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im not 13 posted...

I never quite understood this

Ignore the guys sending dick pics and size up the actual decent suiters... I can't imagine how this is harder than the average guy trying to get a date on tinder. It's freaking brutal out there

It's called exhaustion. Not everyone has time or drive to sift through hundreds of nothings to find the actual worthwhile people beneath. Online dating promises us connections, but instead it feels like a chore.

Like imagine you see a guy you might be interested at the far end of a room, but to get to him, you have to push and shove your way through a throng of men with their dicks hanging out. Is it really worth it for something that's not even close to a sure thing anyway?
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ArchiePeck posted...

im not 13 posted...

pinky0926 posted...

This scenario is not enjoyable for women either.

If you're looking for someone who is compatible and that you can form a meaningful connection with, 900 offers from chodes asking if you want to fuck so they can leave and never speak to you again is about as useful as an all you can shit buffet.

I never quite understood this

Ignore the guys sending dick pics and size up the actual decent suiters... I can't imagine how this is harder than the average guy trying to get a date on tinder. It's freaking brutal out there

One of my friends was telling me that she gets daily messages from creepy looking guys on these apps like "Do anal?" and "Can I finish on your boobs". I imagine that very quickly starts to sour your enthusiasm for dating.

That's both hilarious and sad at the same time.
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cuttin_in_farm posted...

People have no clue how applicable children stories are to real life.

Goldilocks told us how a middleground is important.

Replies in all caps and cartoonish request like pulling teeth arent taken seriously. Its too extreme. Bad experiment.

Yeah, she didn't put any thought into how the other side would interpret her posts. What kind of person who likes to fake pregnancies would tell the entire world "I LOVE to fake pregnancies!"? How are you supposed to get away with it if everyone knows it?

Returning_CEmen posted...

One of my female friends was telling me about this. She showed me a picture of her chubby friend, and she was like she is a slut, its ridiculous. She gets dudes that are way out of her league that just use her for sex.

Key phrase there. That's the difference in obstacles for relationships for guys and girls. Guys have a hard time getting laid, while girls have a hard time landing solid relationships. Your friend's friend is doing herself no favors in making herself a plaything to the Chads who also have the attention of 70% of the rest of the female dating site demographics so they can pick, choose, and refuse.
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im not 13 posted...

I never quite understood this

Ignore the guys sending dick pics and size up the actual decent suiters... I can't imagine how this is harder than the average guy trying to get a date on tinder. It's freaking brutal out there

You have 500 messages in your inbox and all of them say "hey". How motivated do you feel to delve into the profile of and chat to every single one of those guys to figure out which ones are the decent ones? How far do you take it before the guy reveals his fuckboy personality?

The issue here isn't that women struggle to get dates. No one is going to argue that: of course women have it easier to get that initial date. What they struggle with more is finding someone who wants to stick around after sex.
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pinky0926 posted...

im not 13 posted...

I never quite understood this

Ignore the guys sending dick pics and size up the actual decent suiters... I can't imagine how this is harder than the average guy trying to get a date on tinder. It's freaking brutal out there

You have 500 messages in your inbox and all of them say "hey". How motivated do you feel to delve into the profile of and chat to every single one of those guys to figure out which ones are the decent ones? How far do you take it before the guy reveals his fuckboy personality?

The issue here isn't that women struggle to get dates. No one is going to argue that: of course women have it easier to get that initial date. What they struggle with more is finding someone who wants to stick around after sex.

Awww poor babies, I feel so sawry for dem
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JBaLLEN66 posted...

Awww poor babies, I feel so sawry for dem

Stupid response to what was effectively "yes guys have it tough no doubt but women have different problems with the same situation".

Nobody is asking for pity. Just stop being a bunch of neckbeard victims.
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I came to the conclusion online dating is bs, especially when I clearly posted I wasn't interested in women with children and then of course several women contact me and when I shot them down because their profile says they have kids they freaking had a meltdown over the message.
Once I stood online dating I was able to find my wife in the real world.
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pinky0926 posted...

JBaLLEN66 posted...

Awww poor babies, I feel so sawry for dem

Stupid response to what was effectively "yes guys have it tough no doubt but women have different problems with the same situation".

Nobody is asking for pity. Just stop being a bunch of neckbeard victims.

