Poll of the Day > Does your life seems boring when you talk about it with others?

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Personally whenever I meet up with friends who I haven't seen in months, I often end up mentioning the same ol thing "Life, work, Boy Scouts, video games, and gaining weight". With friends who are book readers I would also talk about any new books that I read and about any books they have read. Not many play video games so I rarely talk about that.

In my case, all the "new and interesting" stuff I do tends to only be during the summer when I go camping with my Boy Scouts troop and backpacking and fishing with my mentor in the Sierras. Outside of the summer it really kinda is just "Life, work, Boy Scouts, video games, and gaining weight." so when, and this is a fault of my own, I talk about it doesn't seem that interesting as I'm almost a broken record at that point. After the summer is when I finally have something more substantial to talk about.

Does your life seems boring when you talk about it with others?

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It's a good question to ask and honestly, I suppose so.
The main reason is that they don't share the same passion for a few things that I do so while our interests might overlap in certain areas, it doesn't in other areas.

So if you were doing something that might interest someone but not others then it might be a bore to listen to.
As an example, I couldn't care less about what happened at the party or some late dance night club (but I always listen anyways) but I am sure that they don't care about hiking, political reforms in other countries and the like that I discuss with others (but that would bore to death other friends).
I wouldn't worry about it too much as I feel that it is normal unless you are drastically changing a lot of things in your life (and even when you do, it eventually becomes routine again).

In my experience, doing things together is what really makes a big difference like going to events together or doing sports together.

Very. In my view I enjoy what I do so it's not a big deal. But when people at work ask what I did on my time off the answer is usually 'not much'. I rarely plan vacations so the time off is because it's the slow season. Not being a fan of summer heat that means staying near AC. I don't do movies. Won't gab on the phone. Shopping, enh just occasionally. It's been years since I last played paintball or went snowboarding. Also years since I traveled more than an hour or two from home.

If you wanna talk games then great. Otherwise things have almost not changed since high school.

No, it seems boring in my head too.
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I have no one to talk about my life with but I know for a fact my life is deathly boring.
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TalesOfGod posted...

The main reason is that they don't share the same passion for a few things that I do so while our interests might overlap in certain areas, it doesn't in other areas.

DPsx7 posted...

In my view I enjoy what I do so it's not a big deal.

That's how I see it as well. I am enjoying Life and am having fun with what I do but if our interests do not coincide with one another, I do feel like I'm boring them out with some of our conversations.

Fortunately majority of my friends are civil engineers so talking about work is usually interesting except my projects tend to be small fries compare to the ones my friends handle so to some degree I feel even then I still seem boring. Between talking about a million dollar project versus the $1,000-5,000 projects that I handle, even if my friends only handle a small part of that million dollar project, it's hard to make mine sound interesting.
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You're doing pretty good. I'm going to end up the old guy that they found after 4 months when Netflix Auto payments stop rolling in.

Nope. I'm living the dream!
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Interesting, I didn't expect that many to feel their lives sound boring when talking about it with others. I can understand our lives sound boring if our interest doesn't coincide but figure in most cases people only do new and interesting stuff only during certain times of the year. Granted not everyone travels when on vacation. One coworker is spending two weeks for her daughter's Quinceanera and just chilling at home.

I have one friend who travels frequently throughout the year so its always neat to hear about her adventures. Personally I don't have the time nor funds to travel that often but am always interested in hearing of the adventures of others. Hell, I don't do deep sea fishing but always like to hear other Scout parents talk about their trips and what fishes they caught.
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While I've visited a couple of places over the years (Hawaii is the most memorable) I can't afford to take trips that often; so end up having to listen to my coworkers brag about their trips (such as Germany or Italy or a cruise in the Caribbean). To me it smacks of desperation since, when they aren't on trips, they're so bored that they watch Keeping Up with the Kardashians and other reality tv programs instead of doing other things like taking up a hobby or getting involved in the community. Too many people trying to lord it over others that they're so much better than the neighbors but it's all a cover to mask how cut off they are from everyone else.

GastroFan posted...

To me it smacks of desperation since, when they aren't on trips, they're so bored that they watch Keeping Up with the Kardashians and other reality tv programs instead of doing other things like taking up a hobby or getting involved in the community

Funny you mention that. As much as I play games or watch Netflix, I would feel my time is even more wasted if I didn't volunteer with my Boy Scouts troop. Of course I enjoy mentoring these Scouts and seeing them grow but it also gives me that satisfying feeling that I'm doing something useful for others and it helps break up the monotonic pace of going to work and back home.

Not directly related but in my first year after graduating and working it was almost depressing when I realize each day was more or less going to be the same task. I enjoy the work but at least with school each day was a little different. Of course I can't say I miss keeping up with homework, exams, projects, etc.
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InfestedAdam posted...

