Poll of the Day > Tips to reduce extreme anger?

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minervo posted...

OhhhJa posted...

minervo posted...

Yes. At least crackheads will tell you their own story, while a professional will only tell you what you're doing wrong, thereby crushing your spirit and inflating their pocket.

Dude. I'm not trying to be an asshole but every post you make is telling me you need some counseling

Well then offer some fucking counselling, and stop hoping others will do it for you!

PROFESSIONAL COUNSELING IS DIFFERENT FROM ADVICE ON A MESSAGE BOARD.

Message boards didn't exist 30 years ago. What would someone have done 30 years ago? Pursued professional help. Attend free mens groups. Attend anger management groups.

Or 30 years ago you would've drank yourself into oblivion watching TV, instead of being able to broadcast your sorry state to the masses online under the guise of 'seeking help'. A bunch of ****ing nerds online can't help you, especially if you won't even listen to the few functioning adults here.
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Is everyone here to serve you? Everyone should do the counseling you should seek from the professionals? Why don't YOU stop hoping others will do things for you when you clearly need to do some things for yourself.
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ReturnOfFa posted...

Is everyone here to serve you? Everyone should do the counseling you should seek from the professionals? Why don't YOU stop hoping others will do things for you when you clearly need to do some things for yourself.

The whole point of this topic is that i need real friends. Do u know what a real friend is? It's someone who will b there for you when shit hits the fan.

I'm just playing right now, I come here to play, laugh, learn and test my wits. But i hadn't had a cigarette or craved one in an hour thanks to you guys. You guys are counsellors and you don't even know it!
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jramirez23 posted...

I think she said that so that you feel like you should quit smoking.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OrPnE-VDvv4" data-time="

I see that now. I love her, glad i could express my rage here and not in her face.
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minervo posted...

ReturnOfFa posted...

Is everyone here to serve you? Everyone should do the counseling you should seek from the professionals? Why don't YOU stop hoping others will do things for you when you clearly need to do some things for yourself.

The whole point of this topic is that i need real friends. Do u know what a real friend is? It's someone who will b there for you when shit hits the fan.

I'm just playing right now, I come here to play, laugh, learn and test my wits. But i hadn't had a cigarette or craved one in an hour thanks to you guys. You guys are counsellors and you don't even know it!

That last sentence just seems like more deflection from you actually dealing with whatever it is you're 'playing' at. A friend is someone who is real with you. I don't really relate, because any time I've been at my lowest...sometimes I've had friends around, sometimes I've been completely isolated...it's always ME that has to make the final action. Friends are good, but I've known too many people to use friends as crutches. Must I reasonably deal with the **** hitting the fan for the 40th time? If you don't have a friend who'll drive you to anger management, you better learn how to read a bus schedule.
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minervo posted...

jramirez23 posted...

I think she said that so that you feel like you should quit smoking.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OrPnE-VDvv4" data-time="

I see that now. I love her, glad i could express my rage here and not in her face.

Sorry I'm being so harsh. This is always a plus, I suppose. Just like, know there are ways to learn to quell the anger!
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Find friends with common creative interests in environments that won't foster anger as much? Magic The Gathering?
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ReturnOfFa posted...

minervo posted...

ReturnOfFa posted...

Is everyone here to serve you? Everyone should do the counseling you should seek from the professionals? Why don't YOU stop hoping others will do things for you when you clearly need to do some things for yourself.

The whole point of this topic is that i need real friends. Do u know what a real friend is? It's someone who will b there for you when shit hits the fan.

I'm just playing right now, I come here to play, laugh, learn and test my wits. But i hadn't had a cigarette or craved one in an hour thanks to you guys. You guys are counsellors and you don't even know it!

That last sentence just seems like more deflection from you actually dealing with whatever it is you're 'playing' at. A friend is someone who is real with you. I don't really relate, because any time I've been at my lowest...sometimes I've had friends around, sometimes I've been completely isolated...it's always ME that has to make the final action. Friends are good, but I've known too many people to use friends as crutches. Must I reasonably deal with the **** hitting the fan for the 40th time? If you don't have a friend who'll drive you to anger management, you better learn how to read a bus schedule.

