Current Events > Well. I did it. I signed up for Grindr.

(+) Yeah! (+)

It's different to how I thought it would be. Tinder and other apps, apparently, are mostly viewing profiles in a row and swiping left or right. The way Grindr works, you have a bunch of pictures displayed together, starting with people geographically nearest to you, and getting further away, and after reading their profile you can either message or tap them (the latter shows you like the person). The people seem pretty open and outgoing, which stands to reason for an LGBT hook-up app. I'm disappointed at how many people "cheat", by uploading a semi-nude picture, but without the face showing. There are plenty of cute and good-looking guys there, which is actually kinda intimidating. Relatively young, too, with many in their 20s. I've already messaged a few guys I liked the look of, and gotten some responses. No offers to meet up, though.

The design features seem fine. You can view pictures, talk, and so on. There appear to be plenty of premium options, but the basic stuff seems more than enough for a person to connect with other people. There is something SLIGHTLY creepy and weird, though. The stuff the guys are up for. Also, although I have a good grasp of LGBT and sex slang, there are terms I don't quite, uh, get. Uh. I know what tops and bottoms are, of course, but I don't know what a ver bottom is. Also, wtf at the term "bear". Some of this is scary.

I do worry that, despite the common sensibility that Grindr is incredibly easy to get laid on, I won't be good or cool enough for the people there, or something. I dunno. I'm very average, plus my long-haired look doesn't seem representative of the average guy on there. Geographically speaking, however, I've already seen at least 20 or 30 guys within walking distance of where I live.

Thoughts on this?

time for funhawk

GL my dude

Most people get some action PRETTY quickly on Grindr, right? It's not like Tinder or Hinge?

I just got a tap to my phone from a gay couple!

Will dis be da first time to try da D?

Sunhawk posted...

I just got a tap to my phone from a gay couple!

And it begins!

Sunhawk posted...

I just got a tap to my phone from a gay couple!

Sunhawk about to get spitroasted.

No, I've had the D before. But not in quite a while.

Is Grindr a bit different in design from other similar apps?

Grindr is.... unique. About half the time your gonna get bot spammed by taps or random gif bots, of the other half, half of them are going to be auto pics of gentiles, usually wanting a quickie. The remaining smaller portion are actual people wanting to meet.

Gl though

Sunhawk posted...

Most people get some action PRETTY quickly on Grindr, right? It's not like Tinder or Hinge?

The average man's libido is generally a lot higher than the average woman's. Couple this with women having evolved to be more choosy because of the factors of pregnancy and all it entails while men avoiding that issue entirely, I'd expect a expect a more even spread of attention across the population of active users.

So I'd say, with zero experience on the app, yes.

Sunhawk posted...

It's different to how I thought it would be. Tinder and other apps, apparently, are mostly viewing profiles in a row and swiping left or right. The way Grindr works, you have a bunch of pictures displayed together, starting with people geographically nearest to you, and getting further away, and after reading their profile you can either message or tap them (the latter shows you like the person). The people seem pretty open and outgoing, which stands to reason for an LGBT hook-up app. I'm disappointed at how many people "cheat", by uploading a semi-nude picture, but without the face showing. There are plenty of cute and good-looking guys there, which is actually kinda intimidating. Relatively young, too, with many in their 20s. I've already messaged a few guys I liked the look of, and gotten some responses. No offers to meet up, though.

The design features seem fine. You can view pictures, talk, and so on. There appear to be plenty of premium options, but the basic stuff seems more than enough for a person to connect with other people. There is something SLIGHTLY creepy and weird, though. The stuff the guys are up for. Also, although I have a good grasp of LGBT and sex slang, there are terms I don't quite, uh, get. Uh. I know what tops and bottoms are, of course, but I don't know what a ver bottom is. Also, wtf at the term "bear". Some of this is scary.

I do worry that, despite the common sensibility that Grindr is incredibly easy to get laid on, I won't be good or cool enough for the people there, or something. I dunno. I'm very average, plus my long-haired look doesn't seem representative of the average guy on there. Geographically speaking, however, I've already seen at least 20 or 30 guys within walking distance of where I live.

Thoughts on this?

Ver or verse means they are versatile and will top or bottom. So a ver bottom means he prefers to bottom but will top. Bear means older, hairy, and/or chubby.

Thanks, that's interesting. And disturbing.

I asked some guy what he likes, and he replied that he likes a guy who fucks and kisses him at the same time. Someone spoke to me on the app!

How is a person supposed to pick who to meet up with? Just on looks? How far away they live? Whether they seem like a dangerous maniac or not? Shared interests?

@Sunhawk posted...

How is a person supposed to pick who to meet up with? Just on looks? How far away they live? Whether they seem like a dangerous maniac or not? Shared interests?

Biggest thing is whether or not they ask you off the app. If they want to go to any app that isn't grindr chances are they are running something

Even I know what a bear is lol

Just had a scary conversation. Some unattractive, seemingly overweight guy, who said he wanted me to meet with him and do various types of rough sex. I politely said no, and then he said alright, and blocked me. The sad thing is, I considered doing it.

Sunhawk topic.

wtf is so disturbing about "bear" lmao

silverpine posted...

wtf is so disturbing about "bear" lmao

It's a Sunhawk topic.

A guy I like liked my last message to him. Maybe I'll be getting laid with him. Who knows?

If you think bears are scary, you might wanna slow down and get used to the normal gay scene before you jump in too deep.

silverpine posted...

wtf is so disturbing about "bear" lmao

The real disturbing thing is he hasn't once shamed pinky in this topic and makes me think he's been mind controlled by aliens.

Have sex with everyone who messages you

Question

Do you find pinky0926 physically attractive, TC?

Evening_Dragon posted...

Even I know what a bear is lol

a hairy muscular-fat man

Rikatika posted...

If you think bears are scary, you might wanna slow down and get used to the normal gay scene before you jump in too deep.

For real, wolves be out there.

There's a guy who's not bad looking who I've spoken to a little. Maybe I'll meet up with him. There's some other guy who gave me a sarcastic response to something I asked him. There seem to be a lot of passive-aggressive people on Grindr.

What are other people's "approaches" to these apps? Speak to as many people as possible? Just speak to the people you think are really nice? Go with people who live near you?

You know, I had some fun on it a little while ago. Even though I don't know if I'm going to get to meet up with anyone, there's something good about looking at a picture of a guy with a six pack in his underwear, and sending him a message or two. Exciting. Some of the men seem dumb, though. I guess it doesn't matter, but it's annoying.

I wish I was gay

Id be slammin ass all over town

You know, a lot of people haven't even responded. Is that a red flag? Or is that a "normal" part of the hook-up and relationship app experience?

Ain't nobody got time to respond to every message

So youre done with old ladies?

PLEASE tell me dude whats disturbing about "bear"

I still don't know wtf an otter is. Apart from one of those furry creatures that live in water.

Sunhawk posted...

You know, a lot of people haven't even responded. Is that a red flag? Or is that a "normal" part of the hook-up and relationship app experience?

That kind of thing has become normalized with online dating. They might respond incredibly slowly, or not at all. Just move on from those.

I assumed it was basically normal.

I still don't know wtf an otter is.

it's like a bear, but little.

I see.

Wtf.

Bump.

Hello?

but why lol. I mean I tried it once but wtf sunhawk you're not gay

I'm bisexual. And stuff like Tinder is infamously well known for average looking guys, like me, getting almost completely ignored.

You on Prep? If not, you should definitely get on it.

What is this Prep I sometimes hear about?

Bump.