Interesting, I didn't expect that many to feel their lives sound boring when talking about it with others. I can understand our lives sound boring if our interest doesn't coincide but figure in most cases people only do new and interesting stuff only during certain times of the year. Granted not everyone travels when on vacation. One coworker is spending two weeks for her daughter's Quinceanera and just chilling at home.

Enh not that surprising. When you think about the daily routine there isn't a lot to chat about. It's as bad as social media. Do you think people actually care about every meal or your hourly decisions? No. Interesting things are infrequent.

DPsx7 posted...

When you think about the daily routine there isn't a lot to chat.

Touche. Doing something new everyday is probably uncommon for the average Joe/Jane especially if their work/post-work life rarely changes.
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InfestedAdam posted...

DPsx7 posted...

When you think about the daily routine there isn't a lot to chat.

Touche. Doing something new everyday is probably uncommon for the average Joe/Jane especially if their work/post-work life rarely changes.

Work, eat, online time, games, bed. That's what I have all week, more or less. I could do something different but then I'd need to break my habit about not spending lots of money or traveling. Even if I had social media I'd have nothing to write about. It's a routine I'm ok with since I've been doing it for years. And it's just as boring to read about as it'd be to discuss with anyone.

Doesn't help that I'm in a boring area. No D&B or other arcades. More pharmacies and useless cell phone stores than restaurants. Lotta empty stores as places close and nothing fills in. It's not like I'm in a rural area either.

My life is boring.
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It seems boring to me because I'm always wanting to do different things with my life, and so in talking about it, I'm sure it comes across pretty dry due to my view on it. But comparatively speaking, I know my life is more exciting than the average one and I really should appreciate it more because of that.

I feel like my life is incredibly boring, but I have co-workers who comment on how Im always busy and doing stuff that sounds fun. I find it weird that their perception of me is completely different from my own.
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faz posted...

My life is boring.

This x100
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The Popo posted...

I feel like my life is incredibly boring, but I have co-workers who comment on how Im always busy and doing stuff that sounds fun. I find it weird that their perception of me is completely different from my own.

Not to plug my own post earlier, but I think I know how you feel.

My average week is a little boring. But I try to break things up occasionally. I did cross a few things off my bucket list: skydiving, whitewater rafting, scuba diving. But, I don't talk about myself much, when I am with friends. I am more of a listener.
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I think anyone who isnt super wealthy is gonna have a fairly generic response when asked about the last couple months barring some major life event or out of the country vacation. Not that I dont go out and do things... I try to go and do something fun with friends, the gf, or both at least once or twice a week but even that most of the time isnt something you mention when someone asks what you've been up to the past couple months. At most it would be a passing comment like "saw a movie" or "went out to a pretty good restaurant" or "saw a band I like."

Most people dont have major life events happen once every few months

OhhhJa posted...

Most people dont have major life events happen once every few months

I don't believe that it's what you do, but what you take away from it and how you relive that while talking about it. Many people are into some otherwise mundane stuff, but for them, it's awesome. Likewise, there's this asshat I know that's always flying all around the globe and the way they talk about stuff they've done makes it sound so lame. Breakfast in Paris is still breakfast, my dude. It's just another bigass stinky city.

Not really. I'm always reinventing myself and adding something new to my itinerary. It makes it very easy to talk to people.
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InfestedAdam posted...

Does your life seems boring when you talk about it with others?

Absolutely. I hate when folk ask "so what have you been up to?" as it's always the same answer! "Absolutely fucking nothing". It's almost a bad of a question as "what do you do for a living?" although the answer is the same. When I do talk about my life I even bore myself. I'd much rather folk tell me about their lives and whatnot as I'm more a listener than a talker and their lives are no doubt more interesting than mine even if the same things keep coming up.
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GanglyKhan posted...

OhhhJa posted...

Most people dont have major life events happen once every few months

I don't believe that it's what you do, but what you take away from it and how you relive that while talking about it. Many people are into some otherwise mundane stuff, but for them, it's awesome. Likewise, there's this asshat I know that's always flying all around the globe and the way they talk about stuff they've done makes it sound so lame. Breakfast in Paris is still breakfast, my dude. It's just another bigass stinky city.

This is kinda true. Some people are super passionate about stuff that just isnt that cool lol. But that also doesn't necessarily make it interesting to the other person

GanglyKhan posted...

I don't believe that it's what you do, but what you take away from it and how you relive that while talking about it.

Good point. I'm not a good story teller so even if what I did was fun and exciting at the time, I have trouble retelling so might end up making it sound boring. If I focus on specific highlights and memorable moments, I'd imagine it'll sound more interesting and exciting even if one doesn't share the same interest.
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