Poll of the Day > Is infertility a dealbreaker?

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If you found out your partner couldnt have kids, would that be a dealbreaker?

What if you were dating, but it wasnt a serious relationship yet? Would you end things?

adoption so no

No I'd love it
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Jen0125 posted...

No I'd love it

unsure
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I never wanted kids, but ex wife convinced me into having one. Tried getting fixed but doctors refused, saying I was too young

My Wife convinced me to have another baby, and I finally got a doctor who was willing to do the surgery.

Never would have been a deal breaker for me. I love my kids but I tried not having any for a long time.

I think I might be infertile :(

i don't want kids, so no
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Infertility is a bonus for me.
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MrMelodramatic posted...

I think I might be infertile :(

Then go get a count done. Plenty of insurances cover things related to fertility and treatments

Depends how hot she is

Nope.
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Sounds like a bonus to me

It has always been a bonus to me. Never wanted kids. Her wa ting kids would have been a deal breaker for me. Not immediately, but the relationship would o ly be a temporary one if having kids were a requirement for her.


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CTLM posted...

MrMelodramatic posted...

I think I might be infertile :(

Then go get a count done. Plenty of insurances cover things related to fertility and treatments

Lol I dont have insurance

Preferred. I have decided I do not want kids.
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As long as it doesn't include any other complications.
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Not if we were married.

No. We would have adopted.

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Not if we're married.
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Nope...
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i cannot bear children, so that would be a question more for my partner than for me

i do hope to eventually adopt though, so if that was out of the question for them that might be a dealbreaker for me
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argonautweakend posted...

Jen0125 posted...

No I'd love it

Krazy_Kirby posted...

i don't want kids, so no

Moonjay posted...

Infertility is a bonus for me.

BlackScythe0 posted...

Sounds like a bonus to me

Bugmeat posted...

It has always been a bonus to me. Never wanted kids. Her wanting kids would have been a deal breaker for me. Not immediately, but the relationship would only be a temporary one if having kids were a requirement for her.

All of the above, here.

I'm kind of surprised so many people here are anti-kids considering how often society seems geared towards forcing couples into marriage and then married couples into having kids, but that's always been my stance.

I actually told my gf on our second date that I was adamantly against both marriage and having kids, so if either of those things were going to be dealbreakers, she should consider moving on. Fortunately, she wasn't keen on it either (in her precise words, she didn't want something growing in her stomach like an alien), so nigh on 20 years later we're still together, unmarried, without kids.
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ParanoidObsessive posted...

I'm kind of surprised so many people here are anti-kids

It's always been pretty anti-kid on this board, though. And these days in general...
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LinkPizza posted...

ParanoidObsessive posted...

I'm kind of surprised so many people here are anti-kids

It's always been pretty anti-kid on this board, though. And these days in general...

Its cuz were a special self-selected subset of the population lol
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MrMelodramatic posted...

I think I might be infertile :(

Don't be sad. Me and my husband are planning on adopting. We could use our siblings but this feels like a better choice.
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Nope.
The deal breaker would be if she wanted to adopt.
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A major deal-breaker, yes. While there are surrogates, etc, I would specifically want both of our bloodlines to combine.

ParanoidObsessive posted...

I'm kind of surprised so many people here are anti-kids considering how often society seems geared towards forcing couples into marriage and then married couples into having kids, but that's always been my stance.

*Is* it that surprising? This community is fairly anomalous.

And society can be fucked, this is a personal want.
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huge bonus
think of all the money we will save on condoms
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That's a selling point dawg.
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Supposedly both of my kids moms were "infertile", one of them was legit stabbed in the uterus and they were deemed unfit to carry a child, lo and behold I still ended up with a perfectly healthy child.
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It was the #1 dealbreaker for me when I was dating. And the same if a girl already had her tubes tied or had kids but didnt want more. Always wanted to have 1 or 2 kids of my own and finally have that now.

EvilMegas posted...

Supposedly both of my kids moms were "infertile", one of them was legit stabbed in the uterus and they were deemed unfit to carry a child, lo and behold I still ended up with a perfectly healthy child.

One reason why I don't rely on being "likely infertile" myself. My mom was supposedly infertile and here I am.
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No but at the same time I wanna have one or two children and now i have one on the way. I feel like a lot of people who say they dont want kids will regret not having any when they get older but to each their own

OhhhJa posted...

