Poll of the Day > Question for the men of this forum: are you OK with a wife who was promiscuous?

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With all the love for women having "sexual freedom" in the west, I'd love to see the responses here. Feel free to include why you feel this way, too.
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Does she have a serious STD? No? What's the problem then?
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you cant make a ho a housewife

Accidentally clicked no when I meant to click yes.

Was thinking, "No, I would not care."
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Marrying a virgin is like hiring a person with no cooking experience to make Filet Mignon at a 5 star restaurant. You want someone with experience if they are going to be the only person you bang for the rest of your life.
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If you've got a problem with it then you're racist
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If the men can have X number of "conquests" then why not women?
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Dikitain posted...

Marrying a virgin is like hiring a person with no cooking experience to make Filet Mignon at a 5 star restaurant. You want someone with experience if they are going to be the only person you bang for the rest of your life.

Wow. That makes no sense.
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Dikitain posted...

Marrying a virgin is like hiring a person with no cooking experience to make Filet Mignon at a 5 star restaurant. You want someone with experience if they are going to be the only person you bang for the rest of your life.

I'm alright with hiring a willing trainee to teach all the things I'd enjoy.
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Just kinda depends. She's gotta still respect herself and not be someone who talks about conquests.
I mean, my girlfriend is in college and it's the 21st century, so I know I'm not the first nor is she mine.
I've dated a self proclaimed slut and it was mediocre. It doesn't feel good to have a woman talking about other men with you.
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Why not? I remember talking to a guy who said he would want to marry a woman who had slept with a certain number of men, even though he claims to have slept with at least 3 times as many women as the number he gave. I asked him why he could have so many partners, but she couldn't. He really didn't have an answer, and then started thinking about it and said that what I said made sense.
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Well, let's flip this around on the TC then.

Are you OK with marrying (or having the father of your kids be) a man who slept with multiple women in his past?
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As long as she's clean then I see no issues, unless she has a bad history of being faithful what's the problem?

A wife that likes sex is a bonus in my books..

Why are you people bringing up men having lots of partners? Make another topic but idk if anyone is saying men can have a lot, but not women. We're just discussing what men think of women who do.
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T0ffee posted...

Well, let's flip this around on the TC then.

Are you OK with marrying (or having the father of your kids be) a man who slept with multiple women in his past?

Was he married to them? If not, then no. But it's worth saying that men and women are not equal in this respect. We pair bond differently and a promiscuous woman is statistically a LOT more likely to divorce as a result.
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There is nothing wrong with it as long as there are no STDs.
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I look at it like a sandwich. You'd enjoy it more if you knew for a fact nobody stuck their dick in it.
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myghostisdead posted...

If the men can have X number of "conquests" then why not women?

That's bogus. Real wife material girls don't want womanizers, either.

Sorry, if I'm dating a girl, I don't want to go to social functions in her hometown only to find out half the guys there have been inside her.

More exes=more drama=more likelihood of them going back to a former fling.
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SunWuKung420 posted...

Dikitain posted...

Marrying a virgin is like hiring a person with no cooking experience to make Filet Mignon at a 5 star restaurant. You want someone with experience if they are going to be the only person you bang for the rest of your life.

Wow. That makes no sense.

Says the man who married the first thing that showed up on his doorstep.
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myghostisdead posted...

If the men can have X number of "conquests" then why not women?

Neither should have "conquests".
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Dikitain posted...

Marrying a virgin is like hiring a person with no cooking experience to make Filet Mignon at a 5 star restaurant. You want someone with experience if they are going to be the only person you bang for the rest of your life.

Bangin is easier than mastering the art of a perfect steak

Believing that a series of sexual flings and failed relationships arms someone with the ability to successfully negotiate a long-term relationship and/or marriage, is like believing that someone will finish a marathon by training sprints.

Every relationship takes place at the intersection of vulnerability and expectations, both of which are responsibility of each member to personally manage.

Sleeping with a lot of guys in her past? I don't see why that would bother me. I've been with a lot of girls in college, so who am I to talk? If she were cheating, though, I wouldn't be cool with that, ok?
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SixthOne posted...

Believing that a series of sexual flings and failed relationships arms someone with the ability to successfully negotiate a long-term relationship and/or marriage, is like believing that someone will finish a marathon by training sprints.

It's called learning experiences my dude. You learn what you like and what you dont like. Failed relationships can teach you a lot. Settling on the first person you bang isnt really the best recipe for success either

I feel like my definition of promiscuous and yours are different so I'm not going to answer
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She can be sleeping around in the marriage as long as she is honest about it and she comes back to me.
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OhhhJa posted...

SixthOne posted...

Believing that a series of sexual flings and failed relationships arms someone with the ability to successfully negotiate a long-term relationship and/or marriage, is like believing that someone will finish a marathon by training sprints.

