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pipebomb_phil 02/05/18 4:04:50 AM #1: |
Was watching a segment on tv about dating and first impressions and all of that. It inspired me to make this topic.
Basically it keeps getting more and more difficult for me to find that special someone because of who I am. I think people would consider me boring and that's completely fine. I don't like going out, I only enjoy socializing at work, I prefer being by myself most of the time, and things like that. I'm basically living in my own little world I guess. And I absolutely like it this way. I'm not complaining about that. But it does make it very difficult for me to meet new people. Again, I don't care too much about socializing I guess since I don't enjoy hanging out with people that much outside of work and the few times I have, I've gotten bored within an hour. I have no interest in new hobbies or ways to meet people. With that in mind, it basically seems like it would be impossible for me to find someone to date. I also don't think many girls would be interested me, but I could be wrong. I'm sure there's someone out there for me. I simply have not met her yet. And I can't picture myself living with a woman because I'm too boring. I'm not putting myself down or anything. This is just the way I feel and I feel like I'm being realistic. I am not interested in online dating through websites or apps. I'd rather meet a girl in real life. However, I am open to meeting women I've played online games with. I'm not actively looking for one or anything like that. But I have met a cool friend I play online games with and it would be cool to meet her in person. I prefer having online friends because I can relate with them much more. Oh and irl I'm pretty laid back, super nice, lots of people at work end up liking me, and I'm considered charismatic, which might sound a little weird because I'm often considered quiet. lol. I don't care if I get friendzoned by women because those are the types of women I wouldn't want to date anyways; women who wouldn't date a guy like me just for being 'too nice.' I guess that's about it. I was wondering if there's anyone who can relate with me? Oh and just wanted to say that I'm not the kind of person that only wants to date physically attractive women. I like to get to know them and all of that. I've met some great looking women who simply aren't interesting at all to me. p.s. I'm approaching my 30s and many women in my age group already have kids, divorced, or already in a relationship. I'm no where near ready to start a family. --- #pipebomb_phil http://i.imgur.com/atWQoAs.gif ... Copied to Clipboard!
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wwinterj25 02/05/18 5:50:51 AM #2: |
Only options I really see is either socialising, finding new hobbies, joining groups of current hobbies and/or online dating. Being as you're not interested in any of that your options are very limited. Not sure what to suggest really.
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Kyuubi4269 02/05/18 5:55:03 AM #3: |
Why do you want to date when you don't like doing anything? Just pay for an escort.
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TES_Nut 02/05/18 7:02:40 AM #4: |
Don't care about anyone's needs but your own. From there you can expand your social group to people that have qualities you value. They're about 6.5 billion people on the planet and the only ones that really matter are the ones that you choose to acknowledge.
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EvilMegas 02/05/18 7:04:21 AM #5: |
Just because you date someone with kids doesnt automatically make them your kids.
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OhhhJa 02/05/18 8:55:37 AM #6: |
EvilMegas posted...
Just because you date someone with kids doesnt automatically make them your kids. If you're going to commit to them that's not true though As for the topic, I think you should reconsider the online dating thing. Plenty of boring women out there who like to stay at home too. Might even find a yourself a cute gamer girl ... Copied to Clipboard!
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EvilMegas 02/05/18 10:11:43 AM #7: |
OhhhJa posted...
EvilMegas posted...Just because you date someone with kids doesnt automatically make them your kids. Even if you "commit" to someone, its not your responsibility to take care of their children unless you and your partner agree to that. And yeah, go date online. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Kyuubi4269 02/05/18 10:13:35 AM #8: |
EvilMegas posted...
Even if you "commit" to someone, its not your responsibility to take care of their children unless you and your partner agree to that. Yeah, no. When you commit, you share responsibilities. Marriage merely legally cements it. --- RIP_Supa posted... I've seen some stuff ... Copied to Clipboard!
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EvilMegas 02/05/18 10:14:50 AM #9: |
Youre talking to a single dad thats dating. Lmao
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Kyuubi4269 02/05/18 10:20:26 AM #10: |
EvilMegas posted...
