Current Events > Would you say parental burnout is a real thing?

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Silver_Patron 03/02/23 9:17:57 PM #1:	Neither me or my partner ever get a break from our kids and we are never usually this irritable or easily angered with things our kids do My mother in law said we both need therapy but all I think we need is more breaks from the kids to not be cranky, angry, or mad all the time. I researched what our problem is and apparently it's called parental burnout But my mother in law doesn't believe something like this exists and that we just need to fix our attitudes and we don't need a break --- RAIDER NATION Proud member of the silver/black fanbase for life! <cite>Silver_Patron posted [p:971917644] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Neither me or my partner ever get a break from our kids and we are never usually this irritable or easily angered with things our kids do My mother in law said we both need therapy but all I think we need is more breaks from the kids to not be cranky, angry, or mad all the time. I researched what our problem is and apparently it's called parental burnoutBut my mother in law doesn't believe something like this exists and that we just need to fix our attitudes and we don't need a break </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Norman_Smiley 03/02/23 9:20:27 PM #2:	obviously. --- http://i.imgur.com/BVBQC.jpg The big wiggle equals ratings. <cite>Norman_Smiley posted [p:971917687] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>obviously. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Silver_Patron 03/02/23 9:21:52 PM #4:	Norman_Smiley posted... obviously. Not to my mother in law. She says it doesn't exist at all and that we need psychiatric help. --- RAIDER NATION Proud member of the silver/black fanbase for life! <cite>Silver_Patron posted [p:971917720] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Norman_Smiley posted... </cite><quote>obviously.</quote>Not to my mother in law. She says it doesn't exist at all and that we need psychiatric help. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Silver_Patron 03/02/23 9:22:10 PM #5:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] Do you get any breaks from your kids? --- RAIDER NATION Proud member of the silver/black fanbase for life! <cite>Silver_Patron posted [p:971917726] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> Do you get any breaks from your kids? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Irony 03/02/23 9:22:27 PM #6:	Your mother-in-law suffers from the stereotype that mother-in-laws are idiots --- I am Mogar, God of Irony and The Devourer of Topics. <cite>Irony posted [p:971917730] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Your mother-in-law suffers from the stereotype that mother-in-laws are idiots</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Ivynn 03/02/23 9:24:20 PM #8:	Has the thought "I hate my kids" ever crossed your mind? --- http://i.imgur.com/vDci4hD.gif <cite>Ivynn posted [p:971917783] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Has the thought "I hate my kids" ever crossed your mind?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Norman_Smiley 03/02/23 9:26:41 PM #10:	Silver_Patron posted... Not to my mother in law. She says it doesn't exist at all and that we need psychiatric help. I mean anyone who doesn't believe your experience is real is a bit of an asshole and quite self centered. She probably just can't understand anyone's POV but her own. --- http://i.imgur.com/BVBQC.jpg The big wiggle equals ratings. <cite>Norman_Smiley posted [p:971917833] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Silver_Patron posted... </cite><quote>Not to my mother in law. She says it doesn't exist at all and that we need psychiatric help.</quote>I mean anyone who doesn't believe your experience is real is a bit of an asshole and quite self centered. She probably just can't understand anyone's POV but her own. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
AzNDarkSamurai 03/02/23 9:31:15 PM #11:	It absolutely is a thing. Me and my wife are in a similar situation where even the little things will trigger us and anger us. We even feel bad that we are emotionally distant from them at times but thats mainly due to how tired we always are. We need more breaks badly but we dont have anyone else to watch our kids but her parents and they rarely are willing to watch the kids outside of times we have to work. If we had more breaks, I promise you that we would be better parents. We have chronic fatigue all the time since our entire life is work and kids. --- Pinoy Pride, 1988 - the day I die! <cite>AzNDarkSamurai posted [p:971917919] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>It absolutely is a thing. Me and my wife are in a similar situation where even the little things will trigger us and anger us. We even feel bad that we are emotionally distant from them at times but thats mainly due to how tired we always are. We need more breaks badly but we dont have anyone else to watch our kids but her parents and they rarely are willing to watch the kids outside of times we have to work. If we had more breaks, I promise you that we would be better parents. We have chronic fatigue all the time since our entire life is work and kids. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Stallion_Prime 03/02/23 9:31:43 PM #12:	Don't have kids then --- -Hunter1534 http://abload.de/img/powercdkcb.gif <cite>Stallion_Prime posted [p:971917930] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Don't have kids then</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Silver_Patron 03/02/23 11:32:33 PM #13:	Stallion_Prime posted... Don't have kids then Yeah it's a little too late for that --- RAIDER NATION Proud member of the silver/black fanbase for life! <cite>Silver_Patron posted [p:971920429] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Stallion_Prime posted... </cite><quote>Don't have kids then</quote>Yeah it's a little too late for that</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SrRd_RacinG 03/02/23 11:33:50 PM #14:	Play more viDya gaemZ --- https://media.giphy.com/media/l3vRn3I4UyDoKyWLC/giphy.gif <cite>SrRd_RacinG posted [p:971920457] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Play more viDya gaemZ</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Smashingpmkns 03/02/23 11:34:31 PM #15:	Probably would benefit from a weekly dedicated date night. Or even a day where one of you takes care of them and the other fucks off and does a hobby. --- http://i.imgur.com/x04tPRZ.jpg http://i.imgur.com/t7T392I.jpg <cite>Smashingpmkns posted [p:971920468] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Probably would benefit from a weekly dedicated date night. Or even a day where one of you takes care of them and the other fucks off and does a hobby.