It's called learning experiences my dude. You learn what you like and what you dont like. Failed relationships can teach you a lot. Settling on the first person you bang isnt really the best recipe for success either

Simply revisit the portion of my post which you didn't quote. An individual's number of failed relationships and relative promiscuity only affect others insofar as their expectations of the individual in question are proven to be unrealistic. What is important to note beyond that is that not all failures and patterns of behavior result in an equal degree of useful feedback, nor is self-reflection necessarily an indicator of future success in an area with which an individual is unfamiliar. In regards to relationships, it is one of life's dirty little secrets that experience does not promise the requisite skill set required to make it to your golden anniversary; rather, a history of many relationships and subjective promiscuity correlate with an inability maintain a long-term relationship and/or marriage.

Again, nothing wrong with men sowing their wild oats, or women choosing to eschew sexual selectivity for the sake of a good time. The only harm is harboring unrealistic expectations about oneself or others in regards to succeeding in an area in which they are poorly equipped to do so.

How are we defining "promiscuous"? Your poll question basically makes it sound like "slept with more guys than just me"

Aculo posted...

Sleeping with a lot of guys in her past? I don't see why that would bother me. I've been with a lot of girls in college, so who am I to talk? If she were cheating, though, I wouldn't be cool with that, ok?

She is statistically more likely to cheat if she has more past sexual partners.
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Virgins are a horrible lay and I dont have time to explain what I want in the bed.
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Troll_Police_ posted...

stuck their dick in it

Surely, you mean "took a bite out of it".
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Tc is a garbage piece of shit human being

SixthOne posted...

Every relationship takes place at the intersection of vulnerability and expectations, both of which are responsibility of each member to personally manage.

Shit, that's probably the realest thing I've ever heard about relationships. That's a really good post.

JanwayDaahl posted...

Question for the men of this forum: are you OK with a wife who was promiscuous?

In the hypothetical situation that I have a wife and/or kids I'd imagine I'd have known about her past before I married her/had kids with her so that would suggest I'm fine with her past yes. There could be many reasons why someone has a lot of sexual partners but all that matters is she's faithful to me as I would be her. I'd say the same if said gal was just my girlfriend too. Life is too short for me to limit my options and expect a virgin gal to fall into my arms and marry me at my age. Not that I'd actually want that anyway.
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JanwayDaahl posted...

Aculo posted...

Sleeping with a lot of guys in her past? I don't see why that would bother me. I've been with a lot of girls in college, so who am I to talk? If she were cheating, though, I wouldn't be cool with that, ok?

She is statistically more likely to cheat if she has more past sexual partners.

Sure. More likely to cheat. But not definite. And most are saying as long as she's faithful, why would they care. And that really that. They may be more likely to cheat, but if they don't, then why would it matter. There are people who haven't had lots of sexual partners and cheat as well. Nobody wants a cheater. But having a lot of partners does not immediately make you a cheater...
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I think TC wants everyone to be in a arranged marriage at the age of 13. Well the girls anyway.
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It's 2018 and one of Jan's most tired trolling tactics is getting near 40 replies
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JanwayDaahl posted...

She is statistically more likely to cheat if she has more past sexual partners.

Generally speaking, before marrying somebody, you should get to know them well enough to not have to rely on statistics to predict whether or not they'll cheat. Statistics don't really mean much when you've got detailed information on the individual.
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Wouldn't be a big deal. If I'm marrying her, it means I know her and trust her.
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I'd prefer it if my wife knew how to ride a dick, yes.
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EclairReturns posted...

Troll_Police_ posted...

stuck their dick in it

Surely, you mean "took a bite out of it".

i meant what i said
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Troll_Police_ posted...

I look at it like a sandwich. You'd enjoy it more if you knew for a fact nobody stuck their dick in it.

I agree with the sandwich part...
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I'm OK with marrying a woman who will sleep with multiple men after we get married.
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I'm asexual, so the real question is whether they'd be okay with me.

McSame_as_Bush posted...

Wouldn't be a big deal. If I'm marrying her, it means I know her and trust her.

The problem is that with women who initiate divorces in the west, it may "manifest" (quotes because it's the excuse used) itself as due to another problem entirely, though the core problem has to do with an inability to pair bond. In other words, your feelings of trust may betray you in this case.
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nah brah. i'd just be thinking of all the dicks
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It somewhat depends on the circumstances. If they've been looking for a stable relationship for a long time but haven't had much luck finding a good partner, that's fine. There's definitely some degree of luck involved in finding a good partner and not everyone gets it right on the first try. If instead, they just had a number of casual partners because they weren't interested in a serious relationship, that gives me some pause because it makes me wonder if they're willing to put in the effort needed to make a relationship work.

I suppose one could argue that you probably wouldn't marry someone if you weren't convinced they were sufficiently committed to the relationship, though with the current divorce rate I wonder how many people adequately consider this before tying the knot.
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Smiffwilm posted...

Does she have a serious STD? No? What's the problem then?

This. Standard insecurity and juvenile mindsets around women having to be "pure" etc. It's a hair away from the incel mindset tbh.
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Syntheticon posted...

Smiffwilm posted...

Does she have a serious STD? No? What's the problem then?

This. Standard insecurity and juvenile mindsets around women having to be "pure" etc. It's a hair away from the incel mindset tbh.

"Waaa, it's juvenile to expect others to hold themselves to a high standard! You have to be an incel to not want to commit to a non-commital fuck toy!"
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