But this is the first time you heard of my issue. It's the magic of many outlets. I never go to one person and ask them to solve all my problems. And once i learn a lesson, i keep it forever. I've conquered it, and i'm not afraid to share my experiences either.
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There should be some low-cost/subsidized therapy. Besides, even if they don't tell you this upfront, you have the right to dump them whenever if you think that they are not helping you. You know they are good if you feel like they are definitely trying to understand your perspective.
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jramirez23 posted...

There should be some low-cost/subsidized therapy. Besides, even if they don't tell you this upfront, you have the right to dump them whenever if you think that they are not helping you. You know they are good if you feel like they are definitely trying to understand your perspective.

I wonder what would happen if i set up a counselling stand on the side of the street? 10 bucks for an hour! :P
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I have had to deal with anger issues my whole life. ...and the one thing that helped me was counseling, honestly. I know it sounds stupid, but I learned some valuable lessons. Of course, it helps when you have a good counselor and not some jackass that's just going off of a book.
What I learned: You have to realize that you control your thoughts - they don't control you. ...so when you get mad, you have to change the way you're thinking. My counselor told me to scream "stop it!" in my head. ...or if that didn't work, to find a room or some space that isn't occupied and scream it out loud. I got to a point where I was just saying "stop it, stop it, stop it..." over and over in my head till my anger went away. Of course, you have to replace that anger with good thoughts, so think of something positive to replace those thoughts with.
Also, breathing techniques help. Make a conscious effort to think about your breathing. Take slow deep breaths using your diaphragm. When you inhale, your chest shouldn't puff out, your belly should. When you exhale it should go back in. This is the proper way to breath. ...so many people breath the wrong way, and they don't even know it. Do this for a minute or two.
Other than that, my own advice would be to find some new friends and learn to just let go of things. I know it's hard - I still have problems with it. ...but at least you know you have a problem, and that's a good start.
Good luck.
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minervo posted...

The whole point of this topic is that i need real friends. Do u know what a real friend is? It's someone who will b there for you when s*** hits the fan.

it sounds like you need a friend to be a therapist for you and that's not any friend's obligation sorry

Ah, rage. The great equalizer.

Also a good way to get shot on the highway.
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It's called therapy.
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Find your calm center.
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Bunch a selfish jerks here. Don't listen to them. A real friend will listen to you and be there when you need it. I have one or two good friends like that - they've been there for me when things are lookin' crazy, and I always answer their calls or visit them when they're down.
If you can't count on a friend for some help when you're down, then what good are they?
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_EggplantWizard posted...

Bunch a selfish jerks here. Don't listen to them. A real friend will listen to you and be there when you need it. I have one or two good friends like that - they've been there for me when things are lookin' crazy, and I always answer their calls or visit them when they're down.
If you can't count on a friend for some help when you're down, then what good are they?

Its entirely possible that TC like many people doesnt have a friend like that, so good job making him feel even worse
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jesus see a therapist you fucking nutcase
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Well dude, stop being a baby and start taking responsibilities for yourself. Trust me. I've been there with emotional issues before. You just gotta take an interest in your health too. That's important. Anyone who says otherwise can fuck off. Like that fat acceptance movement, lol

As an alcoholic, I don't recommend trying to quit drinking without attending a 12 step program. Even then you'll probably relapse dozens of times before sobriety sticks.

As for cigarettes, you can never quit. Once you're hooked nothing will stop you from lining the pockets of tobacco companies until you're in the dirt.

Good luck! :)

ReturnOfFa posted...

buy books on quitting smoking.

lmao, but that would take money away from the cigarette action. NEXT
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GanglyKhan posted...

It's called therapy.

Its called fuck off, I like raging.
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ungubby posted...

As for cigarettes, you can never quit. Once you're hooked nothing will stop you from lining the pockets of tobacco companies until you're in the dirt.

Only the weak. I quit cold turkey.
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SunWuKung420 posted...

Only the weak. I quit cold turkey.

Do you seriously think TC has that kind of personal resolve? >_>
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minervo posted...

The whole point of this topic is that i need real friends. Do u know what a real friend is? It's someone who will b there for you when shit hits the fan.

ParanoidObsessive posted...

Start cutting, emo kid.

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minervo posted...

Tips to reduce extreme anger?

Watch anime about cute girls doing cute things.
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SunWuKung420 posted...

ungubby posted...

As for cigarettes, you can never quit. Once you're hooked nothing will stop you from lining the pockets of tobacco companies until you're in the dirt.

Only the weak. I quit cold turkey.

Not everyone has your enlightened chakras
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Mead posted...