Yea, these losers are screwing up the topic.

Dudes ruined online dating for EVERYONE. This isnt a wah, guys have it hard topic.

Obviously the focus is on how it affects guys, but still.
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pinky0926 posted...

im not 13 posted...

I never quite understood this

Ignore the guys sending dick pics and size up the actual decent suiters... I can't imagine how this is harder than the average guy trying to get a date on tinder. It's freaking brutal out there

You have 500 messages in your inbox and all of them say "hey". How motivated do you feel to delve into the profile of and chat to every single one of those guys to figure out which ones are the decent ones? How far do you take it before the guy reveals his fuckboy personality?

Because it's so "rigged" for guys, fuckboys are craftier than ever in their approach. They play the perfect gentleman right up until they get what they want (sex), and then drop it faster than a hot potato. At this point the game is rigged in the man's favour.

The issue here isn't that women struggle to get dates. No one is going to argue that: of course women have it easier to get that initial date. What they struggle with more is finding someone who wants to stick around after sex.

Yeah I won't say that is a good thing, but that is still very preferable to what guys deal with. I'd rather sort through a hundred dick pics than send a hundred messages with barely any responses.

People need to cut it out with this "both sides" crap. Women generally have it easier with dating though this also varies a lot individually based on attractiveness. Again, not saying women don't have their own problems, but I'd much rather take theirs. You are always better off receiving a ton of messages than waiting for a reply.

Getting that initial date is a big step in finding a relationship. Guys get used for sex too. Some girls just want a one night stand.
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CyricZ posted...

TommyG663513 posted...

I have a job during the graveyard hours.

Healthcare workers. Look for nurses or other healthcare professionals. They keep the oddest of hours, so you'll have that in common, and some of them clean up damn good.

Yeah I won't deny any of that, but it is always much easier said than done. I can't just look for nurses unless she is out wearing her scrubs.
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TommyG663513 posted...

I'd rather sort through a hundred sick pics than send a hundred messages with barely any responses.

Grass is greener.

TommyG663513 posted...

Women generally have it easier with dating

How often have you accepted a date worried that your date might attempt to physically overpower you?
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CyricZ posted...

TommyG663513 posted...

I'd rather sort through a hundred sick pics than send a hundred messages with barely any responses.

Grass is greener.

TommyG663513 posted...

Women generally have it easier with dating

How often have you accepted a date worried that your date might attempt to physically overpower you?

Nonsense. Women do have it easier in dating. The vast majority of women aren't living in fear of rape on every date. If there is even a mild suspicion then bail on the guy.

I have been on dates where someone could physically overpower me. I also date men. I've never genuinely suspected someone of those types of ill intentions though.

You can say, women have it a lot easier in dating meanwhile acknowledging the issues that are more specific to women.
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CyricZ posted...

TommyG663513 posted...
Women generally have it easier with dating

How often have you accepted a date worried that your date might attempt to physically overpower you?

lol wtf?

Cyric buddy I respect waminz just as much as you but this isn't a thing...
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im not 13 posted...

pinky0926 posted...

This scenario is not enjoyable for women either.

If you're looking for someone who is compatible and that you can form a meaningful connection with, 900 offers from chodes asking if you want to fuck so they can leave and never speak to you again is about as useful as an all you can shit buffet.

I never quite understood this

Ignore the guys sending dick pics and size up the actual decent suiters... I can't imagine how this is harder than the average guy trying to get a date on tinder. It's freaking brutal out there

Bit hard to just "ignore" hundreds and hundreds of people just wanting a quick fuck
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TommyG663513 posted...

Yeah I won't say that is a good thing, but that is still very preferable to what guys deal with. I'd rather sort through a hundred dick pics than send a hundred messages with barely any responses.

People need to cut it out with this "both sides" crap. Women generally have it easier with dating though this also varies a lot individually based on attractiveness. Again, not saying women don't have their own problems, but I'd much rather take theirs. You are always better off receiving a ton of messages than waiting for a reply.

Getting that initial date is a big step in finding a relationship. Guys get used for sex too. Some girls just want a one night stand.

I honestly don't know a single woman who doesn't loathe online dating as much as every CE user who complains about it.

