Current Events > CE what age did you leave your parents/guardians house and how was it?

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What was the experience of moving out for you like?

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so what if i left them at age 27 iyo

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Most of CE lives rentfree

I was 32. Couldn't exactly move out until I conquered a trauma-related phobia and finally started driving.

Moved in with the girlfriend, we lasted a while, then broke up and stayed friends. She moved away and left me to take care of her old house, since it's in the family. So yeah.

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21

Was fine. I moved about 80km away to the other side of the city. Share house with a few uni friends.

A year later I moved to a new state where I had no friends or family, that was pretty full on. Still here though

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I moved out of my mom's place just before I turned 18, but I moved into my girlfriends parents house. We moved out of there at 20.
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_Sazando_ posted...

so what if i left them at age 27 iyo

What made you decide to wait until then? I can certainly see the benefits but what about the independence of being on your own?

The23rdMagus posted...

I was 32. Couldn't exactly move out until I conquered a trauma-related phobia and finally started driving.

Moved in with the girlfriend, we lasted a while, then broke up and stayed friends. She moved away and left me to take care of her old house, since it's in the family. So yeah.

Glad to hear you were able to overcome something negative in your life like that. So do you currently live in her old house? How does that work?

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OffTempo posted...

Glad to hear you were able to overcome something negative in your life like that. So do you currently live in her old house? How does that work?

Works decent enough. It's a mobile home, so it's already paid for - I just take care of the utilities and let her family know if there's anything I can't fix up myself. It's not glamorous, but it's four walls, a ceiling and an Internet connection, and not a terribly long drive to the office (when I get back there, anyway). I can more or less claim it as my space as long as I don't trash it or thump the bass late at night.

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I moved out when I was 24

It was pretty tough, I was the only person with an income when I moved out and I still support my parents to this day financially 6 years later (my dad is old enough to get SS at least which really helps)

I just couldn't live with em any more as an adult. Didn't see eye to eye


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i wasnt prepared to leave but i did it for me.

i was invincible when i was 19. i took on the world and learned to be self reliant. my mom called every so often to check on me. she even stayed with me after a year for a weekend. after that, she kinda stopped calling.

that's when i started getting homesick again. i lived a few states away even share a freeway. the time off i had traveling home to visit felt great. everybody was kinda in the same place and all. it was good to leave home and learn how to live with myself.

...if i ever have kids of my own, id prepare them as best as i can from my experiences. then one day i hope they can one day tell me how it was and compare our experiences.


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21, Dad had cancer, passed away, mom kicked me out a week later

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I moved out at 19. I lived at home for my first year of college and that was an absolute nightmare. I had a long commute and not many friends, so I would get home late and just be depressed as hell. I was going to have an 8am class the first semester of my sophomore year, and I knew I couldn't make that work with the commute (I would have to leave my house by 6:30am to even have a chance of getting there on time). So, I moved into a really crappy one bedroom one bathroom apartment in the city.

Honestly, it was fantastic. I finally had freedom from my mom (whom I loved, of course, but she was really smothering at times). The first few weeks, I slept on a blowup bed and ate nothing but turkey sandwiches and fudge rounds while watching cartoons and playing video games.

Once school started back, I lived close enough that I could walk to campus on nice days. I went to tons of on-campus events because it was only a ten minute drive away from my apartment. Made lots of friends, had lots of fun experiences (like playing Blackjack for free condoms), and got tons of free stuff (mostly shirts, cups, and food).

I had the quintessential "broke college student" life, but I liked it. Maybe that's the nostalgia talking because I live a much more cozy, but boring life now...

All in all, I think it was pretty good. Maybe my situation is unique because I moved away from a small, rural town to a (comparatively) big city.

a-c-a-b posted...

I moved out of my mom's place just before I turned 18, but I moved into my girlfriends parents house. We moved out of there at 20.

I want to move out at 18 so I'm trying to hear other people's experiences. How was it moving out as soon as you became an adult?

Balrog0 posted...

I moved out when I was 24

It was pretty tough, I was the only person with an income when I moved out and I still support my parents to this day financially 6 years later (my dad is old enough to get SS at least which really helps)

I just couldn't live with em any more as an adult. Didn't see eye to eye

So you were supporting your family as a teenager? What was that experience like if you dont mind me asking.

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12, worked the circuit til I couldnt pass, bounced from underground to underground until I got backdoored to work a tilt a whirl after Johny diggz mysteriously got his mullet caught in teacups

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Technically I haven't. My parents bought some property when I was 12 or 13. We all lived there together.

Later when I was about 24 I think. My parents left. Moved into a different place up the street. Left my brother and me the place we'd been living in. But they'd randomly drop by to be sure we were home(were never allowed to leave).

Eventually after several years they moved back and fixed our barn loft into an apartment for themselves. So currently 2 places on one property, one is mine, one is theirs, I still have 0 freedom.

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KogaSteelfang posted...

Technically I haven't. My parents bought some property when I was 12 or 13. We all lived there together.

Later when I was about 24 I think. My parents left. Moved into a different place up the street. Left my brother and me the place we'd been living in. But they'd randomly drop by to be sure we were home(were never allowed to leave).