SunWuKung420 posted...

ungubby posted...

As for cigarettes, you can never quit. Once you're hooked nothing will stop you from lining the pockets of tobacco companies until you're in the dirt.

Only the weak. I quit cold turkey.

Not everyone has your enlightened chakras

False.
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Solid Sonic posted...

GanglyKhan posted...

It's called therapy.

Its called fuck off, I like raging.

It boggles my mind that people actually have that attitude then become even more upset when people aren't dropping everything to come to their rescue after the crash.
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Slow, deep breaths helps quite a bit in my experience, give it a good 30 seconds
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For the people saying slow breathing, I think he's struggling with more than just sudden flashes of anger. He has more of an issue with a constant, underlying anger which is probably rooted in depression and anxiety

OhhhJa posted...

For the people saying slow breathing, I think he's struggling with more than just sudden flashes of anger. He has more of an issue with a constant, underlying anger which is probably rooted in depression and anxiety

It's not gonna cure it, but it'll definitely help, I have the same issues (though probably not too that extent, but that depends who you ask)
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Honestly, a lot of my sessions with a therapist have been a whole lot of me venting, and not a ton of input from them. I have certainly never gotten the impression from any of my therapists that they are just "telling me what's wrong with me and lining their pockets". If I got that vibe, I would go to a different one.

Sure, they have also guided me and provided strategies for how to cope with my problems, but that honestly seemed like a smaller part of my sessions. And keep in mind, you don't have to agree with everything they tell you. Mine tried digging into my relationship with my brother for a few sessions and wanted me to take steps to patch things up, until a flat out told him I will not do that. Then he left it alone and we moved onto other things.
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SunWuKung420 posted...

Mead posted...

SunWuKung420 posted...

ungubby posted...

As for cigarettes, you can never quit. Once you're hooked nothing will stop you from lining the pockets of tobacco companies until you're in the dirt.

Only the weak. I quit cold turkey.

Not everyone has your enlightened chakras

False.

Everyone has your enlightened chakras
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Mead posted...

SunWuKung420 posted...

Mead posted...

SunWuKung420 posted...

ungubby posted...

As for cigarettes, you can never quit. Once you're hooked nothing will stop you from lining the pockets of tobacco companies until you're in the dirt.

Only the weak. I quit cold turkey.

Not everyone has your enlightened chakras

False.

Everyone has your enlightened chakras

False.
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Mead posted...

_EggplantWizard posted...

Bunch a selfish jerks here. Don't listen to them. A real friend will listen to you and be there when you need it. I have one or two good friends like that - they've been there for me when things are lookin' crazy, and I always answer their calls or visit them when they're down.
If you can't count on a friend for some help when you're down, then what good are they?

Its entirely possible that TC like many people doesnt have a friend like that, so good job making him feel even worse

I'm only trying to help. You're the disgusting jerk that wants to project their feelings on everyone else. Look at what I wrote. I'm trying to give good advice. You just want to tell the TC how fucked he is, and that he should stop asking for help from his friends. You say he should go spend money on a counselor, because that's what all the brainwashed sheep do.
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_EggplantWizard posted...

Mead posted...

_EggplantWizard posted...

Bunch a selfish jerks here. Don't listen to them. A real friend will listen to you and be there when you need it. I have one or two good friends like that - they've been there for me when things are lookin' crazy, and I always answer their calls or visit them when they're down.
If you can't count on a friend for some help when you're down, then what good are they?

Its entirely possible that TC like many people doesnt have a friend like that, so good job making him feel even worse

I'm only trying to help. You're the disgusting jerk that wants to project their feelings on everyone else. Look at what I wrote. I'm trying to give good advice. You just want to tell the TC how fucked he is, and that he should stop asking for help from his friends. You say he should go spend money on a counselor, because that's what all the brainwashed sheep do.

I did not tell him any such thing

Youre obviously pretty mad, probably not the best person to give TC advice with this issue
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yeah sorry but confiding in a friend is one thing but using them as an unpaid therapist is another

maybe you wouldn't struggle with friendships if you didn't only use them for emotional labor
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Mead posted...

_EggplantWizard posted...

Mead posted...

_EggplantWizard posted...

Bunch a selfish jerks here. Don't listen to them. A real friend will listen to you and be there when you need it. I have one or two good friends like that - they've been there for me when things are lookin' crazy, and I always answer their calls or visit them when they're down.
If you can't count on a friend for some help when you're down, then what good are they?