Women don't have it easier with dating, I truly don't believe that at all. They have it easier getting a date, they have a worse time not being used for sex.

I've never had a woman lie to me about her intentions, i.e. pretend she's looking for something meaningful and then drop me after sex. This seems to be the default for most women's experiences, though.

Everyone is unhappy with dating for the most part. We all just want to meet someone and spend a lot of time being rejected, being harrassed or just failing to even get a connection.
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pinky0926 posted...

JBaLLEN66 posted...

Awww poor babies, I feel so sawry for dem

Stupid response to what was effectively "yes guys have it tough no doubt but women have different problems with the same situation".

Nobody is asking for pity. Just stop being a bunch of neckbeard victims.

Honestly are you surprised lol

These are the same dudes who whine about girls saying they're lonely but not wanting to fuck anything that moves
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pinky0926 posted...

I honestly don't know a single woman who doesn't loathe online dating as much as every CE user who complains about it.

Women don't have it easier with dating, I truly don't believe that at all. They have it easier getting a date, they have a worse time not being used for sex.

I've never had a woman lie to me about her intentions, i.e. pretend she's looking for something meaningful and then drop me after sex. This seems to be the default for most women's experiences, though.

Everyone is unhappy with dating for the most part. We all just want to meet someone and spend a lot of time being rejected, being harrassed or just failing to even get a connection.

I don't doubt online dating is complete **** but it's like you are ignoring the fact that loads of crappy bad responses with a few potential good ones beat none at all.
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TommyG663513 posted...

The vast majority of women aren't living in fear of rape on every date.

I'm not suggesting "every date", I'm asking you a question. If your answer is "never", then you have it easier than the average woman, plain and simple. How often do you plan a backup? Someone to call you and check in? Do you make sure to make the first date is in a public place for your own safety, or do you do so being cognizant of their desire for safety?
TommyG663513 posted...

You can say, women have it a lot easier in dating meanwhile acknowledging the issues that are more specific to women.

You can say it, but you'd be wrong from the perspective of personal safety, or at least ill-informed, and basing your perceptions of your own experience without knowledge of how the other half lives, as it were.
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im not 13 posted...

pinky0926 posted...

I honestly don't know a single woman who doesn't loathe online dating as much as every CE user who complains about it.

Women don't have it easier with dating, I truly don't believe that at all. They have it easier getting a date, they have a worse time not being used for sex.

I've never had a woman lie to me about her intentions, i.e. pretend she's looking for something meaningful and then drop me after sex. This seems to be the default for most women's experiences, though.

Everyone is unhappy with dating for the most part. We all just want to meet someone and spend a lot of time being rejected, being harrassed or just failing to even get a connection.

I don't doubt online dating is complete **** but it's like you are ignoring the fact that loads of crappy bad responses with a few potential good ones beat none at all.

This. Dating is generally easier for women. Way easier to get better at it when other people do the more difficult part, the initial approach.

I will acknowledge a number of things where women have it harder than guys, but they have an advantage in dating.
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CyricZ posted...

I'm not suggesting "every date", I'm asking you a question. If your answer is "never", then you have it easier than the average woman, plain and simple. How often do you plan a backup? Someone to call you and check in? Do you make sure to make the first date is in a public place for your own safety, or do you do so being cognizant of their desire for safety?

Any sane person should do this...why is it limited to women?
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im not 13 posted...

CyricZ posted...

I'm not suggesting "every date", I'm asking you a question. If your answer is "never", then you have it easier than the average woman, plain and simple. How often do you plan a backup? Someone to call you and check in? Do you make sure to make the first date is in a public place for your own safety, or do you do so being cognizant of their desire for safety?

Any sane person should do this...why is it limited to women?

Because it's more likely that the dude will do something shitty because they can't handle rejection, and guys have the physical advantage. Not saying all or even most guys do this, but it's a lot more possible than vice versa.
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im not 13 posted...

Any sane person should do this

Yet our boy TommyG has said he hasn't.

I can say that throughout my (limited) amount of dating, I've never felt it necessary to have a backup for the purpose of my own safety.
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Hulkasaurusrex posted...

I agree thirsty guys hurt women more than anything because they don't really got to try. It gives them no reason to improve. I saw an article and they made a profile with a hot girl and said the worst shit still had tons of replies.

