Poll of the Day > should a gf or wife have guy friends?

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magemaximus 04/05/21 3:42:21 PM #1:	would you be alright with your gf or wife having guy friends? the question in my original post is what I meant --- You can't persuade fanboys. You'd be better off trying to convince a wall. ~CodeNamePlasmaSnake~ <cite>magemaximus posted [p:952497022] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>would you be alright with your gf or wife having guy friends? the question in my original post is what I meant </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
FrozenBananas 04/05/21 3:43:56 PM #2:	Probably not would your gf / wife like you to have female friends? I dont fuckin think so --- "Full story later. There will be pints." - Fitz "There will be gin." - Simmons (((Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D. ))) <cite>FrozenBananas posted [p:952497071] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>Probably not would your gf / wife like you to have female friends? I dont fuckin think so </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jen0125 04/05/21 3:45:27 PM #3:	The insecurity in this topic already is palpable --- https://imgur.com/4ihiyS2 "I am not gay! Can't you get that through your head? I am very much aroused at the site of a naked woman!" - Dan0429 <cite>Jen0125 posted [p:952497125] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>The insecurity in this topic already is palpable </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
IronBornCorps 04/05/21 3:45:55 PM #4:	No, we would live in the in a neighborhood exclusively with other lesbians, and we would never come in contact with a man again. They are dangerous and no one needs them. <cite>IronBornCorps posted [p:952497141] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>No, we would live in the in a neighborhood exclusively with other lesbians, and we would never come in contact with a man again. They are dangerous and no one needs them. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
FatalAccident 04/05/21 3:47:25 PM #5:	lol if you have to ask yourself this question it says more about you than your wife or gf --- walks away <cite>FatalAccident posted [p:952497195] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>lol if you have to ask yourself this question it says more about you than your wife or gf </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
deoxxys 04/05/21 3:47:35 PM #6:	FrozenBananas posted... Probably not would your gf / wife like you to have female friends? I dont fuckin think so This is pretty much it. Unless you both are friends with the same person and hang out all together and even then not too much. When it comes to serious adult relationships, most people dont even give their primary same-sex friends much attention. --- twylite sprinkle http://tinyurl.com/jeqyas3 https://tinyurl.com/mgvx7h2 <cite>deoxxys posted [p:952497201] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>FrozenBananas posted... </cite> <quote>Probably not would your gf / wife like you to have female friends? I dont fuckin think so</quote>This is pretty much it. Unless you both are friends with the same person and hang out all together and even then not too much. When it comes to serious adult relationships, most people dont even give their primary same-sex friends much attention. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
IronBornCorps 04/05/21 3:49:29 PM #7:	Honestly tho, if my bf didn't have women friends, I would be concerned how he behaved and treated women when I wasn't around. <cite>IronBornCorps posted [p:952497275] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>Honestly tho, if my bf didn't have women friends, I would be concerned how he behaved and treated women when I wasn't around. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BlackScythe0 04/05/21 3:50:21 PM #8:	This is a weird question. It's obviously fine to have friends and go out as a group, but trust isn't going to hold up if your partner is frequently spending time alone with a member of the other sex. And that is a statement that goes both ways not just the misogynistic tone this thread took. <cite>BlackScythe0 posted [p:952497308] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>This is a weird question. It's obviously fine to have friends and go out as a group, but trust isn't going to hold up if your partner is frequently spending time alone with a member of the other sex. And that is a statement that goes both ways not just the misogynistic tone this thread took. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
deoxxys 04/05/21 3:53:08 PM #9:	BlackScythe0 posted... And that is a statement that goes both ways not just the misogynistic tone this thread took. Whaaa? I was on board and agreeing with you until that last statement. Where are you coming from? --- twylite sprinkle http://tinyurl.com/jeqyas3 https://tinyurl.com/mgvx7h2 <cite>deoxxys posted [p:952497403] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>BlackScythe0 posted... </cite> <quote>And that is a statement that goes both ways not just the misogynistic tone this thread took.</quote>Whaaa? I was on board and agreeing with you until that last statement. Where are you coming from? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ReturnOfFa 04/05/21 3:54:16 PM #10:	Jen0125 posted... The insecurity in this topic already is palpable --- girls like my fa <cite>ReturnOfFa posted [p:952497447] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>Jen0125 posted... </cite> <quote>The insecurity in this topic already is palpable</quote> </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ReturnOfFa 04/05/21 3:54:55 PM #11:	I like having opposite sex friends, and I like a partner that has opposite sex friends. That way I can tell they're normal. --- girls like my fa <cite>ReturnOfFa posted [p:952497466] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>I like having opposite sex friends, and I like a partner that has opposite sex friends. That way I can tell they're normal. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