I feel like a lot of people who say they dont want kids will regret not having any when they get older

You only think that because you can only see the subject from your own point of view. Unable to comprehend how others can feel differently than yourself. Not surprising really. Your posts often have a narcissistic vibe to them.

TentacleDemon posted...

You only think that because you can only see the subject from your own point of view. Unable to comprehend how others can feel differently than yourself. Not surprising really. Your posts often have a narcissistic vibe to them.

Dang you are mad

OhhhJa posted...

No but at the same time I wanna have one or two children and now i have one on the way. I feel like a lot of people who say they dont want kids will regret not having any when they get older but to each their own

I dont think so. I know people who only really change their mind on having a kid once its on the way. Maybe its the same for you. People who dont want kids may have many reasons. I dont think theyll really regret it as long as they live a good life. Its possible, sure. But I think people usually know what they want.
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I don't want kids, so no that would be fine.
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it's too late, we've already gone through the fertility process successfully, ok?

how many times has your gf gone through the fertility process with other men, tc?
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I would never settle down with a guy that cant even get pregnant
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LinkPizza posted...

I dont think so. I know people who only really change their mind on having a kid once its on the way. Maybe its the same for you. People who dont want kids may have many reasons. I dont think theyll really regret it as long as they live a good life. Its possible, sure. But I think people usually know what they want.

This is very untrue for many people. People change over the course of decades. Everyone has regrets when they get older. Either way, I never said everyone will regret it. I'm quite sure many wont. Having a good relationship with an SO would probably help a lot. But anyway, it's quite well documented (mostly in women) that a lack of children is a fairly common regret. Also, studies have shown that many people who don't want children feel the way they do because of unsatisfying home lives when they were children.

It's not really surprising to me that a lot of people regret not having children when they get older. As you get older, people tend to be more family oriented and arent actively pursuing their life goals or dreams anymore. And if they're unmarried, there's probably some loneliness there that might be alleviated by children

TentacleDemon posted...

OhhhJa posted...

I feel like a lot of people who say they dont want kids will regret not having any when they get older

You only think that because you can only see the subject from your own point of view. Unable to comprehend how others can feel differently than yourself. Not surprising really. Your posts often have a narcissistic vibe to them.

That's pretty unfair. Alot of people do end up regretting not having kids or having kids later in life.

Sure, the opposite is also true but he didn't say anything wrong.
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Oh nvm he said the samething in the above post
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That just means you can have sex anytime without protection.
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I see it as a positive. Who the fuck in their right mind wants kids these days?
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OhhhJa posted...

LinkPizza posted...

I dont think so. I know people who only really change their mind on having a kid once its on the way. Maybe its the same for you. People who dont want kids may have many reasons. I dont think theyll really regret it as long as they live a good life. Its possible, sure. But I think people usually know what they want.

This is very untrue for many people. People change over the course of decades. Everyone has regrets when they get older. Either way, I never said everyone will regret it. I'm quite sure many wont. Having a good relationship with an SO would probably help a lot. But anyway, it's quite well documented (mostly in women) that a lack of children is a fairly common regret. Also, studies have shown that many people who don't want children feel the way they do because of unsatisfying home lives when they were children.

It's not really surprising to me that a lot of people regret not having children when they get older. As you get older, people tend to be more family oriented and arent actively pursuing their life goals or dreams anymore. And if they're unmarried, there's probably some loneliness there that might be alleviated by children

Idk. That still sounds like people know what they want. People can change their minds on what they want. So, they didnt want kids when they were younger. And when they get older, they change their mind and decide they want kids. Technically, they can still get them. And people do regret things, but you can regret anything. You can regret not eating more of a specific food before it was all gone and such. So, maybe youll have some regrets. But I dont think itll always be that much. Maybe like a little itch or something. But Idk. I can only speak about what Ive seen. I just know a lot of people didnt want kid. And then as soon as they knocked someone up, they wanted them...
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GameReviews posted...

I see it as a positive. Who the fuck in their right mind wants kids these days?

People who understand that without children, the human species can't continue. Sure, a lot of dumb dumbs have kids but a lot of pseudo-smart don't and that's a good thing.
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I'm sterile and never wanted crotch goblins anyways
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No. I don't want kids, anyway.
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