Its entirely possible that TC like many people doesnt have a friend like that, so good job making him feel even worse

I'm only trying to help. You're the disgusting jerk that wants to project their feelings on everyone else. Look at what I wrote. I'm trying to give good advice. You just want to tell the TC how fucked he is, and that he should stop asking for help from his friends. You say he should go spend money on a counselor, because that's what all the brainwashed sheep do.

I did not tell him any such thing

Youre obviously pretty mad, probably not the best person to give TC advice with this issue

You said that I made him feel worse. Did I? Did I really? ...or is that just you projecting your own thoughts? I gave him plenty of advice on how to cope with anger. ...and I'll gladly be his friend. What's your problem?
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_EggplantWizard posted...

Mead posted...

_EggplantWizard posted...

Mead posted...

_EggplantWizard posted...

Bunch a selfish jerks here. Don't listen to them. A real friend will listen to you and be there when you need it. I have one or two good friends like that - they've been there for me when things are lookin' crazy, and I always answer their calls or visit them when they're down.
If you can't count on a friend for some help when you're down, then what good are they?

Its entirely possible that TC like many people doesnt have a friend like that, so good job making him feel even worse

I'm only trying to help. You're the disgusting jerk that wants to project their feelings on everyone else. Look at what I wrote. I'm trying to give good advice. You just want to tell the TC how fucked he is, and that he should stop asking for help from his friends. You say he should go spend money on a counselor, because that's what all the brainwashed sheep do.

I did not tell him any such thing

Youre obviously pretty mad, probably not the best person to give TC advice with this issue

You said that I made him feel worse. Did I? Did I really? ...or is that just you projecting your own thoughts?

Literally every post on this board is the projection of someones thoughts
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Mead posted...

_EggplantWizard posted...

Mead posted...

_EggplantWizard posted...

Mead posted...

_EggplantWizard posted...

Bunch a selfish jerks here. Don't listen to them. A real friend will listen to you and be there when you need it. I have one or two good friends like that - they've been there for me when things are lookin' crazy, and I always answer their calls or visit them when they're down.
If you can't count on a friend for some help when you're down, then what good are they?

Its entirely possible that TC like many people doesnt have a friend like that, so good job making him feel even worse

I'm only trying to help. You're the disgusting jerk that wants to project their feelings on everyone else. Look at what I wrote. I'm trying to give good advice. You just want to tell the TC how fucked he is, and that he should stop asking for help from his friends. You say he should go spend money on a counselor, because that's what all the brainwashed sheep do.

I did not tell him any such thing

Youre obviously pretty mad, probably not the best person to give TC advice with this issue

You said that I made him feel worse. Did I? Did I really? ...or is that just you projecting your own thoughts?

Literally every post on this board is the projection of someones thoughts

No shit! Really? Thanks for taking my post out of context. ...and maybe you didn't mention anything about counseling, but you still want to be a jerk, and that doesn't help.
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_EggplantWizard posted...

You say he should go spend money on a counselor, because that's what all the brainwashed sheep do.

Mead posted...

_EggplantWizard posted...

Mead posted...

_EggplantWizard posted...

Mead posted...

_EggplantWizard posted...

Bunch a selfish jerks here. Don't listen to them. A real friend will listen to you and be there when you need it. I have one or two good friends like that - they've been there for me when things are lookin' crazy, and I always answer their calls or visit them when they're down.
If you can't count on a friend for some help when you're down, then what good are they?

Its entirely possible that TC like many people doesnt have a friend like that, so good job making him feel even worse

I'm only trying to help. You're the disgusting jerk that wants to project their feelings on everyone else. Look at what I wrote. I'm trying to give good advice. You just want to tell the TC how fucked he is, and that he should stop asking for help from his friends. You say he should go spend money on a counselor, because that's what all the brainwashed sheep do.

I did not tell him any such thing

Youre obviously pretty mad, probably not the best person to give TC advice with this issue

You said that I made him feel worse. Did I? Did I really? ...or is that just you projecting your own thoughts?

Literally every post on this board is the projection of someones thoughts

You do realize what "projecting" means in a psychological way, right? It means that you are putting your own feelings onto something or someone that may not share those views at all. ...so when you say that I made the TC feel down, that's your own opinion, not his and not mine. Just because you feel some way, that doesn't mean I do or he/ she does.
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_EggplantWizard posted...

