Poll of the Day > I'm turning 30 in a few months. Does it hurt?

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seriously though. I know its not healthy or whatever to compare yourself to other people but I feel soooo far behind in life and I feel like Ive run outta youre still young time <_<

how are/were your 30s? Did you like them more or less than your 20s?

I didn't feel that until I hit 40. That's when I started really feeling like my time is ticking down.

38 hit like a truck for me.

36 sucked.
Before that, all fine

Hasnt hurt on my end.

But Im 100% with you on the feeling like youre running out of time thing. Im definitely so far behind on normal things that I realistically cant see myself ever catching up.

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30's was fine.

40's feels like my body is in a constant war with my mind over how old I really am.

kind9 posted...

I didn't feel that until I hit 40. That's when I started really feeling like my time is ticking down.

Dikitain posted...

40's feels like my body is in a constant war with my mind over how old I really am.

30's is when you have occasional aches and pains, and start realizing that you're getting old.

40's is when your body slowly begins to self-destruct one piece at a time.

Yes

I started getting bad knee pain literally a month after I turned 30.

Unless you're someone whose entire life revolved around being the hot young stud (unlikely given that you're posting on an ancient video game forum, just saying. Statistically unlikely) or you're so unhealthy that you have a massive influx of issues awaiting you at an unusually young age (possibly more likely for the aforementioned reason), then generally speaking your 30s are far superior to your 20s.

Also a lot of people don't find whatever makes them happy or inspires them until even later, so it's really never too late to get your shit together.

I turn 50 in February, it hurts.

wait until you get to 60...

I'm approaching 40 and don't feel any different than I did when 20. I don't look that much different too.

It's the worst pain you'll ever feel in your life up until that point, assuming you haven't given birth.

No.

if you're active you're fine, if you're not active, you're not. start lifting, start doing cardio

or be like me, don't do anything in your late 20s and early 30s, pick skateboarding and lifting back up at 36, and eat tremendous amounts of shit and strain your tendons seemingly beyond repair

Your thirties are wear you want to decide if you want a relatively healthy back nine or if you want to die by your mid sixties. Start exercising if you don't, cut out most the garbage food, stop smoking cigarettes, cut drinking back to occasionally.

People say smoking takes the last ten years off of your life. That's not true. You go from middle aged to elderly without that 'golden' era. Gonna be wrinkly and lurching by your mid fifties.

I had knee pain for like a year when I was 28, and then I started adding leg abductions/adductions to my gym routine, and now I can hop around on one leg again. Have no idea why that worked, but it fixed it entirely.

My hair started thinning at 25, but I used Nioxen shampoo and that fixed that.

I'm not overweight and never have been, I think that's the most important part of not falling apart in middle age.

I can relate. I always feel left behind and dread milestone birthdays because of age stereotypes. It also reminds me how much time I've wasted accomplishing nothing or only bad things.

ParanoidObsessive posted...

40's is when your body slowly begins to self-destruct one piece at a time.

Makes sense, that's when the warranty expires.

At 36, I think the main issue is not being were I want to be in life by now. Other than that, physically I'm better than I probably should be considering my horrible diet, Pepsi addiction and lack of exercise. I also apparently still look like I'm in my 20's so that's nice.

My life became astronomically better at 35, but everybody is on their own journey.

30's have been a significant improvement over my 20's.

I got married in my late 30s.

I'm turning 35 in a few months, and so far, so good. I think a lot of it has to do with how you take care of yourself, both physically and mentally, how well you adjust your lifestyle as you get older, and making new friends / acquaintances. If you / the people you stick around with can't change / evolve, and can't get past how things were when you were in college, you're going to have a rougher and rougher time as you get older.

Im 36, Ive enjoyed my 30s. Biggest complaint is that my body is definitely noticeably not what it used to be and I know thats just a trend thats gonna continue for the rest of my life.

Other than that, I have a much better idea of what I want out of life than I did in my 20s and much more financial stability and security which allows me to prioritize those things. All in all, lifes good and it wont last forever so Im just trying to enjoy it.

30 is when minor injuries you accrue continue to hurt - you never seem to heal properly any more

40 is when you start getting spontaneous injuries.

Lokarin posted...

30 is when minor injuries you accrue continue to hurt - you never seem to heal properly any more

40 is when you start getting spontaneous injuries.

At 47, these are lies.

MrMelodramatic posted...

I feel like Ive run outta youre still young time <_<

Yeah, I'm right there with you. IMO it's not necessarily a bad mindset to have, as it can help motivate you to get yourself in order. I'm still working on that myself but I think I'm better off in part because of that mindset.

Life started for me at 30, only issue is the random aches and colds knocking you on your ass.

Aren't you married, have a decent job and master's degree? I know none of those are earth-shattering accomplishments, but I don't know why you feel "behind".

Meanwhile I'm pushing 35 with a flailing career, no gf and next to no real friends and yes I'm lowkey freaking out about it all the time

It hurts as much as turning any other random number. Live your life bro. The Earth going around the Sun in a multiple of ten since you were born doesn't really mean all that much.

Lokarin posted...

30 is when minor injuries you accrue continue to hurt - you never seem to heal properly any more

I randomly threw out my back a couple years ago just by stretching and was immobilized for three days.

Before that, I twisted my ankle on a curb and it didn't fully heal for six months. Although, I was able to walk again after a week or so.

As a late bloomer with anxiety, depression, and autism, and who missed "normal" milestones due to surgery/medical trauma, I'm right there with you guys.

