Current Events > Why is the woman talking to me instead of her boyfriend?

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This woman who I used to be good friends with started calling me at night to talk about her problems and stuff.

She lives with a whole boyfriend. Wtf she calling me for instead of talking to him about it?

She even said we should do something for Christmas. It sounds like shes tryna find an escape or something. She doesnt talk to him like someone she likes. Its bizarre.

But I dunno. Wouldnt it be weird if your girlfriend is talking to some other guy for hours when yall live together? I might be judging too much.

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Shes not looking to date right now? Well, you fucking get her to look. Make her head turn, stare with big owl eyes and have her mouth water at the exquisite cut of meat that is you. You're a goddamn filet mignon of a man and you better show her.

One good plan is to cut the sleeves off of your shirts on the next date to show off your body. I'm not talking about wear a cut off to the date either. Cut those bitches off at the restaurant. This shows how assertive you are and that you're also have an artsy side.

That Chiles waitress that always touches your arm will let it linger a bit longer. That cashier that hands you your receipt will run it down your bicep before she puts it in your hand. That girl at the ticket booth won't just tear your ticket. Shell tear her lip open from biting it so hard.

After she sees all of the attention you're getting her competitive glands will go into overdrive. Shes all hormones at that point. She literally cant control herself so I hope you're into scat play because you're going to have the kinkiest sex of your life because shes got something to prove.

The following day she will come to her senses and feel like a huge slut. Feel free to use that feeling to manipulate her into thinking that this is the start of something amazing. She will instead feel like this some sort of rom com bullshit and that you are her soulmate because that's better than facing the truth.

Congratulations, you've now got a gf by the end of your second date and you put some feelers out for rebound sex with the staff at the restaurant when it inevitably goes south.

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What the fuck.

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possibly she views you as the friend who can never get with her. it's a superficial way to look at you.

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youre her emotional tampon

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cuttin_in_farm posted...

This woman who I used to be good friends with started calling me at night to talk about her problems and stuff.

She lives with a whole boyfriend. Wtf she calling me for instead of talking to him about it?

That's a good question, because you don't sound like you're a good friend to her.

No_U_L7 posted...

youre her emotional tampon

This, every girl needs one.

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Unless you're getting something out of this I would stop picking up.

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Tenlaar posted...

That's a good question, because you don't sound like you're a good friend to her.

Im crying.

No_U_L7 posted...

youre her emotional tampon

Shit. I thought thats what a boyfriend was for? Shits confusing.

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Tell her you don't owe her any of your time if she ain't feeding, financing, or fucking you. And you already got the first two covered.

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Kolibri X posted...

Unless you're getting something out of this I would stop picking up.

Yea might have to. at first I thought she needed something important. But each time it was just work was stressful or My chest hurts.

Im just... confused. Talk to the dude in the other room.

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cuttin_in_farm posted...

Im crying.

cuttin_in_farm posted...

Im just... confused. Talk to the dude in the other room.

Am I wrong? You say that she was a good friend and yet you act like talking to her about what's going on with her is some kind of burden that you don't understand why you should be dealing with. You are not describing somebody that you consider a friend.

he's already crying don't make him do something desperate

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Maybe for some reason she doesn't feel comfortable talking about things with her boyfriend. Maybe he's one of those types who tunes out everything his gf is talking about? I dunno. I dunno anything about what's going on and I don't want to immediately assume she's using you/misleading you.

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I'm trying not to make assumptions here either but this topic is fairly reeking of "why would I bother talking to a female that I can't fuck."

that's a gross distortion. she's bothering him, literally. you might want to look up the word bothering.

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Wewillrocku posted...

that's a gross distortion. she's bothering him, literally. you might want to look up the word bothering.

cuttin_in_farm posted...

Wtf she calling me for instead of talking to him about it?

cuttin_in_farm posted...

Shit. I thought thats what a boyfriend was for? Shits confusing.

cuttin_in_farm posted...

But each time it was just work was stressful or My chest hurts.

Im just... confused. Talk to the dude in the other room.

