Current Events > Do you honestly find talking to girls stressfull and intimidating?

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There are still men like this. Grown men.

I find talking to girls casually is just as easy as dudes. Flirting has always been tough for me.

Bump.

Im way more comfortable talking to women than dudes. I feel like I can display a wider spectrum of who I am with women.

Not usually

Some girls can be a bit intimidating though.

It really depends on the girl.

No? Wommen aren't a different species, why would you find it stressful to talk to them in particular?

I don't trust men very well after all the shit my former stepfather put me through like forcing to me to say "I love you" and he even tried to molest me at one point.

Women don't tend to want to play power games with strangers and new acquiantences from my experience. I feel at ease when we talk because I feel like I could trust them.

Definitely stressful

After a point in your life you stop caring about reputation and lose any wherewithal you had in your 20s. It's called your 30s. At that point you'll have no problem talking with anyone about anything. But it becomes hard to find people who want to talk.

Just the other night I on a whim I said hi to this cute woman walking down the street. She sat next to me, and we chatted for half an hour. By the end of the chat she wrote her number on my arm.

I love this city.

I dont have a problem talking to women and they dont seem to have a problem with approaching me either.

Has nothing to do with age, people handle social experiences and anxiety entirely different. Trying to shame someone over that because they are "grown men" is a shameful opinion.

I personally never had an issue.

No. Most of my Time in university was spent talking to more girls. Hell if I had to count all my friends I'd probably have more female friends than male friends now.

I find talking to anyone stressful.
Not that I have anything to talk about outside professional settings.

Nah, they're typically have more interesting things to say than most men. And, yeah, if you're a grown man and you're still treating them like a different species, something's gone wrong.

When talking to women, I sometimes have to remind myself that it works a little different from talking to men. Like "ah, I guess I should put a little more emphasis on sympathy and considering feelings", whereas with men, things are generally a little more grounded, pragmatic and to the point.

I find talking to people period, stressful and intimidating.

No
Women have always been very friendly with me throughout my life. So I've never really had much anxiety around them

luigi33 posted...

I find talking to girls casually is just as easy as dudes. Flirting has always been tough for me.

Yeah, this. I don't flirt well, I talk well. Flirting is strange for me.

Aressar posted...

When talking to women, I sometimes have to remind myself that it works a little different from talking to men. Like "ah, I guess I should put a little more emphasis on sympathy and considering feelings", whereas with men, things are generally a little more grounded, pragmatic and to the point.

I find that you can talk to both exactly the same way.

Nope. Found them much easier to talk to than male peers starting from around adolescence.

Glob posted...

I find that you can talk to both exactly the same way.

Lucky you. It varies to whoever I'm talking to, but where I'm from it's generally different. Like sure, I can try to talk to men and women the same way, but they won't find me pleasant or understanding to talk to.

Do people normally like being chatted up by strangers?
I'm always like "Do I know you? You using bluetooth or something?"

If you invest it with massive potential significance, it's going to be stressful.

If you just treat it as a casual, no big deal, thing then it won't.

Slayer_22 posted...

Yeah, this. I don't flirt well, I talk well. Flirting is strange for me.

I usually found that when I flirt, it only happens naturally when I vibe with the girl. Its only after that I'd realize, "yeah that was really flirting", but forcing it is super weird, like how some guys I've seen do it. Awkward.

Nope.

Talking to them without intention to flirt or date or anything? No.
Talking to them with even a hint of those? Yes, because Im terrible at banter and flirting and have poor social skills in general.

SpiritSephiroth posted...

I usually found that when I flirt, it only happens naturally when I vibe with the girl. Its only after that I'd realize, "yeah that was really flirting", but forcing it is super weird, like how some guys I've seen do it. Awkward.

Makes sense, I dunno if I've ever really flirted outright. I usually just...talk? Idk, calling it flirting is strange, I guess?

Talking to? No.

Flirting with? Yes. I find that sometimes that my talking can be confused with flirting. It took me years to realize that complimenting a woman on her appearance (simply because I liked the way her hair and clothes looked!) could be construed that way.

Nope. My only problem is I over think everything and am thus incapable of recognizing in the moment when I might be being flirted with. I can tease them, they can tease me, that was basically my entire relationship with a former coworker, but my brain just refused to accept that "she might actually be kinda into you".

No. I work at a women's only college, I talk to lots of different women every day and have no problem with it.

I find talking to any stranger to be stressful and intimidating. Doesn't matter what gender they are.

Once I know someone I can talk way too much... but I never initiate conversations with people I don't know

dave_is_slick posted...

My only problem is I over think everything and am thus incapable of recognizing in the moment when I might be being flirted with.

This is a problem that never goes away for me. It's just become more rare. Physicality is a big clue.