College is HORRIBLE. I can't make friends, I have to do a ton of homework, I can't meet people because lectures are too big. Everyone just wants to get drunk. do I need to go on? I was told college would be nonstop parties and sex and good times and cherished memories. Well, you all lied to me
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I like college. The "you can't make friends" thing doesn't bother me - I'm OK with the group of friends I already had before I went to uni. And if you don't like your homework and lectures, perhaps you didn't choose the right subject to study.
No doubt that B8 overrates college, though. High school is way better.
Join clubs/activities/etc. Learn better time management (seriously, in a couple years you will look back on Freshman year and wonder why you didn't have tons of free time).
Everyone just wants to get drunk. do I need to go on? I was told college would be nonstop parties and sex and good times and cherished memories.
Um...You realize the nonstop parties are where everyone goes to get drunk right? And the sex often follows from that.
Though you don't need to drink to enjoy college. You just have to find people to hang out with who aren't getting drunk.
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You don't have to drink to hang out with drunk people. In fact sometimes that's the most fun.
Also it's been what like a month? You're a freshman, give it a chance to settle, goddamn. Nobody likes gen ed classes, just do it and get it over with.
I'm in a Community College and I'm enjoying it quite a lot. Can't say it's better than high school, but it's at least on the same level right now, I can easily see it getting better.
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VF1MS Metal Siren posted... You don't have to drink to hang out with drunk people. In fact sometimes that's the most fun.
Also it's been what like a month? You're a freshman, give it a chance to settle, goddamn. Nobody likes gen ed classes, just do it and get it over with.
i have no gen ed classes or distributional requirements
and I hate hanging out with drunk/high people sober . . . it just seems like they're having more fun than I am. but I'm usually not the sober one.
It's my fourth week here and I am struggling to make real friends as well. It doesn't really bother me though because I know that it will eventually come with time if I just keep talking to random people. There's no doubt that I'm not the only non-drinker here, I just feel that people like us have a harder time actually finding each other because we tend to not go to parties (at least me) if we know that it's just going to be a bunch of people drinking.
A bright side to college so far is that my workload is a huge joke and it's easy as hell. I have so much free time!
I have met very few of my actual friends at parties/class... tons of acquaintances and "hey you're that guy from that place," but friends? I get most of them from random coincidental meetings where we just click and become friends. And then those random friends have other friends/girlfriends/etc. that you meet over time by hanging out with them, and repeat recursively.
From: foolmor0n | #030 I have met very few of my actual friends at parties/class... tons of acquaintances and "hey you're that guy from that place," but friends? I get most of them from random coincidental meetings where we just click and become friends. And then those random friends have other friends/girlfriends/etc. that you meet over time by hanging out with them, and repeat recursively.
This, exactly. I've only met a handful of people I would consider real friends during my time here and none of them happened in thsat typical sit beside each other in class and start talking to each other way. Pretty much all random meetings where we ended up finding common interests and then deciding to hang out.
But I can't say I've made any "best" friends at University. The guys I'm closest to are still my group from back in high school.. and I'm in my 4th year now.
foolmor0n posted... I have met very few of my actual friends at parties/class... tons of acquaintances and "hey you're that guy from that place," but friends? I get most of them from random coincidental meetings where we just click and become friends. And then those random friends have other friends/girlfriends/etc. that you meet over time by hanging out with them, and repeat recursively.
this
the entire thing is like a huge fibonacci sequence
most of my best friends came from clicking with someone down the hall from me, or joining a small club and getting close to them - or a friend's girlfriend's friend, or something
acquaintances are important because you can use your connections through them to find real friends
that said, I didn't really "click" with anyone til october of my freshman year. just gotta work with it
I lived at home the first two years and didn't drink until my senior year and classify as an introvert. However, I still made a ton of solid friends and had a blast. You're just doing it all kinds of wrong.