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meestermj 05/09/22 4:10:53 PM #1: |
I am freshly engaged and getting married late next year. We're already well into planning and doing well. What advice do you have CE? --- Psn: beastlytoast Left-handed fire-slapsies leave me feeling confused about life. - Merydia ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Irony 05/09/22 4:11:22 PM #2: |
Don't cheat --- I am Mogar, God of Irony and The Devourer of Topics. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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meestermj 05/09/22 4:12:08 PM #3: |
Irony posted... Don't cheatThis time I swear. --- Psn: beastlytoast Left-handed fire-slapsies leave me feeling confused about life. - Merydia ... Copied to Clipboard!
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AloneIBreak 05/09/22 4:16:28 PM #4: |
Cheat. --- The burden of proof is on those who argue that authority and domination are necessary. Libertarian socialist. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Sonic Cannon 05/09/22 4:19:30 PM #5: |
John M. Gottman - The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (this is very research based and practical) --- Keep it green. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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MabusIncarnate 05/09/22 4:27:25 PM #7: |
You dont have to spend every free moment you have together. Have your own hobbies and interests, do your own thing every now and then. Have some individualism for your sanity and health of the relationship. Been married going on 19 years now. --- I'll remain unperturbed by the joy and the madness that I encounter everywhere I turn Slayer_22 picked waifu - https://ibb.co/WD8p1Kz ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Ving_Rhames 05/09/22 4:28:16 PM #8: |
I'll just say...Make sure you both have an outlet. --- the real Irving Rameses http://i.imgur.com/A7f6F9h.jpg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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bsp77 05/09/22 4:29:21 PM #9: |
MabusIncarnate posted... You dont have to spend every free moment you have together. Have your own hobbies and interests, do your own thing every now and then. Have some individualism for your sanity and health of the relationship.This is what I was going to say. I got divorced after 16 years, and this was the biggest mistake. I am much more of an individual with my current gf. --- Currently playing: Triangle Strategy ... Copied to Clipboard!
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bsp77 05/09/22 4:31:31 PM #10: |
Oh, also as soon as something bothers you at all, no matter how minor, bring it up in a constructive manner with *I* statements about how you feel, not accusatory *you* statements. But you can't let little things fester because they grow in time. --- Currently playing: Triangle Strategy ... Copied to Clipboard!
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meestermj 05/09/22 4:33:13 PM #11: |
Sonic Cannon posted... Figure out how you are going to handle your money.That isn't something we had considered, but it's a very good point. Thank you! [LFAQs-redacted-quote] Thank you! We've been doing things our own way for a long while. We're actually discussing a marriage prep course/counseling. MabusIncarnate posted... You dont have to spend every free moment you have together. Have your own hobbies and interests, do your own thing every now and then. Have some individualism for your sanity and health of the relationship.We already do! We don't live together currently (she cares for her mom and sister so we each have our own place). We do things together, but we also have separate things. For instance we both play D&D but with different groups, we both game (she's xbox I'm playstation), we both read but not usually the same books. We've been together on and off for 13 years now. --- Psn: beastlytoast Left-handed fire-slapsies leave me feeling confused about life. - Merydia ... Copied to Clipboard!
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AwesomeFawful 05/09/22 4:33:52 PM #12: |
Expert advice? Don't get married. --- "Socialism is when the government does stuff, and it's more socialism the more stuff it does, and when it does a real lot of stuff, that's communism!" ... Copied to Clipboard!
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meestermj 05/09/22 4:35:05 PM #13: |
AwesomeFawful posted... Expert advice? Don't get married.I understand that marriage isn't for everyone. However I will either spend the rest of my life with this woman, or alone. That much I know. --- Psn: beastlytoast Left-handed fire-slapsies leave me feeling confused about life. - Merydia ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Sackgurl 05/09/22 4:56:02 PM #14: |
live a lifestyle that is below your means. allow your and/or your partner's occasional splurges to be splurges, and not impacts on your ability to maintain that lifestyle because there will be impacts and the biggest ones will be totally out of your control the more you feel like it's the two of you working together to deal with those, the happier you'll both be --- LittleBigPlanet is like merging dress-up with a real game. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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bsp77 05/09/22 4:57:46 PM #15: |
meestermj posted... However I will either spend the rest of my life with this woman, or alone.Why would you say that? I am hopeful your marriage lasts, but sometimes stuff happens, and there is life after divorce. --- Currently playing: Triangle Strategy ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Strider102 05/09/22 4:58:57 PM #16: |
When your wife tells you to jackhammer her you jackhammer her good goddamnit. --- Last Cloudia ID: 188850453 ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Guide 05/09/22 5:01:21 PM #17: |
bsp77 posted... Why would you say that? I am hopeful your marriage lasts, but sometimes stuff happens, and there is life after divorce. Eh, no, I get it. I'm on my last HP, emotionally speaking. Very happy with this girl, I can expect it to last, but I won't recover if it doesn't. The emotional toll from my last relationship corroded some stuff up in my wetworks, and it doesn't feel like it healed back properly. --- evening main 2.4356848e+91 https://youtu.be/Acn5IptKWQU ... Copied to Clipboard!