FrozenBananas 04/05/21 3:59:47 PM #13:	ReturnOfFa posted... I like having opposite sex friends, and I like a partner that has opposite sex friends. That way I can tell they're normal. who the hell wants a normy SO --- "Full story later. There will be pints." - Fitz "There will be gin." - Simmons (((Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D. ))) <cite>FrozenBananas posted [p:952497648] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>ReturnOfFa posted... </cite> <quote>I like having opposite sex friends, and I like a partner that has opposite sex friends. That way I can tell they're normal.</quote> who the hell wants a normy SO </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MeteoricBurst 04/05/21 3:59:56 PM #14:	If your wife has no male friends that would be odd and kind of a red flag. Same for a straight guy with women. Like he can't be around women unless he bangs them? Well some guys and gals are like that, in which case you shouldn't be foolish enough to pursue something serious in the first place. --- "I had no choice but to choose the DLC." - Junichi Masuda <cite>MeteoricBurst posted [p:952497656] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>If your wife has no male friends that would be odd and kind of a red flag. Same for a straight guy with women. Like he can't be around women unless he bangs them? Well some guys and gals are like that, in which case you shouldn't be foolish enough to pursue something serious in the first place. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
JigsawTDC 04/05/21 4:01:26 PM #15:	My partner has difficulty making friends with other women a lot of the time and most of her friends tend to be other men. If I was insecure about that we wouldn't be together. The implications that your partner shouldn't have friends of their sexual preference is weird, regressive, and controlling. If you can't trust them, then why are you with them? <cite>JigsawTDC posted [p:952497715] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>My partner has difficulty making friends with other women a lot of the time and most of her friends tend to be other men. If I was insecure about that we wouldn't be together. The implications that your partner shouldn't have friends of their sexual preference is weird, regressive, and controlling. If you can't trust them, then why are you with them? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
grimhilde00 04/05/21 4:01:39 PM #16:	Jen0125 posted... The insecurity in this topic already is palpable ^ been there, done that with a jealous partner. Never again. FrozenBananas posted... would your gf / wife like you to have female friends? I dont fuckin think so yes this is fine. If you don't trust your partner, leave them or work on your trust issues. --- aka kriemhilde00 <cite>grimhilde00 posted [p:952497722] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>Jen0125 posted... </cite> <quote>The insecurity in this topic already is palpable</quote> ^ been there, done that with a jealous partner. Never again. FrozenBananas posted... </cite> <quote>would your gf / wife like you to have female friends? I dont fuckin think so</quote> yes this is fine. If you don't trust your partner, leave them or work on your trust issues. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
grimhilde00 04/05/21 4:02:44 PM #17:	Also this argument really breaks apart with being bi. I'm attracted to all genders. Soooo am I supposed to have no friends? --- aka kriemhilde00 <cite>grimhilde00 posted [p:952497760] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>Also this argument really breaks apart with being bi. I'm attracted to all genders. Soooo am I supposed to have no friends? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
streamofthesky 04/05/21 4:05:23 PM #18:	BlackScythe0 posted... This is a weird question. It's obviously fine to have friends and go out as a group, but trust isn't going to hold up if your partner is frequently spending time alone with a member of the other sex. And that is a statement that goes both ways not just the misogynistic tone this thread took. Agreed. I think it also matters what the nature of the friendship is. If they ever were previously involved, that matters a fucking lot. If the friend has any feelings at all for your partner (or vice-versa, but holy hell is that a red flag), then it's also cause for concern, IMO. Seems like some women keep around "orbiters" (ie, simps...the "friendship" is blatantly unequal) basically on standby and if a relationship ever hits a snag, she can quickly jump ship to one of them. I feel having any sort of "back ups" like that is a deal-breaker for a relationship. I guess guys can pull that crap too, but it seems to mainly go in the direction of female in a couple + dudes as orbiters. Otherwise I think opposite sex friends are fine to have. <cite>streamofthesky posted [p:952497854] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>BlackScythe0 posted... </cite> <quote>This is a weird question. It's obviously fine to have friends and go out as a group, but trust isn't going to hold up if your partner is frequently spending time alone with a member of the other sex. And that is a statement that goes both ways not just the misogynistic tone this thread took.</quote>Agreed. I think it also matters what the nature of the friendship is. If they ever were previously involved, that matters a fucking lot. If the friend has any feelings at all for your partner (or vice-versa, but holy hell is that a red flag), then it's also cause for concern, IMO. Seems like some women keep around "orbiters" (ie, simps...the "friendship" is blatantly unequal) basically on standby and if a relationship ever hits a snag, she can quickly jump ship to one of them. I feel having any sort of "back ups" like that is a deal-breaker for a relationship. I guess guys can pull that crap too, but it seems to mainly go in the direction of female in a couple + dudes as orbiters. Otherwise I think opposite sex friends are fine to have. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