She seems to be "bothering" him by looking for a friend to talk to, and if he has no interest in or intention of actually being a friend to her then he should tell her that.

lol you should ask her for pics. she might stop texting you (or else text you several times in a row asking what the hell you mean).

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Dude's going to show up at your house with a baseball bat

And you probably deserve it TBH

cuttin_in_farm posted...

Im crying.

Shit. I thought thats what a boyfriend was for? Shits confusing.

No, boyfriends are for fucking. Why would she want to waste her boyfriends time with that bullshit

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Tenlaar posted...

She seems to be "bothering" him by looking for a friend to talk to, and if he has no interest in or intention of actually being a friend to her then he should tell her that.

If work was stressful, Id think youd tell your boyfriend about it.

Unless she feels the need to tell the same story twice, I dont get why she defaults to me. All Im saying.

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her breasts hurt it's normal to tell your friends that

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cuttin_in_farm posted...

If work was stressful, Id think youd tell your boyfriend about it.

You know when I said this topic reeks of a thing earlier? This is more of it. It's pretty clear that you don't actually give a shit about this person.

Shoulder to cry on turns into a dick to ride on as women say

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No_U_L7 posted...

youre her emotional tampon

Sadly this

You can have a friendship with a woman.

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Instead of asking for advise here, grow a pair and ask her if shes discussed this with her boyfriend. I really dont think this message board is the best place for advice.

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linand458 posted...

Instead of asking for advise here, grow a pair and ask her if shes discussed this with her boyfriend. I really dont think this message board is the best place for advice.

This

Be casual about it though. Be like, "what does (name) think of this?" -- this will prod her to answer with A.) "Oh he thinks XYZ (which means she's telling the same story twice), or B.) "Oh I didn't tell him" (which confirms you are the emotional tampon)

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"Emotional tampon" is an incel as fuck thing to say.

Eventually she's gonna ask you to fight her bf


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linand458 posted...

Instead of asking for advise here, grow a pair and ask her if shes discussed this with her boyfriend. I really dont think this message board is the best place for advice.

Thats pretty obviously rude as it doesnt take a rocket scientist to know thats code for tell him instead.

Im not tryna be an asshole.

PatrickMahomes posted...

Be casual about it though. Be like, "what does (name) think of this?" -- this will prod her to answer with A.) "Oh he thinks XYZ (which means she's telling the same story twice), or B.) "Oh I didn't tell him" (which confirms you are the emotional tampon)

Good idea.

Tenlaar posted...

You know when I said this topic reeks of a thing earlier? This is more of it. It's pretty clear that you don't actually give a shit about this person.

No, I dont give a shit about you actually.

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she clearly wants the D brah.

cuttin_in_farm posted...

Im not tryna be an asshole.

What are you trying to be? What kind of things is she allowed to talk to you about and what kind of stuff are you only willing to listen to a girl talk about if you're fucking her?

Tenlaar posted...

"Emotional tampon" is an incel as fuck thing to say.

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Tenlaar posted...

What are you trying to be? What kind of things is she allowed to talk to you about and what kind of stuff are you only willing to listen to a girl talk about if you're fucking her?

I dont talk to any of my female friends just for them to unload their personal problems.

You want to know who did do that? My exes.

You dont call your friend to talk about your stresses when your boyfriend Is in the same apartment. Hes never actually in the same room either. Its like she wont talk to me with him present. Which is fine, since I want privacy on my calls too. But trying to set up something for Christmas? These things together dont add up.

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Tenlaar posted...

"Emotional tampon" is an incel as fuck thing to say.

Calling anyone an incel at this point is an incel as fuck thing to say
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Calling out an incel for using the word incel is incel as fuck

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Calling out someone for calling out an incel for calling out someone using the word incel is incel as fuck
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The whole boyfriend?!

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NOM posted...

The whole boyfriend?!

This. How can she slap?

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cuttin_in_farm posted...

I dont talk to any of my female friends just for them to unload their personal problems.

Do you have this same policy with male friends? Are your guy friends being problems that you need to go online and look for suggestions about how to deal with when they try to talk to you about personal problems?

Tenlaar posted...

male friends

Tenlaar posted...

talk to you about personal problems?

Lol.

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