Current Events > Is having a girlfriend even beneficial during dese trying times?

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Yes.

I'd rather have a nice egg tbh

Not a good time to be alone, IMO.

Vegy is done with girlfriend. Now it's time for womanmates

So does everyone with a Vegeta variant username just turn out to be weird as fuck here on CE?

brestugo posted...

Not a good time to be alone, IMO.

Dis right here

A lactating chick would be dandy to have when the water wars hit.

brestugo posted...

Not a good time to be alone, IMO.

Its been awesome for me lol. With the world as crazy as it is, the last thing I need is another stressor.

I legit feel bad for people who dont know how to handle being by themselves.

rexcrk posted...

I legit feel bad for people who dont know how to handle being by themselves.

That's me. But don't feel bad for me. My life is pretty good.

rexcrk posted...

Its been awesome for me lol. With the world as crazy as it is, the last thing I need is another stressor.

Ysee the thing is a good significant other isnt a stressor. Thats the secret.

cuttin_in_farm posted...

Ysee the thing is a good significant other isnt a stressor. Thats the secret.

Every significant other is. My current one is amazing, but to say a good one will never be a stressor is foolish. No two human beings agree 100% on everything, or want to do things at the same time, or even like all the same activities. Any relationship will be stressful to a varying degree. It's a matter of finding good to outweigh the bad.

Doesn't even have to be about that either, there's also general well-being concerns too, or generalized worry about the one you care for/love.

I avoided dating for a long time because I knew I couldn't handle it, even if it was a great relationship.

R_Jackal posted...

Every significant other is. My current one is amazing, but to say a good one will never be a stressor is foolish. No two human beings agree 100% on everything, or want to do things at the same time, or even like all the same activities. Any relationship will be stressful to a varying degree. It's a matter of finding good to outweigh the bad.

I avoided dating for a long time because I knew I couldn't handle it, even if it was a great relationship.

I disagree.

The claim is that your significant other is a stressor.

If your SO is truly more of a negative strain than a positive one, sure. But having another income to help with finances, someone that can listen and help with your problems, and having someone pleasant to be around should more than outweigh any negatives.

You act as if because you have a gf, yall must do things. A good SO will be okay if you take time to yourself or dont do things together.

The idea that relationships must have stress is untrue and sad.

Though I would figure it depends on what you define as stressor.

My car is a stressor if you define it as has the ability to be bad, because it costs to maintenance. Which financially can be stressing. But without it, Id have way more stressors, so Id never consider my car a stressor.

cuttin_in_farm posted...

I disagree.

The claim is that your significant other is a stressor.

If your SO is truly more of a negative strain than a positive one, sure. But having another income to help with finances, someone that can listen and help with your problems, and having someone pleasant to be around should more than outweigh any negatives.

You act as if because you have a gf, yall must do things. A good SO will be okay if you take time to yourself or dont do things together.

The idea that relationships must have stress is untrue and sad.

No, not exactly what I said, but it's one way to look at it. I am of course assuming that since you're in a relationship that you actually want to be around and do things with that person. But yes, you can do things by yourself, but if you're with someone you really love and doing something you enjoy you usually want to share that experience. But in the end you still said what I did--the good needs to outweigh the bad.

But everyone needs different things from a relationship at the end of the day. I tend to just deal with my worries, so for me someone relaxed that I can just chill out with at the end of the day was what I really needed.

Money I don't really factor in, outside of housing it's usually a bit of a wash, more income more cost.

But if you're never stressed in a relationship I daresay you either don't truly care, or you aren't really together. Or maybe don't understand the scope of the word stress.

cuttin_in_farm posted...

I disagree.

The claim is that your significant other is a stressor.

If your SO is truly more of a negative strain than a positive one, sure. But having another income to help with finances, someone that can listen and help with your problems, and having someone pleasant to be around should more than outweigh any negatives.

You act as if because you have a gf, yall must do things. A good SO will be okay if you take time to yourself or dont do things together.

The idea that relationships must have stress is untrue and sad.

Though I would figure it depends on what you define as stressor.

My car is a stressor if you define it as has the ability to be bad, because it costs to maintenance. Which financially can be stressing. But without it, Id have way more stressors, so Id never consider my car a stressor.

Agree. My fiance is definitely not a stressor and she alleviates my generalized anxiety. I am not saying she never causes stress, but that is very infrequent compared to the benefits we share.

Also, I am very independent and she is very reserved and introverted. As a result, even though we live together, we do stuff separately all the time. Sometimes just hanging out in diffetent rooms with our different games & movies, and sometimes I am out with friends (she goes out every once in awhile). But we do value the time we actually spend together a lot.

cuttin_in_farm posted...

Ysee the thing is a good significant other isnt a stressor. Thats the secret.

Im not saying I disagree, because Im sure thats true.

But every time Ive been in a relationship or tried to start one has been a very miserable experience for me