Youre talking to a single dad thats dating. Lmao You being okay with women you're commited to not helping you doesn't make it not their responsibility. --- RIP_Supa posted... I've seen some stuff ... Copied to Clipboard!
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EvilMegas 02/05/18 10:21:27 AM #11: |
Please keep trying to speak as if you wrote the book on this when you have no clue.
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Kyuubi4269 02/05/18 10:27:08 AM #12: |
EvilMegas posted...
Please keep trying to speak as if you wrote the book on this when you have no clue. Says mister single dad, master of holding down committed women. --- RIP_Supa posted... I've seen some stuff ... Copied to Clipboard!
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pipebomb_phil 02/05/18 10:29:58 AM #13: |
Yeah, I could try online dating I suppose. Just to give it a try. I did try a few years ago but it was really quickly. I messaged a girl I found interesting and she appreciated the fact that I actually tried to start a conversation instead of using some dumb pick up line. lol. That was the end of it. But maybe I'll try again and this time for a little bit longer.
I know dating a woman that has children doesn't mean they'll be my responsibility, but there's the possibility of becoming attached to them, and I do think it's a big commitment. Thanks for the replies everyone. --- #pipebomb_phil http://i.imgur.com/atWQoAs.gif ... Copied to Clipboard!
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EvilMegas 02/05/18 10:59:41 AM #14: |
Kyuubi4269 posted...
EvilMegas posted...Please keep trying to speak as if you wrote the book on this when you have no clue. How will I ever recover from such a sick burn? --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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EvilMegas 02/05/18 11:01:04 AM #15: |
pipebomb_phil posted...
Yeah, I could try online dating I suppose. Just to give it a try. I did try a few years ago but it was really quickly. I messaged a girl I found interesting and she appreciated the fact that I actually tried to start a conversation instead of using some dumb pick up line. lol. That was the end of it. But maybe I'll try again and this time for a little bit longer. Very fair points. I really have no argument against that. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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OhhhJa 02/05/18 11:19:20 AM #16: |
EvilMegas posted...
Even if you "commit" to someone, its not your responsibility to take care of their children unless you and your partner agree to that. I can't tell you how to raise your kid but I disagree with that philosophy. I think every kid should have a good mother and father figure around. I dont think it's healthy to have a "stepdad" or "stepmom" who sees their significant other's kids as just kids that happen to live with you and the lady you're banging ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Kyuubi4269 02/05/18 11:36:01 AM #17: |
EvilMegas posted...
Kyuubi4269 posted...EvilMegas posted...Please keep trying to speak as if you wrote the book on this when you have no clue. Not a burn, an observation. You're in no position to question other people's relationship knowledge. --- RIP_Supa posted... I've seen some stuff ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Mead 02/05/18 11:38:39 AM #18: |
I mean there are attractive women that have married fat dudes that arent rich
Not sure why the concept of people falling for each other for reasons not solely based on physical experience is so hard for some to grasp --- All praise Mead ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Kyuubi4269 02/05/18 11:41:04 AM #19: |
Wrong topic, bro.
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pipebomb_phil 02/05/18 11:56:44 AM #21: |
Mead posted...
I mean there are attractive women that have married fat dudes that arent rich Maybe you should read my post first? I never mentioned anything about my physical appearance. --- #pipebomb_phil http://i.imgur.com/atWQoAs.gif ... Copied to Clipboard!
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OhhhJa 02/05/18 11:57:26 AM #22: |
pipebomb_phil posted...
Mead posted...I mean there are attractive women that have married fat dudes that arent rich He meant to post in a different topic lol ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Mead 02/05/18 1:47:47 PM #23: |
pipebomb_phil posted...
Mead posted...I mean there are attractive women that have married fat dudes that arent rich My apologies friend, I actually meant to post in duckbears topic about a supposed gold digger but somehow mistakenly posted it in your topic instead My bad --- All praise Mead ... Copied to Clipboard!