wwinterj25 04/05/21 4:08:01 PM #19:	magemaximus posted... would you be alright with your gf or wife having guy friends? Yes. I'm not insecure and at the end of the day I'd be the one fucking her hypnotically. I mean if someone I'm with would cheat it maybe not limited to the opposite sex so who cares? grimhilde00 posted... Also this argument really breaks apart with being bi. I'm attracted to all genders. Soooo am I supposed to have no friends? Seems so. The sex or gender of said friends doesn't matter. --- One who knows nothing can understand nothing. http://psnprofiles.com/wwinterj - https://imgur.com/guXxsmA <cite>wwinterj25 posted [p:952497933] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>magemaximus posted... </cite> <quote>would you be alright with your gf or wife having guy friends?</quote>Yes. I'm not insecure and at the end of the day I'd be the one fucking her hypnotically. I mean if someone I'm with would cheat it maybe not limited to the opposite sex so who cares? grimhilde00 posted... </cite> <quote>Also this argument really breaks apart with being bi. I'm attracted to all genders. Soooo am I supposed to have no friends?</quote> Seems so. The sex or gender of said friends doesn't matter. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
magemaximus 04/05/21 4:09:18 PM #20:	i am not in a relationship. i just thought about the question because one of my best friends is a girl and her bf doesn't let her talk to guys. but she talks to me when he isn't around. --- You can't persuade fanboys. You'd be better off trying to convince a wall. ~CodeNamePlasmaSnake~ <cite>magemaximus posted [p:952497980] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>i am not in a relationship. i just thought about the question because one of my best friends is a girl and her bf doesn't let her talk to guys. but she talks to me when he isn't around. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
HornedLion 04/05/21 4:10:38 PM #21:	Heres some straight truth in 2021, idgaf what soft modern men & women think of it... NO! The same way I must be careful not to overly chat with a female coworker in fear of it being misconstrued as an emotional affair. So must females be careful not to spend time alone with any males, in fear of it being misconstrued as a physical affair. This may be 2021 but hormones are a thing. Yeah. Ovulation happens. Temptation... happens. Especially when in a monogamous relationship, which takes fucking work. Idiots these days believe the Disney hype of happily ever after. Dont work like that. --- I'm actually really enjoying GodFall. <cite>HornedLion posted [p:952498031] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>Heres some straight truth in 2021, idgaf what soft modern men & women think of it... NO! The same way I must be careful not to overly chat with a female coworker in fear of it being misconstrued as an emotional affair. So must females be careful not to spend time alone with any males, in fear of it being misconstrued as a physical affair. This may be 2021 but hormones are a thing. Yeah. Ovulation happens. Temptation... happens. Especially when in a monogamous relationship, which takes fucking work. Idiots these days believe the Disney hype of happily ever after. Dont work like that. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
wwinterj25 04/05/21 4:12:41 PM #22:	HornedLion posted... Heres some straight truth in 2021 You're not as progressive as you think. In 2021 we like to share as sharing is caring. --- One who knows nothing can understand nothing. http://psnprofiles.com/wwinterj - https://imgur.com/guXxsmA <cite>wwinterj25 posted [p:952498090] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>HornedLion posted... </cite> <quote>Heres some straight truth in 2021</quote> You're not as progressive as you think. In 2021 we like to share as sharing is caring. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
JigsawTDC 04/05/21 4:13:02 PM #23:	HornedLion posted... Heres some straight truth in 2021, idgaf what soft modern men & women think of it... NO! The same way I must be careful not to overly chat with a female coworker in fear of it being misconstrued as an emotional affair. So must females be careful not to spend time alone with any males, in fear of it being misconstrued as a physical affair. This may be 2021 but hormones are a thing. Yeah. Ovulation happens. Temptation... happens. Especially when in a monogamous relationship, which takes fucking work. Idiots these days believe the Disney hype of happily ever after. Dont work like that. oh man, if only calliagnosia procedures actually existed! magemaximus posted... i am not in a relationship. i just thought about the question because one of my best friends is a girl and her bf doesn't let her talk to guys. but she talks to me when he isn't around. Hopefully she can get out of that soon. Controlling relationships with a fragile man like that are always toxic. I have had a friend in one before too. <cite>JigsawTDC posted [p:952498106] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>HornedLion posted... </cite> <quote>Heres some straight truth in 2021, idgaf what soft modern men & women think of it... NO! The same way I must be careful not to overly chat with a female coworker in fear of it being misconstrued as an emotional affair. So must females be careful not to spend time alone with any males, in fear of it being misconstrued as a physical affair. This may be 2021 but hormones are a thing. Yeah. Ovulation happens. Temptation... happens. Especially when in a monogamous relationship, which takes fucking work. Idiots these days believe the Disney hype of happily ever after. Dont work like that.