Found it

http://www.cracked.com/blog/4-things-i-learned-from-worst-online-dating-profile-ever/

The profile is pretty funny

aaroncarterfan sounds like someone who posts on CE.
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im not 13 posted...

pinky0926 posted...

I honestly don't know a single woman who doesn't loathe online dating as much as every CE user who complains about it.

Women don't have it easier with dating, I truly don't believe that at all. They have it easier getting a date, they have a worse time not being used for sex.

I've never had a woman lie to me about her intentions, i.e. pretend she's looking for something meaningful and then drop me after sex. This seems to be the default for most women's experiences, though.

Everyone is unhappy with dating for the most part. We all just want to meet someone and spend a lot of time being rejected, being harrassed or just failing to even get a connection.

I don't doubt online dating is complete **** but it's like you are ignoring the fact that loads of crappy bad responses with a few potential good ones beat none at all.

At this point we're sort of arguing "what's worse, a shit buffet or a shit sandwich". Does it even matter? Everyone walks away hating the experience, just for different reasons.

Women are not excited about the prospect of having 500 gross and overtly sexual offers that often end in threats and insults anymore than you and I are excited of logging in to see a "no new messages" icon. But they brave it anyway because they want to meet someone, just like you do.
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im not 13 posted...

CyricZ posted...

I'm not suggesting "every date", I'm asking you a question. If your answer is "never", then you have it easier than the average woman, plain and simple. How often do you plan a backup? Someone to call you and check in? Do you make sure to make the first date is in a public place for your own safety, or do you do so being cognizant of their desire for safety?

Any sane person should do this...why is it limited to women?

It's not limited to women. The point is that women think about this stuff all the time because they've always had to, men don't because they've probably never had to worry about it.

When you go on a date with a woman she's told her friends and her mother where you're going and sent a photo to someone. Halfway through the date when you go to the toilet she's texting her friends to say you seem ok. At the end of the date she's telling them if she's going home or back to yours, and she's telling them your address.

Guys just don't do that, because for guys its maybe an afterthought.

I'm not saying any of this to dubiously point out some kind of "unfairness". It's just a point that women worry about their safety in this situation, a lot more than men do.
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cuttin_in_farm posted...

Flockaveli posted...

Conversate isnt a word. You meant converse.

Are you fucking stupid?

Complains that women lack communication abilities. Gets called out for lack of vocabulary. Reacts like a person who lacks communication abilities.
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I'All_My_Life posted...

Because it's more likely that the dude will do something shitty because they can't handle rejection, and guys have the physical advantage. Not saying all or even most guys do this, but it's a lot more possible than vice versa.

CyricZ posted...

Yet our boy TommyG has said he hasn't.

I can say that throughout my (limited) amount of dating, I've never felt it necessary to have a backup for the purpose of my own safety.

Meeting someone for the first time is risky for both parties. A man feeling confident enough not to call for "backup" doesn't change this

Meet in a public place...I don't see how it's more scarier for women lol

What is he going to do, suplex you in the middle of a restaurant if you aren't interested?
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Well that's a silly hypothetical but yes, there have been many incidents where men didn't take rejection well. Vice versa is also possible but way less likely and frequent for obvious reasons
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im not 13 posted...

I don't see how it's more scarier for women lol

Yes, I see that you don't see this.
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CyricZ posted...

im not 13 posted...

I don't see how it's more scarier for women lol

Yes, I see that you don't see this.

It's an exhausting conversation to be honest, and it's the same story every time.

Women: By the way do you realise I think about this stuff all the time?
Men: What do you mean?
Women: My safety. It's not that I think you're a rapist, but I just have a conscious mind on all the risks and take lots of precautions when going on dates, stuff that you probably don't do or stuff you don't think about.
Men: *thinking about this topic seriously for the first time in his life* Woah hang on a minute there sweetheart, men can be hurt too. Men are at risk just as much as you are. I don't appreciate these sexist assumptions! A woman can use a gun or a knife just as capably as a man can. In fact, here are all the hypothetical scenarios I can imagine where a woman might physically threaten a man, have you thought about that?

Thank God for Not All Man
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Out of all the girls I've interacted with, dated, been on dates with or even talked to about dating I have never heard someone "feared physical violence" before

I've heard dozens of horrible date stories but none that ends in fear of assault

Your emphasis is as more women fear violence on a first date than don't

But please Cyric educate me :)
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pinky0926 posted...