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Secret_Asian_Man 03/02/23 11:36:45 PM #16:	I'm not a parent but even I know that's a thing. That's why there's babysitters and sleepovers at the grandparents/cousins. Anybody who tells you otherwise is lyin', never really been good parents, is a stay-at-home parent, or never had kids. <cite>Secret_Asian_Man posted [p:971920514] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>I'm not a parent but even I know that's a thing. That's why there's babysitters and sleepovers at the grandparents/cousins. Anybody who tells you otherwise is lyin', never really been good parents, is a stay-at-home parent, or never had kids.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lonestar2000 03/02/23 11:48:26 PM #17:	Yes, kids only make your life harder. --- Rumble Roses. Someone enters the room. Them: O_O Me: What?! I always play games without my pants on!- Inmate 922335 #ImpeachToadDickTrump <cite>Lonestar2000 posted [p:971920689] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Yes, kids only make your life harder.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Silver_Patron 03/03/23 12:49:26 AM #18:	Smashingpmkns posted... Probably would benefit from a weekly dedicated date night. Or even a day where one of you takes care of them and the other fucks off and does a hobby. We are trying to work this out. It's a great idea. I just have the hope the wife agrees too. --- RAIDER NATION Proud member of the silver/black fanbase for life! <cite>Silver_Patron posted [p:971921488] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Smashingpmkns posted... </cite><quote>Probably would benefit from a weekly dedicated date night. Or even a day where one of you takes care of them and the other fucks off and does a hobby.</quote>We are trying to work this out. It's a great idea. I just have the hope the wife agrees too.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zeeak4444 03/03/23 12:56:11 AM #19:	Secret_Asian_Man posted... I'm not a parent but even I know that's a thing. That's why there's babysitters and sleepovers at the grandparents/cousins. Anybody who tells you otherwise is lyin', never really been good parents, is a stay-at-home parent, or never had kids. this. if my pets irate me at times I can only imagine the drain a child brings from time to time. --- Typical gameFAQers are "Complainers that always complain about those who complain about real legitimate complaints."-Joker_X <cite>Zeeak4444 posted [p:971921562] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Secret_Asian_Man posted... </cite><quote>I'm not a parent but even I know that's a thing. That's why there's babysitters and sleepovers at the grandparents/cousins. Anybody who tells you otherwise is lyin', never really been good parents, is a stay-at-home parent, or never had kids.</quote>this. if my pets irate me at times I can only imagine the drain a child brings from time to time.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GGuirao13 03/03/23 1:40:39 AM #20:	Burnout can happen for anyone. --- Donald J. Trump--proof against government intelligence. <cite>GGuirao13 posted [p:971921988] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Burnout can happen for anyone.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Kakapo 03/03/23 1:43:06 AM #21:	Yeah, its definitely a thing. Your mother in law sounds like an opinionated, interfering old baggage --- There's resounding gongs and clanging bowls, there's cats to guide my soul 24 hour party parrot <cite>Kakapo posted [p:971922003] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Yeah, its definitely a thing. Your mother in law sounds like an opinionated, interfering old baggage</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Gamingsince1989 03/03/23 1:49:42 AM #22:	Of course it's a real thing, but it really comes down to other factors on top of just raising kids. Most parents also work full time jobs on top of raising kids, so the burnout comes from doing too much at once rather than just from kids. People without kids come home from work and can relax or do absolutely nothing on their days off. Parents don't have that luxury unless they're leaving their kids with a babysitter/family member or just stick them in front of the TV/other devices all day. My best friend and her husband have an agreement where every Friday night they take turns staying home with the kids, while the other goes out with friends and unwinds. They said it made a huge difference having that one night every other week. <cite>Gamingsince1989 posted [p:971922073] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Of course it's a real thing, but it really comes down to other factors on top of just raising kids. Most parents also work full time jobs on top of raising kids, so the burnout comes from doing too much at once rather than just from kids. People without kids come home from work and can relax or do absolutely nothing on their days off. Parents don't have that luxury unless they're leaving their kids with a babysitter/family member or just stick them in front of the TV/other devices all day. My best friend and her husband have an agreement where every Friday night they take turns staying home with the kids, while the other goes out with friends and unwinds. They said it made a huge difference having that one night every other week.