I'm 26 and haven't done anything I want to. I can't accomplish anything. I don't even want much, but I can never seem to get it. Every day it feels like the system is already built for all of us to fail and I was just unlucky enough to be one of the people who was born in a way that dooms me to being easily tossed aside by society's demands. I've missed out on so much already. But I don't even know what of it is my fault and what isn't. It really hurts because I am an ambitious and passionate person who enjoys so many things, wants to try so many things, wants to work so many jobs, and wants to see and experience so many places -- yet even though God gave me all this amazing nature, they cursed me to never be good enough to actually accomplish any of them. I was made wrong. My worst fear is looking back and having nothing but regrets. What if by the time I finally "figure it all out" I'm too old or don't have enough time to enjoy it?

To be honest, if it wasn't for my love of art and my family keeping me afloat I would just kms

...But I want to keep trying no matter what. Certainly some kind of joy awaits me? However small it may be I just want to accomplish one thing, and if I can do that, I can find a way to be happy. Until then I keep taking my 6 medications to get me through each day, go to therapy, cry it out, suck it up, and keep going forward because it's the only direction time goes whether I want it to or not. Even if I feel years younger than I actually am and hate where I live and have no self-esteem and can't get a break from the intrusive thoughts, I'll keep going because the one thing about getting older is that I'm realizing how nobody else knows what they're doing, either. Periods of regrets, "I wish", and hating ourselves are all, unfortunately, just part of the both terrible and beautiful human condition.

I can say 100 negative things about myself but the one thing I know I'm not is a quitter. At the end of the day I still always have that.

Not even going to lie, it's probably going to suck, OP, and you can't make it not suck -- but you can at least make it bittersweet. Use the day to look back at what you have accomplished and set new goals for yourself. None of us are dead yet, we're just depressed, but that doesn't have to be forever.

SunWuKung420 posted...

At 47, these are lies.

That's too bad it all started earlier for you.

Flappers posted...

As a late bloomer with anxiety, depression, and autism, and who missed "normal" milestones due to surgery/medical trauma, I'm right there with you guys.

Don't worry about other people's milestones and where you think you should be by a certain point in your life. Try to focus on being good with where you are and being good with who you are.

I spent too much of my 20's thinking I was falling behind everyone who was getting married, had what I saw as more meaningful careers, starting families, but I eventually said fuck it and decided to embrace being by myself.

Bought a very modest house on my own and figured it'd be me and my dog together for the next decade and then I met my wife and her two kids. Things can work out, but life doesn't give a shit about whatever timelines you create for yourself.

As soon as you wake up on your 30th birthday you immediately die in horrible pain, but are brought back to life by a capricious and cruel god of senescence who forces you to relive this ritual every day for the rest of your life as he drains a little bit of your remaining vitality each time.

People in their 20s always feel that way. I wish I had spent my 20s worrying less. Your 30s is when you finally accept that your big dreams are pretty much dead and you're just gonna be a cog in the wheel and probably not be able to retire lol

I'm 30 and my gf is a handful of years younger; the way COVID hit us was pretty different

AltOmega2 posted...

I'm 30 and my gf is a handful of years younger; the way COVID hit us was pretty different

She couldn't go to school?

30 just felt like the eleventh year of my 20's. 31 was when I felt it. Not physically though, it was just the point when I felt like I bridged that gap.

Lokarin posted...

40 is when you start getting spontaneous injuries.

I was walking to the bathroom the other day and my ankle/calf suddenly felt like I'd sprained it or somehow stress fractured it. I have literally no idea what could have possibly caused it - I didn't turn too fast, misstep, trip, or anything else. It was literally just one step I was fine, the next step I was broken.

This is life now.

It's also pretty common to just wake up in the morning and have pains you didn't have the night before, and no real idea what caused them.

OhhhJa posted...

People in their 20s always feel that way. I wish I had spent my 20s worrying less. Your 30s is when you finally accept that your big dreams are pretty much dead and you're just gonna be a cog in the wheel and probably not be able to retire lol

I agree with the second part of this, but it's still possible for some people to accomplish their dreams depending on what they are. Very few people get to accomplish their dreams while still young. And to be honest, 30 isn't even that old when you consider that people nowadays are living into their 80s.

You have to keep talking positively to yourself no matter how shitty and inept you feel, otherwise you'll start wanting to die.

Flappers posted...

I agree with the second part of this, but it's still possible for some people to accomplish their dreams depending on what they are. Very few people get to accomplish their dreams while still young. And to be honest, 30 isn't even that old when you consider that people nowadays are living into their 80s.

You have to keep talking positively to yourself no matter how shitty and inept you feel, otherwise you'll start wanting to die.

Yeah, there are plenty of people that succeed late. It's that most people just give up at that point because they believe their time is up. No one should ever stop seeking to improve.

drizzt_rocks posted...

She couldn't go to school?

technically yes lol
but only because she works at a school

Salrite posted...

Yeah, there are plenty of people that succeed late. It's that most people just give up at that point because they believe their time is up. No one should ever stop seeking to improve.

This is very true.

I should probably correct that to, "No one should ever feel like they need to stop improving". It's okay to just lose the motivation and be satisfied with where you are. Life is hard and contentment is a gift.

Salrite posted...

I should probably correct that to, "No one should ever feel like they need to stop improving". It's okay to just lose the motivation and be satisfied with where you are. Life is hard and contentment is a gift.

That was pretty much the point of my post really. You learn to be satisfied as you get older. Most people will probably never attain the picture perfect dream life they envisioned in their youth but it's important to appreciate what you have and to not worry about chasing something your entire life

ParanoidObsessive posted...

It's also pretty common to just wake up in the morning and have pains you didn't have the night before, and no real idea what caused them.

ya, sometimes I'll wake up with a nasty leg cramp that doesn't seem to related to anything I ate or the amount of exercise I did the previous day