Current Events > Girl lashed out at me on Insta because I didnt ask permission to DM her

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Jfc is this even real right now

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Cornhuskers posted...

Hey guyys i'm getting an Elliot Rodger vibe from this.

Cornhuskers out.

Ok for one this is dark af. I dont know why this would come to mind.

Two, Ive been with 40+ girls and just got out of a year and a half relationship early in the summer. Not some incel.

Three, one of the few reasons I chose not to go to UCSB is because that particular shooting gave me bad vibes. Thanks for open up old wounds champ.

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You reacted poorly. I do the same thing sometimes. Best if you had left the convo as soon as she rejected your approach I think.

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nfearurspecimn posted...

You reacted poorly. I do the same thing sometimes. Best if you had left the convo as soon as she rejected your approach I think.

for the love of god I wish I did. This topic is making me feel depressed as shit right now.

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Guys that have been with 40+ girls don't pull creeper moves like this, the fact that you posted this at all is a build up of ongoing rejection and frustration. If you were some alpha, you wouldn't have so much insecurity about this encounter to come post it on CE for advice, you'd brush it off and move on. I'm calling complete bullshit.

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it's OK, you will feel better after time has passed

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clyde_frog posted...

I. Am. Such. A. Dumbass. Made the correction in my op.

Yeah you still forgot to remove it from the bottom message so. Hopefully no one hits up this poor girl to tell her about some pathetic dude whining about her on a video game message board.

clyde_frog posted...

Also the bio screenshot is a different girl.

So the bio (which doesnt even explicitly ask you to hit the girl who made it outside of Bumble for the record) you tried to pass off as justification for messaging this total stranger out of nowhere wasnt even her profile. Youre really trying to not look like scum here huh.

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real inCEl hours

MrToothHasYou posted...

So the bio (which doesnt even explicitly ask you to hit the girl who made it outside of Bumble for the record) you tried to pass off as justification for messaging this total stranger out of nowhere wasnt even her profile. Youre really trying to not look like scum here huh.

yeah wtf? that's a huge YIKES

I still think this might be fake and pulled off of some other site. I hope.

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Also just want to take a moment to point out that you completely disregard and laugh at the actual girl you were trying to talk to telling you you were acting like a creep by blatantly disregarding the boundaries set up by the Bumble app, but when I say pretty much exactly the same thing youre like wow dude really? :( I didnt know

Again I have to reiterate that I dont believe any of this is real but obviously there are guys out there with this mindset because anyone who listens to women talk about their experiences on dating apps for any reasonable length of time will know this shit is happening constantly.

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MabusIncarnate posted...

Guys that have been with 40+ girls don't pull creeper moves like this, the fact that you posted this at all is a build up of ongoing rejection and frustration. If you were some alpha, you wouldn't have so much insecurity about this encounter to come post it on CE for advice, you'd brush it off and move on. I'm calling complete bullshit.

Im actually ashamed of my body count. Im not like most guys that will brag about that kind of thing. but if a stranger is going to trying to label me inaccurately, Im going to set the record straight.

Also Ive always been emotionally fragile even when I have no reason to be. Thats why something like this really gets to me. But obviously I didnt exactly handle it well myself.

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Have you thought about getting a therapist? Do you have health insurance? I recommend trying it out. Doesn't mean you're a bad person.

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You sure are swimming in pussy Clyde Frog

Yes I really am Polly Prissy Pants

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MrToothHasYou posted...

Also just want to take a moment to point out that you completely disregard and laugh at the actual girl you were trying to talk to telling you you were acting like a creep by blatantly disregarding the boundaries set up by the Bumble app, but when I say pretty much exactly the same thing youre like wow dude really? :( I didnt know

Again I have to reiterate that I dont believe any of this is real but obviously there are guys out there with this mindset because anyone who listens to women talk about their experiences on dating apps for any reasonable length of time will know this shit is happening constantly.

youre right

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Tell her she'd be way more attractive if she had a lisp.

Jesus...

I just read through the entire conversation we had and I see exactly what all of you mean. I guess I got caught up with her personal attacks and its want I egged her on. But god that was really crummy of me. I want to erase the last 2 hours of my life.

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TC, you're probably gonna get suspended for this.

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Great. I cant delete the topic now.

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The boundaries of the Bumble app only apply to Bumble.

If you don't want to be contacted elsewhere, don't link that stuff. It's not hard.
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clyde_frog posted...

Great. I cant delete the topic now.

censor your a-word insult

I swear I honestly didn't think this was real, because you seemed pretty cool with the ladies from what I've seen. Don't let this get to you too much. People make mistakes. The difference is learning from them and not repeating the same mistakes over and over again.

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Twelf posted...

If you don't want to be contacted elsewhere, don't link that stuff. It's not hard.

Thats some rapist logic right there. If she didnt want to fuck she shouldnt have invited me up to her place.

Not saying youre a rapist, Im sure youve probably never raped anybody, but thats the logic a rapist will use to justify victimizing someone.

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Twelf posted...

The boundaries of the Bumble app only apply to Bumble.

If you don't want to be contacted elsewhere, don't link that stuff. It's not hard.

You continuing on isn't helping. Stop supporting and encouraging shit behavior.

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What a dumpster fire

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I don't think I've ever seen so many white knights and beta males gathered in one topic.

