Current Events > For those with social anxiety I wanted to offer some advice.

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I objectivly know no one gives a shit about me but when my anxiety triggers my idiot brain makes my body want to flee, at that moment all reasoing goes away.

I do work on my social anxiety but its not as easy as that.

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Strong oh, youre depressed. Have you tried being happy instead? Energy

Strong oh, youre depressed. Have you tried being happy instead? Energy

Strong oh, youre depressed. Have you tried being happy instead? Energy

I've dealt with it along with the general reluctance to enrage with people due to low social battery - many people take for granted the energy it takes us to just go to the store...There's a game, and it's sequel that depicts this called "milk inside a bag of milk inside a bag of milk." People who don't have it, and people who do will get some perspective out of it - what we deal with.

Now, i wanted to offer some advice from my own struggles...I've found it easier to cope with it, and put myself out there from a thought..."No one gives a fuck about you."

In public people are struggling just to make ends meat - to get through the day without more trouble, so why the hell would they care about some rando pushing on a pull door, tripping in public on a stair, or dropping something? Some of them think if that's the worst that happens today it was a good day.

Basically, don't over think as it as no matter what your brain tells you it's kinda arrogant to think that every step you take, word you say, or move you make is being monitored. If that was the case you have a stalker on you, but consider that the reality is no one cares, so "fuck it!" Rip the band aid off and go for it because no one cares.

...Sorry, my cynical side came out again a bit, but hope it came off the right way. Just a thought: next time you wanna freeze from participating in something, or talking to someone consider what i said. I guarantee you it won't be as bad as you think it was in your head.

This strategy heavily depends on your environment. For example, if you live in a big city your anxiety can easily be heightened. This strategy feels more effective for people in smaller towns or cities because you dont have to interact with people in the suburbs or theres less populated areas.

Im not saying that social anxiety isnt a thing in small towns, this strategy may not necessarily be effective for someone to who lives in a major Metropolitan area.

I have severe social anxiety. Got diagnosed with that like 8 years ago, along side depression.

I probably have generalized anxiety too, considering how much just existing causes me panic attacks. Possibly PTSD from quite a few traumatic events in my life, and potentially avoidant personality disorder(which actually describes my life perfectly).

So, there's a lot to deal with just to function on a basic level. It takes so much energy and effort just to leave the house. I've grown to the point that I can handle interacting with the people that I have to,such as cashiers or whatever, but even that is stressful.

I've never felt like I developed into an actual person. Having to interact with more socially developed people makes me realize how far I fall short. I've always wanted to date, get married, and have kids... but that would require so much more than I'm capable of. Besides, as I am I'm not worth anyone's time or attention anyway. So... that just adds to my depression.

What if I just don't like people that much?

Never, ever compare yourself to others

They do tho. But it's only some people. And only for those moments you are near them.

If it doesn't work for you, fine, but don't attack TC, who I know is a good dude.

This honestly is bad advice, and people need to stop pushing it.

Strong social anxiety doesn't usually just form on its own. Many with a larger degree of it suffered through events (such as prolonged bullying and social ostracization) that brought it about and left scars that never quite managed to heal. If that is a form of "arrogance", you don't know what it actually is.

I have several social anxiety and what makes it even worse for me is that I'm black and gay and live in a small town full of bigots. So the whole no one gives a fuck about me mentality doesn't work. Because they most certainly do.