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Gremlynn 03/03/23 2:13:11 AM #23:	your mother in law doesn't believe it's real because our parents' generation didn't actually fucking watch their kids. --- "Now, was that civilized? No, clearly not. Fun, but in no sense civilized." <cite>Gremlynn posted [p:971922308] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>your mother in law doesn't believe it's real because our parents' generation didn't actually fucking watch their kids.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lost_All_Senses 03/03/23 2:21:47 AM #24:	Stallion_Prime posted... Don't have kids then This. The human race should just die out since the large majority of the time you can't actually know if you're ready for kids until you have. Only psychics who can see the future and use that hindsight to see if having kids is really what they thought it would be can have kids. Problem solved --- Name checks out "I don't wanna be the toughest, I just keep it 100 and think nothin of it"- Black Thought <cite>Lost_All_Senses posted [p:971922387] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Stallion_Prime posted... </cite><quote>Don't have kids then</quote>This. The human race should just die out since the large majority of the time you can't actually know if you're ready for kids until you have. Only psychics who can see the future and use that hindsight to see if having kids is really what they thought it would be can have kids. Problem solved</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Aloc 03/03/23 2:23:14 AM #25:	Stallion_Prime posted... Don't have kids then <cite>Aloc posted [p:971922403] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Stallion_Prime posted... </cite><quote>Don't have kids then</quote></quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GuerrillaSoldier 03/03/23 2:56:51 AM #26:	there's burnout for absolutely everything in this world. we're human. we get tired of shit. yes this is a reason a lot don't want to, and don't have kids. they know this will happen. but it's not going to fix itself. either find ways to deal with it, by getting time away from your kids, or with methods that a specialist has been taught to guide people through. --- Disclaimer: There's a good chance the above post could be sarcasm. Die-hard Oakland A's fan --- Keep the A's in Oakland! <cite>GuerrillaSoldier posted [p:971922730] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>there's burnout for absolutely everything in this world. we're human. we get tired of shit.yes this is a reason a lot don't want to, and don't have kids. they know this will happen.but it's not going to fix itself. either find ways to deal with it, by getting time away from your kids, or with methods that a specialist has been taught to guide people through.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
party_animal07 03/03/23 3:18:02 AM #27:	Gremlynn posted... your mother in law doesn't believe it's real because our parents' generation didn't actually fucking watch their kids. This is a decent point actually. Parents had time to breath because kids would be outside all day. As long as I stayed in the neighborhood, I could be outside all day if I wanted. --- https://warpzone.me/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/GRANDIA_-696x509.jpg <cite>party_animal07 posted [p:971922912] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Gremlynn posted... </cite><quote>your mother in law doesn't believe it's real because our parents' generation didn't actually fucking watch their kids.</quote>This is a decent point actually. Parents had time to breath because kids would be outside all day. As long as I stayed in the neighborhood, I could be outside all day if I wanted.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
rexcrk 03/03/23 3:21:19 AM #28:	How could it not be a real thing? lmao --- Fate rarely calls on us at a moment of our choosing. <cite>rexcrk posted [p:971922936] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>How could it not be a real thing? lmao</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
eggcorn 03/03/23 3:27:09 AM #29:	Not for me but I don't doubt it happens. Your mother in law could be right about therapy but I really don't know your situation. --- Warning: This post may contain triggering or distressing content. <cite>eggcorn posted [p:971922979] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Not for me but I don't doubt it happens. Your mother in law could be right about therapy but I really don't know your situation.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
VampireCoyote 03/03/23 3:29:03 AM #30:	Of course its a thing I get burnt out just being alive I cant even imagine how stressful it is to take care of young humans at the same time --- She/her <cite>VampireCoyote posted [p:971922993] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Of course its a thing I get burnt out just being alive I cant even imagine how stressful it is to take care of young humans at the same time</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Punished_Blinx 03/03/23 3:32:33 AM #31:	Man not even the evening after the kids are off to bed? That's definitely a necessity for me haha --- A Fallen Mascot <cite>Punished_Blinx posted [p:971923014] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Man not even the evening after the kids are off to bed? That's definitely a necessity for me haha</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Silver_Patron 03/03/23 4:47:32 AM #32:	Punished_Blinx posted... Man not even the evening after the kids are off to bed? That's definitely a necessity for me haha The kids go to bed at 9pm. We have to go sleep right after. Definitely no down time there. --- RAIDER NATION Proud member of the silver/black fanbase for life! <cite>Silver_Patron posted [p:971923506] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Punished_Blinx posted... </cite><quote>Man not even the evening after the kids are off to bed? That's definitely a necessity for me haha</quote>The kids go to bed at 9pm. We have to go sleep right after. Definitely no down time there. