Current Events > My wife continues her journey towards MAID (Medical assistance in death)

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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy
06/27/23 3:32:32 PM
#52:


It is quite agonizing. The doctor reached out on Monday to say that he will chat with her on Wednesday. Meanwhile all her health stuff has had her vomiting this morning and she has went into hospital to get checked out, which is so fucking triggering for her.

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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy
06/28/23 10:05:09 AM
#53:


My wife chats with the second assessor today. Hoping for a yes but given the way he chatted before we aren't expecting that? Sigh

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dummy420
06/28/23 10:35:31 AM
#54:


Good luck

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coolpal23
06/28/23 10:55:14 AM
#55:


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you are the strongest person on CE, bar none, and deserve every bit of rest and closure that the end can bring.


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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy
06/28/23 12:07:09 PM
#56:


30 minutes until our meeting. Again we are planning for a no so hopefully a nice surprise awaits us instead?

Nice surprise is an odd way of phrasing it, but it's what we want. Lol

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SHRlKE
06/28/23 12:08:40 PM
#57:


If the answer is yes what are the timelines for next steps.

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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy
06/28/23 12:16:11 PM
#58:


SHRlKE posted...
If the answer is yes what are the timelines for next steps.

Literally the time it takes them to finish paperwork. It could happen like by the end of the week.

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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy
06/28/23 1:23:29 PM
#59:


Well, that was interesting.

Basically he said that if he gets some documentation from my wife's mental health professionals saying that they have tried what they can and don't really see opportunities for things to improve through counselling and therapy, then he would say yes.

Finding mental health professionals that are willing to put that in writing when they know it would be for MAID may be a bit of a challenge... but we see the same psychologist and as such he knows what is going on and should be able to provide documentation.

So... not the final nail in the coffin so to speak (lol), but getting there.

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dummy420
06/28/23 1:28:09 PM
#60:


Well it's a step. Hopefully in the right direction.

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Shadow20201
06/28/23 1:49:15 PM
#61:


It's not an immediate no, which is surprising but it must be exhausting to get more tasks added on every time in addition to the delays and runarounds. I hope it becomes less stressful as things fall into place.

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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy
06/28/23 2:00:25 PM
#62:


I'm more hopeful now about this process coming to a conclusion than I was like, 2 hours ago.

I'm ready for this to be done and my wife allowed to move on.

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SHRlKE
06/28/23 2:04:49 PM
#63:


It seems like everyone knows its the right thing to do but no one wants to actually be the one to sign it off.

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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy
06/30/23 2:22:16 AM
#64:


Her one mental health professional is working on the letter. Very helpful, asked literally what did we want it to say. That meant a lot to my wife.

The other is going away starting tomorrow until like July 14th, which is heart breaking to my wife. That is the reality of it though.

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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy
07/01/23 3:02:52 AM
#65:


We had a nice day together today as it was my stat holiday. I'm on call this weekend so I have to spread out 8 hours of work this weekend.

It does mean I get next Friday off so that is good.

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_Krave_
07/01/23 3:30:39 AM
#66:


Reading through this topic makes my gut churn.

I have no words to describe the amount that I want to give you a hug, TC

Less so that I'd be giving you comfort, but maybe so that you could transfer some of your incredible strength to my being

My wife struggles with depression, and I thought I had it rough being her rock.

Best of luck with everything.

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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy
07/02/23 3:52:24 PM
#67:


_Krave_ posted...
Reading through this topic makes my gut churn.

I have no words to describe the amount that I want to give you a hug, TC

Less so that I'd be giving you comfort, but maybe so that you could transfer some of your incredible strength to my being

My wife struggles with depression, and I thought I had it rough being her rock.

Best of luck with everything.

Thanks. I'm a big hugger for sure.

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ooger
07/02/23 4:03:21 PM
#68:


Wow, what a heavy issue to bear.

I'm sending good thoughts your way.

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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy
07/03/23 8:57:01 PM
#69:


Been a tough few days for my wife as she tries to just keep making it day by day. Very depressed as one might imagine.

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SweetNut_Farm
07/03/23 9:24:58 PM
#70:


Thinking of you both


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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy
07/05/23 2:35:00 AM
#71:


My wife has a meeting with her regular doctor tomorrow. She is gonna try to convince her to just be the second assessor. She is younger but has been very supportive of what my wife wants to do, but not yet to the point of BEING the second assessor.

It's obviously a nuanced issue and I will respect any doctor who just feels professionally they cannot be the person who does MAID.

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Questionmarktarius
07/05/23 2:40:25 AM
#72:


Not to be crass, but this would be vastly easier in the States.
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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy
07/06/23 8:14:49 PM
#73:


We are hoping her Ehlers Danlos specialist will just do all the paperwork and be the second assessor.

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The_shibe
07/06/23 8:31:14 PM
#74:


Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted...
I'm very proud of the fact I can be open with those feelings. I used to be so ashamed of myself for feeling this way I would deny it and shrug everything off. I would try to convince myself that everything is fine and that none of this impacts me. It does and it is OK for me to just want this entire portion of our lives to end with what my wife wants and then moving on to do what I want to do

I'd give you a hug if I could. You're so brave.

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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy
07/09/23 8:32:11 PM
#75:


Still around, for lack of a better term? Lol

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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy
07/10/23 6:10:00 PM
#77:


Just got done with a memorial golf tournament for my uncle who passed away in like 2019. Nice to see some extended family and whatnot. ^_^

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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy
07/12/23 12:48:33 PM
#78:


The first assessor has found ANOTHER doctor to be a potential second assessor that we are talking with tomorrow. So might get a second yes tomorrow?!

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dummy420
07/12/23 1:10:50 PM
#79:


Well good luck. I hope you don't have yet another bump in the road.