Want to know your mistake TC? Admitting you saw her on bumble, if you had left out that piece of information it wouldn't matter. Lots of people DM random strangers, and if you liked a girl but didn't match with her but she had her Instagram and you could just randomly DM her to see if she's willing to give you a shot, why in the world wouldn't you do it? You don't want to be "creepy?" dude shut up, we're like 30 years old, and girls on your fb are promoting their only fans accounts to their network so guys can beat their wieners to lame videos of these chicks that have nothing to offer to this world except being eye candy. DM all the girls you want on insta who you don't match with dog, the worse that can happen is she says no. But please for the love of God don't tell them you saw them on a dating app, didn't match with them, and proceeded to DM them because you liked them.

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MrToothHasYou posted...

Thats some rapist logic right there. If she didnt want to fuck she shouldnt have invited me up to her place.

Not saying youre a rapist, Im sure youve probably never raped anybody, but thats the logic a rapist will use to justify victimizing someone.

Idk what your guys fascination is with disturbingly dark analogies. I said hello to a girl that didnt want me talking to her. If its not comparable then it can be left out of the conversation.

Ive already accepted that I could have gone about this in a different way. I messed up and Ill be better next time. We dont need to keep going on about it.

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clyde_frog posted...

Great. I cant delete the topic now.

Just stop replying to people and posting. Once 20 minutes pass without someone posting in it, close the topic. Itll purge in 2 days.

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so this is what the other side of r/creepypms looks like

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Jesus,

Might as well find out where she lives and where she works too and go say hi. Since you clearly dont know boundaries and just decided to stalk people.

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If you guys think saying hi to a random person is inappropriate then damn y'all are going to be single for a long time

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im not 13 posted...

If you guys think saying hi to a random person is inappropriate then damn y'all are going to be single for a long time

Yeah, saying hi to someone is stalking them according to @I4NRulez

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im not 13 posted...

If you guys think saying hi to a random person is inappropriate then damn y'all are going to be single for a long time

saying "hi" to a stranger is not inappropriate. going over someone's head to dm them on another site because they swiped left or left you on read and then calling them autistic is inappropriate

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Frolex posted...

saying "hi" to a stranger is not inappropriate. going over someone's head to dm them on another site because they swiped left or left you on read and then calling them autistic is inappropriate

Tc didn't say all that. He said he saw her ig profile and decided to message. Why has a line been drawn from communicating from one social platform to another?

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She insulted him first. At that point all bets are off.

Keep it civil.
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ngl tc you are prolly ugly af. girls don't act that way towards handsome dudes

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Vicious_Dios posted...

Sounds like the both of you dodged a bullet.

nah only the girl did

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BoyOfBattle posted...

ngl tc you are prolly ugly af. girls don't act that way towards handsome dudes

pics of tc

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BoyOfBattle posted...

ngl tc you are prolly ugly af. girls don't act that way towards handsome dudes

Well if you zoom the pic you can see that she's also ugly. Sounds like a match.
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Frolex posted...

saying "hi" to a stranger is not inappropriate. going over someone's head to dm them on another site because they swiped left or left you on read and then calling them autistic is inappropriate

That girl was extremely rude to him. Stop being a white knight. This dude literally just showed all you guys struggling with online dating how to get more matches with attractive girls and you're all saying he's a creep for showing some actual balls. We aren't 15 years old anymore, there are guys who dm random chicks on insta or fb and fly them out for the weekend and have sex with them... Do you guys live on planet of the beta males? How will you ever reproduce if you think approaching a woman by texting them is an actual barrier for you? I can understand in person, but a text message through the phone? Do you guys feel that powerless against the opposite sex?

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Twelf posted...

Well if you zoom the pic you can see that she's also ugly. Sounds like a match.

lmao ! true true

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lincoln002 posted...

you're all saying he's a creep

I don't think he's a creep, just that he reacted to it poorly

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BoyOfBattle posted...

ngl tc you are prolly ugly af. girls don't act that way towards handsome dudes

this was literally my profile pic on insta, but obviously the girl was cropped even more since theyre circular.

Ive posted myself on here before. I dont have anything to hide.



heres me with a beard currently

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you're obviously attractive, some people have rules for how they want to be treated though, and you just have to accept that I guess. maybe you can figure out some way to bolster your fragility

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You're not ugly brother, that girl has some mental issues. You need to ask permission to send a dm? You would have to send her a dm for that... Female logic.

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nfearurspecimn posted...

you are very attractive. it's a shame you are emotionally fragile. maybe you can figure out some ways to cope with that.

Im just more sensitive than the average guy. I dont think Im overly emotional, I may have been a hyperbolic with that description. But yeah idk. Its something Ive always had to deal with.

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Incoming catboy DM TC watch out, he's gonna ask for more pics

You gave him a spec of attention, he's gonna try to move in

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im not 13 posted...

Tc didn't say all that. He said he saw her ig profile and decided to message. Why has a line been drawn from communicating from one social platform to another?

because the whole reason women use of one of those platforms is that men can't dm them unless they dm first. shouldn't be a surprise some people arent going to respond positively to people trying to get around that

lincoln002 posted...

That girl was extremely rude to him. Stop being a white knight. This dude literally just showed all you guys struggling with online dating how to get more matches with attractive girls and you're all saying he's a creep for showing some actual balls. We aren't 15 years old anymore, there are guys who dm random chicks on insta or fb and fly them out for the weekend and have sex with them... Do you guys live on planet of the beta males? How will you ever reproduce if you think approaching a woman by texting them is an actual barrier for you? I can understand in person, but a text message through the phone? Do you guys feel that powerless against the opposite sex?

you know what most people do when someone doesn't match with them or message them back? they get over it and they move on to someone else. the "alphas" you live vicariously through do the same.they certainly aren't calling people autistic then running back to gamefaqs to get a support group going over their rejection.

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