Mead posted...

_EggplantWizard posted...

Mead posted...

_EggplantWizard posted...

Mead posted...

_EggplantWizard posted...

Bunch a selfish jerks here. Don't listen to them. A real friend will listen to you and be there when you need it. I have one or two good friends like that - they've been there for me when things are lookin' crazy, and I always answer their calls or visit them when they're down.
If you can't count on a friend for some help when you're down, then what good are they?

Its entirely possible that TC like many people doesnt have a friend like that, so good job making him feel even worse

I'm only trying to help. You're the disgusting jerk that wants to project their feelings on everyone else. Look at what I wrote. I'm trying to give good advice. You just want to tell the TC how fucked he is, and that he should stop asking for help from his friends. You say he should go spend money on a counselor, because that's what all the brainwashed sheep do.

I did not tell him any such thing

Youre obviously pretty mad, probably not the best person to give TC advice with this issue

You said that I made him feel worse. Did I? Did I really? ...or is that just you projecting your own thoughts?

Literally every post on this board is the projection of someones thoughts

No shit! Really? Thanks for taking my post out of context. ...and maybe you didn't mention anything about counseling, but you still want to be a jerk, and that doesn't help.

Disagreeing with you doesnt make a person a jerk
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OhhhJa posted...

_EggplantWizard posted...

You say he should go spend money on a counselor, because that's what all the brainwashed sheep do.

What? Friends can't help?
...so if I cut my leg really bad, I HAVE TO GO TO THE HOSPITAL? I can't rely on my friend who has experience in cuts and things and such? I have to go to the so-called professionals and authorities? I can't do it on my own? What a crock of shit!!!
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Try the Carl Winslow method:

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Mead posted...

Disagreeing with you doesnt make a person a jerk

No, it doesn't. ...but your shitty attitude does.
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_EggplantWizard posted...

Mead posted...

Disagreeing with you doesnt make a person a jerk

No, it doesn't. ...but your shitty attitude does.

Sweet
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_EggplantWizard posted...

OhhhJa posted...

_EggplantWizard posted...

You say he should go spend money on a counselor, because that's what all the brainwashed sheep do.

What? Friends can't help?
...so if I cut my leg really bad, I HAVE TO GO TO THE HOSPITAL? I can't rely on my friend who has experience in cuts and things and such? I have to go to the so-called professionals and authorities? I can't do it on my own? What a crock of shit!!!

You're being almost too ridiculous to argue with. False equivalency aside, TC seems to have issues going on that are deeper than a cut to the leg. Not to mention, physical injuries are far less complicated to treat than mental issues are. Sure, friends can potentially help if you're just feeling a little down but for deeper issues it's best to ya know... seek help from someone who has actually went to school for mental health. Plus, like mead said, he may not have friends like that. Not everyone does. All you're doing is discouraging him from getting the help he needs which i happen to think is pretty lousy of you. You'd rather get on a high horse about something than recommend the best option

OhhhJa posted...

_EggplantWizard posted...

OhhhJa posted...

_EggplantWizard posted...

You say he should go spend money on a counselor, because that's what all the brainwashed sheep do.

What? Friends can't help?
...so if I cut my leg really bad, I HAVE TO GO TO THE HOSPITAL? I can't rely on my friend who has experience in cuts and things and such? I have to go to the so-called professionals and authorities? I can't do it on my own? What a crock of shit!!!

You're being almost too ridiculous to argue with. False equivalency aside, TC seems to have issues going on that are deeper than a cut to the leg. Not to mention, physical injuries are far less complicated to treat than mental issues are. Sure, friends can potentially help if you're just feeling a little down but for deeper issues it's best to ya know... seek help from someone who has actually went to school for mental health. Plus, like mead said, he may not have friends like that. Not everyone does. All you're doing is discouraging him from getting the help he needs which i happen to think is pretty lousy of you. You'd rather get on a high horse about something than recommend the best option

Even if TC does have friends like that, they're under no obligation to try and help him when he's a) clearly unstable and b) not willing to listen to reasonable advice. If his first response to not receiving advice from his friends is to get advice from total strangers only to just brush them off for offering said advice, he's probably not looking for actual advice anyway and just wants people to tell him how none of this is his fault.

Either way, your friends have lives too and they don't need to be dragged down by their shitty friends when they see there's no way to actually help said friend.
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