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LinkPizza 02/05/18 2:11:59 PM #24: |
Mead posted...
pipebomb_phil posted...Mead posted...I mean there are attractive women that have married fat dudes that arent rich I figured that's what happened. Haha. Also, I agree with EvilMegas. You don't have to take responsibility. But you can. I'm dating someone with kids. And they aren't mine. That being said, I would help if they ever asked me to. But it's different for every person. Also, I can understand what TC is saying about getting attached, too... --- 3DS Friend Code: 4742 6214 5315 Add Me because I'll probably add you. I'm probably the LinkPizza you'll see around. 0001 3388 9537, also. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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TheWorstPoster 02/05/18 2:36:35 PM #25: |
Go look at yourself in a mirror. Remind yourself that things could be worse. You could be me.
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lihlih 02/05/18 2:47:30 PM #26: |
I used to have a really hot coworker that had a really nerdy boyfriend that she met on WoW. I also have a really nerdy friend that never did anything with a girl before hook up a few times with a pretty hot girl he met on Ragnarok Online.
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EvilMegas 02/05/18 3:12:34 PM #27: |
LinkPizza posted...
Mead posted...pipebomb_phil posted...Mead posted...I mean there are attractive women that have married fat dudes that arent rich Thank you, rational person. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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pipebomb_phil 02/05/18 3:16:11 PM #28: |
Mead posted...
pipebomb_phil posted...Mead posted...I mean there are attractive women that have married fat dudes that arent rich My bad. I assumed you simply posted in the topic without reading (like you have done in the past). But my bad. --- #pipebomb_phil http://i.imgur.com/atWQoAs.gif ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Muffinz0rz 02/05/18 4:57:56 PM #29: |
pipebomb_phil posted...
Basically it keeps getting more and more difficult for me to find that special someone because of who I am. I think people would consider me boring and that's completely fine. I don't like going out, I only enjoy socializing at work, I prefer being by myself most of the time, and things like that. You and I are basically the same person. If given the choice of being home alone playing video games or going out and getting sloshed at a loud bar, I choose home 99/100 times (because once in a blue moon yeah I like going out, but like you, I get bored of it quickly). That being said, pipebomb_phil posted... I am not interested in online dating through websites or apps. You're going to have to get over this hump at some point. I understand the urge of wanting to meet a lovely lady on a video game (I've been friends with this girl I met on a Maplestory private server for five years, we just met up for the first time last month in Vegas). It's much more liberating talking to people over a game because there is no ulterior motive. But the odds of this ever turning into anything "real" are pretty much zero (one of us would have to move). I also would like to meet someone in real life, but again, this lifestyle of only work and home does not afford many opportunities to meet women. I know you're a bit older (I'm 25) but there's nothing wrong with setting your age range to women a bit younger, like maybe 24+. There are young women out there who prefer stability, which it sounds like you have. --- Not removing this until Pat Benatar is in Super Smash Bros. (Started 8/31/2010) FantaCE Football Squad: ELIMINATED. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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pipebomb_phil 02/06/18 12:29:25 PM #30: |
Muffinz0rz posted...
You and I are basically the same person. If given the choice of being home alone playing video games or going out and getting sloshed at a loud bar, I choose home 99/100 times (because once in a blue moon yeah I like going out, but like you, I get bored of it quickly) Yep. Same thing goes for malls, stores, etc. I don't drink so I never go to bars (did once or twice and it was boring for me). Muffinz0rz posted... You're going to have to get over this hump at some point. I understand the urge of wanting to meet a lovely lady on a video game (I've been friends with this girl I met on a Maplestory private server for five years, we just met up for the first time last month in Vegas). It's much more liberating talking to people over a game because there is no ulterior motive. But the odds of this ever turning into anything "real" are pretty much zero (one of us would have to move). True. Yeah I'll have to give online dating another try. I've heard people had good success with it so it's worth a shot again. I've accepted that online dating is normal in this day and age. Yeah, I'm open to dating women younger than me. I also think it would be good for me because a younger woman is likely to have a more fun mindset or whatever. Obviously not every younger woman is like that either. Unfortunately I don't have much stability at the moment because of some health problems, but I'm getting back on track. --- #pipebomb_phil http://i.imgur.com/atWQoAs.gif ... Copied to Clipboard!
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