/Target/Amazon is better since it's basically like cash at that point but shows a little bit of effort.

Chewster posted...

Eh, some people do like receiving cash, but personally I don't. However, it's probably not a bad idea for Eclair to give some since he sounds like a poor gift-giver. Though a gift card to Walmart/Target/Amazon is better since it's basically like cash at that point but shows a little bit of effort.

Amazon would be good, I think. But I dont think Eclair is a poor gift giver. I mean, PS3 isnt bad gift, nor is the $50 PSN card. I think his sister my be a poor gift receiver, though...
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He didn't give her a PS3 though. He basically loaned one he already owned to her and considered it a gift. She isn't obligated to use it. It would be nice of her to use it, but it doesn't entitle him to get it back. Somebody must have fucked up in communication to give him the idea it was a good gift, but I don't know who. Just based on his post history here though, we know that Eclair isn't exactly very good at picking up cues.

Just make her cookies or something and stop getting your panties in a knot over "fairness" and "obligation."