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josiskrazy
07/12/23 1:50:57 PM
#81:


I'm sorry to hear you and the wife are going thru this, I wish you both the best in whatever you both do.

My wife is battling stage 4 ovarian cancer, and while she's responded to the treatments well, there are periods of time where she would rather give up and not go thru the medical procedures. It's tough having those conversations with her.

All the best man!

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Dark_Arbron
07/12/23 2:13:19 PM
#82:


SHRlKE posted...
It seems like everyone knows its the right thing to do but no one wants to actually be the one to sign it off.

This describes a lot of bureaucracy. Everyone knows how to fix the problem but you always have to fill out paperwork then pass it on so it goes into the queue to be checked "within 5-7 business days." Repeat at least three more times. Same with the legal system. Adjourn for 6+ months for something that only ends up taking 20 minutes. 6+ months worth of completely unnecessary stress as people's lives are put on hold.

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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy
07/12/23 9:53:54 PM
#83:


So massive update.

Her geneticist who diagnosed her with Ehlors Danlos provided documentation today that basically said that he supports her MAID application and that he literally has no other treatment available and that continued attempts to do so would be pointless and cruel.

So... we sent that document to our new assessor tomorrow.

I think we are gonna get it. I just can't imagine what problem they would have now.

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KaZooo
07/12/23 10:32:53 PM
#84:


Wow.

I mean I don't know if I can outright say congratulations because of the implications, but it is the step forward that you were after for so long.

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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy
07/13/23 3:32:22 PM
#85:


Meeting in about 30 minutes.

I'm oddly calm especially in comparison to my wife. I just think we are gonna get it.

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TaylorHeinicke
07/13/23 3:38:48 PM
#86:


we're here for you brother

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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy
07/13/23 4:30:28 PM
#87:


We got it.

Is it wrong to say I'm both elated and terrified? XD

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GranQroppoop
07/13/23 4:35:51 PM
#88:


Being happy someone's pain will stop is perfectly fine. Make sure you have her pick out some nice pictures that she wants you to remember.

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Tyranthraxus
07/13/23 4:40:47 PM
#90:


Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted...
We got it.

Is it wrong to say I'm both elated and terrified? XD
It feels weird congratulating someone for this but congrats regardless.

And think I've mentioned this before I'll say it again, you're a great person for sticking with your wife throughout all this. Divorce during time of severe illness are incredibly high.

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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy
07/13/23 4:53:46 PM
#91:


I love my wife dearly, and beyond her being my wife and partner she is also my best friend.

I am elated my best friend and partner won't have to live in pain and just horrifying decreases in health to a point of cruel and unusual punishment.

I am so sad to lose my wife and best friend. That wouldn't change regardless of the situation though.

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dummy420
07/13/23 5:01:11 PM
#92:


Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted...
I love my wife dearly, and beyond her being my wife and partner she is also my best friend.

I am elated my best friend and partner won't have to live in pain and just horrifying decreases in health to a point of cruel and unusual punishment.

I am so sad to lose my wife and best friend. That wouldn't change regardless of the situation though.
I cant even imagine it. You are giving her what she wants and will relieve the pain. Your always allowed to feel your feelings and im sure its been a rollercoaster of emotions. Wishing you the best is all I can do.

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berlyman101
07/13/23 5:08:57 PM
#93:


Wow. When will it be? How is she feeling now?

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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy
07/13/23 5:12:23 PM
#94:


berlyman101 posted...
Wow. When will it be? How is she feeling now?

She is elated and having a little party. She doesn't really recognize how anyone could possibly miss her when she's gone, given the amount of support she has needed and the very real challenges that exist with her health and how disruptive it can be to everyone.

She read that statement I wrote just now and raised her arms in victory shouting, "Let's Fucking Go!!!!"

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ZMythos
07/13/23 5:16:45 PM
#95:


Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted...
We got it.

Is it wrong to say I'm both elated and terrified? XD
I don't think so. You've clearly spent unimaginable time and effort on this decision.

I'm happy you're getting what you both want, tc.

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Aitz
07/13/23 5:44:15 PM
#97:


Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted...
We got it.

Is it wrong to say I'm both elated and terrified? XD

I really dont know how to feel about this, its a very bittersweet moment. But I hope things end up well for you both

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vycebrand2
07/13/23 5:58:07 PM
#98:


TaylorHeinicke posted...
we're here for you brother
I hope he knows there are some here, myself included went through or are going through what he's been dealing with. We may not know him personally but talking about it to anyone else helps.

Now there will be a few here that will be unsympathetic. That will be something that they will have to deal with when its their time.
They know who they are.

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SwordMaster13X
07/13/23 6:41:57 PM
#99:


So when will it happen?

hopefully your wife doesnt have to suffer much longer

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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy
07/13/23 7:03:34 PM
#100:


SwordMaster13X posted...
So when will it happen?

hopefully your wife doesnt have to suffer much longer

First assessor needs to get back to us on that. The original idea was that we were gonna go down on a Friday to do a second assessment and use MAID on that Sunday? So I would think a similar timeline could happen?

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DnDer
07/13/23 10:49:32 PM
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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted...
She doesn't really recognize how anyone could possibly miss her when she's gone, given the amount of support she has needed and the very real challenges that exist with her health and how disruptive it can be to everyone.

Breaks my heart to hear that. She's had so much love and support through all her ordeals, and she can't process that the people who love her will miss her?

I'm not going to remotely pretend I am in her shoes. I do know what it can be like when you have some kind of programming to make you think that you're a burden when people come help you, and I know what a hill it can be to overcome that kind of voice in your head.

My best hope is that she can turn off that negative record even a little bit, and doesn't go out feeling like her legacy was burdening and hurting these people who very obviously will miss her.

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