JBaLLEN66 posted...

Awww poor babies, I feel so sawry for dem

Stupid response to what was effectively "yes guys have it tough no doubt but women have different problems with the same situation".

Nobody is asking for pity. Just stop being a bunch of neckbeard victims.

Id rather have an excessive abundant of options than face constant rejection and lose outright self confidence in yourself. You are a fool if you think being a woman is harder than a man when it comes to dating outside safety concerns.
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JBaLLEN66 posted...

pinky0926 posted...

JBaLLEN66 posted...

Awww poor babies, I feel so sawry for dem

Stupid response to what was effectively "yes guys have it tough no doubt but women have different problems with the same situation".

Nobody is asking for pity. Just stop being a bunch of neckbeard victims.

Id rather have an excessive abundant of options than face constant rejection and lose outright self confidence in yourself. You are a fool if you think being a woman is harder than a man when it comes to dating outside safety concerns.

It's hard for women and men in different ways. Why does it have to boil down to "NO it's HARDER for ME because NOBODY WILL GIVE ME ATTENTION"

You're just bitter and lack perspective
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Also, being hammered with dick pics and people who aren't interested in you long-term doesn't exactly do wonders for your self-confidence either
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Jesus H Christ this topic is sad.
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girls are indeed picky and men are not from my experience. i only have men on my tinder now. everytime I turn on the girl option again I'd be happy to get 3 matches out of the 100 I swipe right. whereas with men when I'm in a new town it's all match match match
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All_My_Life posted...

JBaLLEN66 posted...

pinky0926 posted...

JBaLLEN66 posted...

Awww poor babies, I feel so sawry for dem

Stupid response to what was effectively "yes guys have it tough no doubt but women have different problems with the same situation".

Nobody is asking for pity. Just stop being a bunch of neckbeard victims.

Id rather have an excessive abundant of options than face constant rejection and lose outright self confidence in yourself. You are a fool if you think being a woman is harder than a man when it comes to dating outside safety concerns.

It's hard for women and men in different ways. Why does it have to boil down to "NO it's HARDER for ME because NOBODY WILL GIVE ME ATTENTION"

You're just bitter and lack perspective

Because the other perpesctive is utter bull****
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JBaLLEN66 posted...

Id rather have an excessive abundant of options than face constant rejection and lose outright self confidence in yourself. You are a fool if you think being a woman is harder than a man when it comes to dating outside safety concerns.

And yet women have as many if not more self confidence issues. Why could that be?

Maybe "500 gross men want to use my body like a giant cocksleeve and will emotionally manipulate me in order to get it" is honestly not preferable or encouraging.

Once again we're seriously asking the question "what would you rather have, a shit sandwich or a shit buffet" and treating it like an important competition to see which option wins.
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All_My_Life posted...

Also, being hammered with dick pics and people who aren't interested in you long-term doesn't exactly do wonders for your self-confidence either

Its called having standards and filters. Women have it so hard because this is so hard to do lol.
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pinky0926 posted...

JBaLLEN66 posted...

Id rather have an excessive abundant of options than face constant rejection and lose outright self confidence in yourself. You are a fool if you think being a woman is harder than a man when it comes to dating outside safety concerns.

"500 gross men want to use my body like a giant cocksleeve and will emotionally manipulate me in order to get it" is honestly not preferable and you would be a fool if you think women perceive that scenario positively at all."

Once again we're seriously asking the question "what would you rather have, a shit sandwich or a shit buffet" and treating it like an important competition to see which option wins.

If you are getting only 500 gross men then A). You need to raise your value or B) you are just exaggerating and living in some fantasy land waiting for some Prince Charming.
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pinky0926 posted...

And yet women have as many if not more self confidence issues. Why could that be?

Maybe "500 gross men want to use my body like a giant cocksleeve and will emotionally manipulate me in order to get it" is honestly not preferable or encouraging.

Once again we're seriously asking the question "what would you rather have, a shit sandwich or a shit buffet" and treating it like an important competition to see which option wins.

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JBaLLEN66 posted...

All_My_Life posted...

