Current Events > Redditor leaves date after finding out she's trans

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The polite thing to do would be to finish the date, pay for dinner, politely say goodnight, then opt not to go on a second date.

this is the most ignorant shit i've read all day.

So, by your own stupidity, gays and lesbians should continue dates with their opposite genders and sleep with them, other wise their bigots like you? Sure, keep believing that, buddy.

Are we really comparing the two?

So you want them to make themselves easy targets for hate groups?

not at all like meeting up with a potential violent bigot who's going to get angry and violent with them once they find out though, huh? Thats a far better outcome for you?

From my POV the Rebels are terrorists and needed to be put down.

If your cousin was Margot Robbie and she wanted to sleep with you, would you still do her? And if not, why?

Why doesn't Reddit introduce a feature where you can pay $$$ to get unbanned from sub-reddits or Reddit?

What have you "just slipped and fell on" during your life?

not at all like meeting up with a potential violent bigot who's going to get angry and violent with them once they find out though, huh? Thats a far better outcome for you?

If your cousin was Margot Robbie and she wanted to sleep with you, would you still do her? And if not, why

If you dont have the commonly expected genitals for your gender I think you should let that be known before going out with somebody.

I dont think accusations of deception really necessary but I cant really fault somebody for feeling that way either.

Is it really dumber than the 'lesbians should fuck guys' post I just quoted?

It's his right if he has a preference, but I do think he could have handled it with more tact and the last line there where he "told her what he really thought about her" seems kind of trashy and hurtful for the sake of being trashy and hurtful. And the one place I see "trans people in sports" as a persistent talking point in CE, and it's rarely productive. Dude is giving off red flags.

If he prefers cisgender women, he prefers cisgender women. I still think he showed his true colours at the end there and comes off looking like a wankstain. Not that I expect a fed topic to go well, but that's how I feel.

could have easily just finished the date and then said they didnt see a connection instead of being a jackabout it.

also 99% of the posts on AITA are fake af, including this one lol

1. No one is required or obligated to ever give you their time unless it's something that they paid for. IE a service or consultation, etc.
2. You don't get to dictate how people feel or act
3. If he finds out that the person is trans...then the logical thing IS to end the date if he's not into her. Why would he continue talking with someone who he clearly changed his mind about?

Of course you can't fault them.

All of sudden some women have a moral obligation to give up their privacy so men don't get too upset over dealbreakers.

The polite thing to do would be to finish the date, pay for dinner, politely say goodnight, then opt not to go on a second date.

He's not in the wrong, but only because this reads like a fake "and then everybody clapped" story.

She is under no obligation to disclose her medical history.

He is under no obligation to date outside of his preference.

The 'wrong' thing would be not handling the situation in a sensitive and polite manner.

There's nothing wrong with having a preference of genitals.

However, they were pretty assholeish about how they went about it. It's not deceptive to not mention that you're trans, it's self preservation, especially with how backwards many places still are.

Also maybe this is just me, but you can make friends even if there ends up being no romance. Seems a waste of an evening to just end it halfway because you can't get your dick wet.

Ultimately, his date dodged a bullet here, good for her.

1. Making friends with people you have absolutely no interest in is pointless. The man came to have a date and with the intent of getting a relationship.

This...absolutely makes no sense

For one, the world doesn't revolve around "politeness". There is action, and there are reactions. If I'm on a date with a woman and she tells me something that turns me off completely, I am not required to give any more of my time to finish said date. Just like how a woman isn't required to be with a man on a date if he tells her that he's a convicted criminal.

Also, do some of you people lack any type of cue for social situations? If he finds out and is already angry, what is the logic of finishing the date? Hello?!

If someone is already angry/pissed off, then the date is done. There is no "saving" it. And at that point, it's more time wasted on both parties.

This, like how hard is it to finish a meal with a person you had no intention of fucking? Plus he found out on the first fucking date which is pretty damn early.

1. Because he's no longer interested in her
2. If he's no longer interested in her, there is 0 point to the conversation if he has no interest in said conversation

1. Because he's no longer interested in her
2. If he's no longer interested in her, there is 0 point to the conversation if he has no interest in said conversation
You're not obligated to anyone's time. If a woman goes on a date with you, she doesn't owe you shit if she gets turned off by something you say. Likewise if a guy gets turned off by something from a woman.

You.Are.Not.Obligated.To.Anyones.Time.

Ending a date early is beneficial for both parties because it decreases the chance for any further confrontation, argument, or animosity .

You are very angry about this. You're also battling straw men.

Neither I (nor anyone else) is saying anyone is OBLIGATED to anything. We're simply saying that there were better ways to handle this.

At least these threads make for easy tagging.

What "better" way? He ended the date early. Paid for the bill, and left.

Both of these were the best ways about it. To say or imply that he should stick around is laughable. If I go on a date with someone and there is no chemistry, then why would I continue spending X amount of time talking to them? When I can leave, and put my time towards something else?

Great, then you fake a phone call or text and try to dip out with everyone keeping their dignity. You don't do what this (fake) person did

This, like how hard is it to finish a meal with a person you had no intention of fucking? Plus he found out on the first fucking date which is pretty damn early.

This is some sociopathic behavoir.

This is some sociopathic behavoir.

You can still enjoy a meal with a person even if youve decided not to fuck them

What "better" way? He ended the date early. Paid for the bill, and left.

Both of these were the best ways about it. To say or imply that he should stick around is laughable. If I go on a date with someone and there is no chemistry, then why would I continue spending X amount of time talking to them? When I can leave, and put my time towards something else?

You can still enjoy a meal with a person even if youve decided not to fuck them

Pretty much. The first date is when you'd expect to find out about anything that might deter you from future dates to begin with.

You're not obligated to anyone's time. If a job doesn't like a candidate, they are not obligated to still keep you around for the duration of the interview. If a woman doesnt like you, she isn't obligated to keep talking to you for the duration of the date. If a man doesn't like you, he isn't required to keep talking to you. The exceptions to this are things like paid services where you pay money for someone to do a service for you for X amount of time.

You can still enjoy a meal with a person even if youve decided not to fuck them

This too. Like, I'll never in my life understand people who decide to make a scene and ruin a perfectly good meal over the fact that... no fucking is going to be occurring.

1. Sex is a perfectly natural thing and people need to stop making it seem like being attracted to someone is a bad thing.
2. Meals can be packed and eaten in a car, or at home.
3. You're not required to stay with someone you have no interest in.