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MabusIncarnate 03/03/23 4:56:45 AM #33:	Yeah, you are only human, and your mother in law comes from a generation where the resolution to mental problems is "Just cheer up!" So I wouldn't put much stock into what she says. --- "I'm tired of this city, all this toil and strife. Trying to cross the boulevard, playing Frogger with my life." <cite>MabusIncarnate posted [p:971923567] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Yeah, you are only human, and your mother in law comes from a generation where the resolution to mental problems is "Just cheer up!" So I wouldn't put much stock into what she says.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Silver_Patron 03/03/23 11:07:52 PM #34:	Haha impossible to cheer up when you're tired as hell --- RAIDER NATION Proud member of the silver/black fanbase for life! <cite>Silver_Patron posted [p:971941747] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Haha impossible to cheer up when you're tired as hell </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TerraSeeker 03/03/23 11:23:47 PM #35:	I imagine my mom got permanently burned out at some point. I mean that has to be why she did stuff like like stop taking us to see our dad's side of the family even though it would have been extremely beneficial for us. --- Your words are as empty as your soul <cite>TerraSeeker posted [p:971941998] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>I imagine my mom got permanently burned out at some point. I mean that has to be why she did stuff like like stop taking us to see our dad's side of the family even though it would have been extremely beneficial for us.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ROOTFayth 03/03/23 11:29:36 PM #36:	how do you never get a break? cant you take care of the kids for like a few days while your SO goes on vacation for some me time and vice versa? <cite>ROOTFayth posted [p:971942102] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>how do you never get a break? cant you take care of the kids for like a few days while your SO goes on vacation for some me time and vice versa?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Silver_Patron 03/04/23 11:50:38 AM #37:	^Me time has been VERY lacking since the kids were born. We never had any for 6 years now and we are irritable as hell because of it. Our problem is we have no one else to watch the kids but the wife's parents and they never want to watch them outside of us working. --- RAIDER NATION Proud member of the silver/black fanbase for life! <cite>Silver_Patron posted [p:971949828] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>^Me time has been VERY lacking since the kids were born. We never had any for 6 years now and we are irritable as hell because of it. Our problem is we have no one else to watch the kids but the wife's parents and they never want to watch them outside of us working. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
hockeybub89 03/04/23 11:53:33 AM #38:	It's probably just the nature of our bullshit society burning you out, making it tough to deal with your kids. --- http://card.psnprofiles.com/1/NIR_Hockey.png he/him/they/them <cite>hockeybub89 posted [p:971949879] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>It's probably just the nature of our bullshit society burning you out, making it tough to deal with your kids.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MrResetti 03/04/23 11:53:55 AM #39:	Guess you'll be investing in summer camp --- http://i.imgur.com/GRZEGPm.gif http://imgur.com/OeMgQZT.gif <cite>MrResetti posted [p:971949888] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Guess you'll be investing in summer camp</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ROOTFayth 03/04/23 12:14:33 PM #40:	Silver_Patron posted... ^Me time has been VERY lacking since the kids were born. We never had any for 6 years now and we are irritable as hell because of it. Our problem is we have no one else to watch the kids but the wife's parents and they never want to watch them outside of us working. cant you take time each on your own though? thats what my wife and I do <cite>ROOTFayth posted [p:971950307] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>Silver_Patron posted... </cite><quote>^Me time has been VERY lacking since the kids were born. We never had any for 6 years now and we are irritable as hell because of it. Our problem is we have no one else to watch the kids but the wife's parents and they never want to watch them outside of us working.</quote>cant you take time each on your own though? thats what my wife and I do</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Prestoff 03/04/23 12:40:34 PM #41:	It's an absolute real thing but freedom is one thing you give up when having kids. I only have one girl and she's very high maintenance. What we would do is pay our parents (from either side) to watch over her for one day and provide them with all the necessary stuff to help her while we would go out and do whatever on that day at least once a month. It gives us breathing room to go through it. --- DI MOLTO! <cite>Prestoff posted [p:971950769] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>It's an absolute real thing but freedom is one thing you give up when having kids. I only have one girl and she's very high maintenance. What we would do is pay our parents (from either side) to watch over her for one day and provide them with all the necessary stuff to help her while we would go out and do whatever on that day at least once a month. It gives us breathing room to go through it. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Silver_Patron 03/05/23 12:56:34 AM #42:	ROOTFayth posted... cant you take time each on your own though? thats what my wife and I do We are working out how we can do that as we speak. It's a good idea that we desperately need. --- RAIDER NATION Proud member of the silver/black fanbase for life! <cite>Silver_Patron posted [p:971963619] in Would you ... [t:80366623]...</cite> <quote>ROOTFayth posted... </cite><quote>cant you take time each on your own though? thats what my wife and I do</quote>We are working out how we can do that as we speak. It's a good idea that we desperately need. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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