Also, being hammered with dick pics and people who aren't interested in you long-term doesn't exactly do wonders for your self-confidence either

Its called having standards and filters. Women have it so hard because this is so hard to do lol.

I'm not following you

What implies they don't have standards? They want a bf, but all they can seem to get are peeps who want to pump and dump. Do you not see how this would fuck with your head?
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But you just giving some dumbass answers anyway lol so I'm wasting my time. You keep sitting there thinking nobody who gets attention can possibly struggle with the dating game
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JBaLLEN66 posted...

All_My_Life posted...

Also, being hammered with dick pics and people who aren't interested in you long-term doesn't exactly do wonders for your self-confidence either

Its called having standards and filters. Women have it so hard because this is so hard to do lol.

Bro, you sound like a loser.

Women have it hard because every single dude is a hound for them. Dudes with no long term prospects either show their cards early (dick pic ppl), or use disguises.

This is the issue. Thirsty dudes who dont want to date bombard women under the guise of being a good guy.

Good guys that want to take their time arent in enough numbers and their innate approaches are being stolen by fuckboys.

Women have no clue who is who, and theres no reliable way to decipher it. Ive friends who show me their messages of dudes that 180 their personality or never stop trying. Its fucking ridiculous.

Dudes should be embarrassed. All these losers are making online dating impossible.
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cuttin_in_farm posted...

RoboLaserGandhi posted...

Rich girls ruined online dating.

They use it as a sugar daddy finder and they're literally everywhere on them. I wish I could filter that shit out.

I dont think you know what a sugar daddy is.

I'm talking about women whose parents are rich and all they are are "Instagram influencers" so they need a rich dude to pay the bills eventually.

CyricZ posted...

im not 13 posted...

Any sane person should do this

Yet our boy TommyG has said he hasn't.

I can say that throughout my (limited) amount of dating, I've never felt it necessary to have a backup for the purpose of my own safety.

I always let someone know where I'm going when I meet a person through online dating. Doesn't matter if it is a guy or girl I'm meeting. I always meet in a public place like a bar, restaurant, or coffee shop. I don't do it, because I live in feat. It just seems like a safe precaution to take. I would never invite someone I've never met in person before to my own residence.

Meeting an online date in a public place and letting friends know where you are should be standard for everyone. Catfishing and other weird stuff is always a possibility. Typically I try to friend them on social media before meeting so I know they're a real person.
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The whole conversation thing has been my issue of late.

All the women I meet and date lately have been absolute dogshit at conversing, and had almost no unique personalities whatsoever. They've all seemed to want me to be the one starting and leading conversations at all times, as well as the one always deciding what we should do.

I don't want a fucking lapdog, I want a partner.
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cuttin_in_farm posted...

JBaLLEN66 posted...

All_My_Life posted...

Also, being hammered with dick pics and people who aren't interested in you long-term doesn't exactly do wonders for your self-confidence either

Its called having standards and filters. Women have it so hard because this is so hard to do lol.

Bro, you sound like a loser.

Women have it hard because every single dude is a hound for them. Dudes with no long term prospects either show their cards early (dick pic ppl), or use disguises.

This is the issue. Thirsty dudes who dont want to date bombard women under the guise of being a good guy.

Good guys that want to take their time arent in enough numbers and their innate approaches are being stolen by fuckboys.

Women have no clue who is who, and theres no reliable way to decipher it. Ive friends who show me their messages of dudes that 180 their personality or never stop trying. Its fucking ridiculous.

Dudes should be embarrassed. All these losers are making online dating impossible.

I'm not trying to say women don't have I hard. We all do. It's just that dating IS easier for women. Why is it so hard for people to admit that in one aspect of life that women generally have it easier?

Again, I'm bisexual. I get dick pics too. It is a lot easier to ignore those people or outright block them that it is to come up with a way to stimulate conversation. One requires clicking a button and the other requires actual thought. What are people not understanding about that?

Not all guys are just sending dick pics either. Most guys just want a decent date. Plenty of guys get roped into paying for dinner or drinks for a girl that doesn't care about them. Don't act like men never get taken advantage of. Women can be awful people too.
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Guys should start putting on their profiles that they're looking for someone who's interesting to talk to. Thoughtless thots usually know they're boring and won't match. Quality over quantity.
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