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coolcono 05/09/22 5:02:44 PM #18: |
Ving_Rhames posted... I'll just say...Make sure you both have an outlet.Sexual or emotional? --- psn- trucano ... Copied to Clipboard!
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bsp77 05/09/22 5:05:40 PM #19: |
Guide posted... Eh, no, I get it. I'm on my last HP, emotionally speaking. Very happy with this girl, I can expect it to last, but I won't recover if it doesn't. The toll from my last relationship corroded some stuff up in my wetworks, and it doesn't feel like it healed back properly.I have been with 3 people that I thought would last forever, and each was actually a better experience than the previous - my marriage of 16 years (20 years together), my ex gf of 2 years, and now my current gf of 1.5 years. I can't believe how much more perfect my current relationship is than the previous two, so I can't imagine having given up. But, uh, what does the bolded mean? --- Currently playing: Triangle Strategy ... Copied to Clipboard!
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im not 13 05/09/22 5:05:48 PM #20: |
Don't say hurtful things to her. Women don't forget Plan a life together with common goals Be fair but loving Compliments go a long way Keep things interesting. Random trips flowers...even an inexpensive picnic in the park. Try and walk away during an argument cool off then calmly explain what you want to address --- http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m510t9eNw71r2yd8o.jpg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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meestermj 05/09/22 5:33:24 PM #21: |
bsp77 posted... Why would you say that? I am hopeful your marriage lasts, but sometimes stuff happens, and there is life after divorce.The way I see it, those are my two options. I've tried dating and tried being with someone else. I simply can't. So I'll either be happy alone or happy with her. --- Psn: beastlytoast Left-handed fire-slapsies leave me feeling confused about life. - Merydia ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Ving_Rhames 05/09/22 9:04:12 PM #22: |
coolcono posted... Sexual or emotional? Emotional. Communication is key, but sometimes before you allow cooler heads to prevail in a bad moment, communication can be extremely costly and can lead to irrevocable damage. Make sure you've got a way to give yourself and your partner some space/time when need be. Address whatever issue arose (There will be some, bad days, bad times, and bad timing happens) after you've both given yourself a chance to think harder on something. Never run from your problems, but always pick your battles. --- the real Irving Rameses http://i.imgur.com/A7f6F9h.jpg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Guide 05/09/22 9:07:39 PM #23: |
bsp77 posted... I have been with 3 people that I thought would last forever, and each was actually a better experience than the previous - my marriage of 16 years (20 years together), my ex gf of 2 years, and now my current gf of 1.5 years. I can't believe how much more perfect my current relationship is than the previous two, so I can't imagine having given up. Like, it did some real, actual damage to my brain, in some capacity. On a brighter note, I can relate to your fortune: With my current girl, I'm starting to wonder if "relationships are about compromise" is just a thing people tell themselves to feel better. It's so... effortlessly great, right now. --- evening main 2.4356848e+91 https://youtu.be/Acn5IptKWQU ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Father_ 05/09/22 9:10:37 PM #24: |
Don't...but if you do and plan to have kids, make sure you're aligned in how you want to raise your kid(s) --- GO TO YOUR ROOM! ... Copied to Clipboard!
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bsp77 05/09/22 9:13:18 PM #25: |
Guide posted... Like, it did some real, actual damage to my brain, in some capacity.Oh! Wetworks sounded more, uh, phallic. But good for you! And I agree about the compromise part. When it is truly right, you can both be yourselves, and doing things together is more natural. You might compromise on little stuff like what to eat or what to watch on a given night, but relationships should NOT be really hard work, despite that common saying. --- Currently playing: Triangle Strategy ... Copied to Clipboard!
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lilORANG 05/09/22 9:16:18 PM #26: |
Just be nice to each other. Don't go to bed angry. If you're actually compatible, it's pretty easy. --- #FeelTheBern http://i.imgur.com/q5z4CUu.jpg http://i.imgur.com/6B9oFXh.jpg http://i.imgur.com/sy42Dlf.jpg ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Punished_Blinx 05/09/22 9:17:33 PM #27: |
Guide posted... Like, it did some real, actual damage to my brain, in some capacity. It is about compromise as you do need to take someone else into account other than yourself. But that compromise should lead to a better life overall and it should still feel like something you want to do overall if that makes sense. I find it nuts how I know couples where it seems like they don't want to hang out with each other at all. I just don't get that attitude. --- A Fallen Mascot ... Copied to Clipboard!
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VandorLee 05/09/22 9:17:47 PM #28: |
If you are not being you or shes not being herself it wont work out. --- "God didn't create humans, no, it's humans who created God." Dr. Londes, Cowboy Bebop: "Brain Scratch" (#1.23) (1999) ... Copied to Clipboard!
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bsp77 05/09/22 9:22:49 PM #29: |
Punished_Blinx posted... I find it nuts how I know couples where it seems like they don't want to hang out with each other at all. I just don't get that attitude.I rarely see that. I see couples who never ever do things separately and I find that concerning. --- Currently playing: Triangle Strategy ... Copied to Clipboard!
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