Eventually after several years they moved back and fixed our barn loft into an apartment for themselves. So currently 2 places on one property, one is mine, one is theirs, I still have 0 freedom.

Whats stopping you from leaving if you dont mind me asking. Your folks seem pretty controlling.

For the people who moved out around the time they legally became adults do you have any tips for moving out?

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OffTempo posted...

Whats stopping you from leaving if you dont mind me asking. Your folks seem pretty controlling.

For the people who moved out around the time they legally became adults do you have any tips for moving out?

Them being controlling and wanting me where I am. Also, I'm quite easily manipulated and have had my life put on hold repeatedly by their shenanigans. Also, just being broke most of the time too. If they suspect I have money, it suddenly becomes necessary to give it to them and since I'm here rent free, I feel like I have to.

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KogaSteelfang posted...

Them being controlling and wanting me where I am. Also, I'm quite easily manipulated and have had my life put on hold repeatedly by their shenanigans. Also, just being broke most of the time too. If they suspect I have money, it suddenly becomes necessary to give it to them and since I'm here rent free, I feel like I have to.

That's really sad. I hope you can escape someday.

KogaSteelfang posted...

Them being controlling and wanting me where I am. Also, I'm quite easily manipulated and have had my life put on hold repeatedly by their shenanigans. Also, just being broke most of the time too. If they suspect I have money, it suddenly becomes necessary to give it to them and since I'm here rent free, I feel like I have to.

Ahh man I'm sorry to hear that. Do you feel like one day you'll be able to break through and move out?

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@OffTempo nah not since I was a teenager. After I graduated college my mom quit her job and my dad hadn't been working regularly for probably a decade at this point. So I only supported them by myself for a couple years.

I mean it sucked but not because of the finances per se. My parents are addicts who make bad decisions so I've pretty much been the responsible one in the family since I was 4, but once I started being the sole supporter I just couldn't deal with them any more. The thing they did that I most couldn't stand was being really generous with stuff they had no claim to. I know it's super petty but it would really bother me when I'd get home from working two jobs and my dad's friend would be over eating my food or my mom would be watching and feeding one of my cousins many kids. It's one thing if it's infrequently, but it was every day. Like they invited more than one of my relatives or their friends to stay with us. I dunno I just felt that ultimately they were using me without really trying to, just because that's who they are sadly, so I had to go. Can't live your life trying to fix someone else

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I live with them now. I pay them a low rent ($350 a month) to help out.

I've lived on my own at different points in my life; had a truck driving job in mid 2007-early 2008 (didn't have my own place, I lived in my vehicle), had an apartment in late 2008-early 2010, went back to college from mid 2011-mid 2016, stayed in a hotel from late 2017-mid 2018 (couldn't get an actual apartment and it got too expensive). I'm probably going to move out later this year. Don't know exactly when because of the pandemic going on.

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I was 18, went to boot camp, and it was really stressful because I had never spent more than like a day away from home and especially never in an environment like that (I literally never used shower rooms after PE in high school, for instance, and I never even used the bathrooms at school).

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17 to go to university. Been back and forth since then.

I was 24 when I left the last time. I'm 28 now.

I moved out when I was 24, and lived at home for 3 years of community college and 2 years of university. Although I didn't get to enjoy the "college life", I did get to save a ton of money between CC and living at home. It was definitely worth it because I didn't have any debt when I graduated.

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18, got an apt, & it was fine.

moved to the city when i was 23 (after college i moved back in with my parents as well). still only like a half hour from them so i see them pretty regularly

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Does college count? If so 18. If not 21.

I loved moving out. My dad tried to make me move back home senior year because my grades were slipping. But I wouldn't have it. I needed the freedom.

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I first moved out at 19, to a different state. That ended up being little more than an extended vacation though... had some followed some friends down to where they were going to college, never put much effort into finding a job, ended up coming home when the semester ended. Stayed back with the parents for a few months before finding my own place (20 at this point) and moving out for good.
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Rented a house with my gf at the time when I was 19 and about to start training as a nurse, dropped out but her job and housing benefit (government pays for the rent) was enough to stay. Lived away from my dad ever since then. Lived with my ex, her and our daughter, just me and my daughter, alone and now with my fiancee and their daughter. I'm unlikely to ever own a home but social housing is decent in this country.

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18 for collegeWas on a private scholarship but my parents paid the remainder they so idk if that counts.

22 otherwise

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Gonna assume undergrad for me doesn't count since when school wasn't in session 3 hours away I was still living at home. So in that case it would be when I started grad school a few months before turning 22 since I lived 10+ hours away year round. I used my parents' address as my permanent address for those 5.5 years. Lived with them for 5 months after that before I got a job in Maryland as a contractor, and then when I converted to an employee 2.5 years later I stopped using their home as my permanent address.

Nothing special on my end since I was only terrified of leaving home when I started undergrad but I got over it in like 2 days lol. After tasting that freedom I couldn't go back, and the 5 months living at home after grad school was hell for me even though my parents weren't a problem

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Damn you guys got me fiendin for that day where I can claim that freedom. I'm thinking I'll probably stay home for the first 2 years of community college and when I get transferred to uni I'll move out. Still up in the air but we'll see where life goes.

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Moved out when I was 23, was pretty happy about. I really miss my mom's cooking though