</quote> oh man, if only calliagnosia procedures actually existed! magemaximus posted... </cite> <quote>i am not in a relationship. i just thought about the question because one of my best friends is a girl and her bf doesn't let her talk to guys. but she talks to me when he isn't around.</quote> Hopefully she can get out of that soon. Controlling relationships with a fragile man like that are always toxic. I have had a friend in one before too. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MICHALECOLE 04/05/21 4:13:16 PM #24:	HornedLion posted... Heres some straight truth in 2021, idgaf what soft modern men & women think of it... NO! The same way I must be careful not to overly chat with a female coworker in fear of it being misconstrued as an emotional affair. So must females be careful not to spend time alone with any males, in fear of it being misconstrued as a physical affair. This may be 2021 but hormones are a thing. Yeah. Ovulation happens. Temptation... happens. Especially when in a monogamous relationship, which takes fucking work. Idiots these days believe the Disney hype of happily ever after. Dont work like that. You cant be real <cite>MICHALECOLE posted [p:952498112] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>HornedLion posted... </cite> <quote>Heres some straight truth in 2021, idgaf what soft modern men & women think of it... NO! The same way I must be careful not to overly chat with a female coworker in fear of it being misconstrued as an emotional affair. So must females be careful not to spend time alone with any males, in fear of it being misconstrued as a physical affair. This may be 2021 but hormones are a thing. Yeah. Ovulation happens. Temptation... happens. Especially when in a monogamous relationship, which takes fucking work. Idiots these days believe the Disney hype of happily ever after. Dont work like that.</quote>You cant be real </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MeteoricBurst 04/05/21 4:14:29 PM #25:	magemaximus posted... i am not in a relationship. i just thought about the question because one of my best friends is a girl and her bf doesn't let her talk to guys. but she talks to me when he isn't around. I'd be interested to know if he does the same thing with girls. A lot of possessive men are also cheaters. They assume the partner will act just like them. Winter also brought up a good point about people messing around in unexpected ways. So the jealous partner looking for signs of one thing, while the other one doing something else altogether. --- "I had no choice but to choose the DLC." - Junichi Masuda <cite>MeteoricBurst posted [p:952498153] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>magemaximus posted... </cite> <quote>i am not in a relationship. i just thought about the question because one of my best friends is a girl and her bf doesn't let her talk to guys. but she talks to me when he isn't around.</quote> I'd be interested to know if he does the same thing with girls. A lot of possessive men are also cheaters. They assume the partner will act just like them. Winter also brought up a good point about people messing around in unexpected ways. So the jealous partner looking for signs of one thing, while the other one doing something else altogether. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
OrangeDawn 04/05/21 4:15:10 PM #26:	Jen0125 posted... The insecurity in this topic already is palpable --- 3DS Friend Code: 3308-5843-0863 Town: Virginia <cite>OrangeDawn posted [p:952498177] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>Jen0125 posted... </cite> <quote>The insecurity in this topic already is palpable</quote> </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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LinkPizza 04/05/21 4:20:35 PM #28:	People should just have whatever friends they want... --- Official King of Kings Switch FC: 7216-4417-4511 Add Me because I'll probably add you. I'm probably the LinkPizza you'll see around. <cite>LinkPizza posted [p:952498350] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>People should just have whatever friends they want...</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
wwinterj25 04/05/21 4:22:12 PM #29:	LinkPizza posted... People should just have whatever friends they want... I'll take any friends I can get.... --- One who knows nothing can understand nothing. http://psnprofiles.com/wwinterj - https://imgur.com/guXxsmA <cite>wwinterj25 posted [p:952498419] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>LinkPizza posted... </cite> <quote>People should just have whatever friends they want...</quote>I'll take any friends I can get.... </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LinkPizza 04/05/21 4:30:48 PM #30:	grimhilde00 posted... Also this argument really breaks apart with being bi. I'm attracted to all genders. Soooo am I supposed to have no friends? Most of the guys on the other board would want you to bring over women to have a threesome because guys are gross. Some even think its weird to be in a monogamous relationship when youre bi. We were trying to explain being bi doesnt mean you have to be non-monogamous. I dont think they liked that... magemaximus posted... i am not in a relationship. i just thought about the question because one of my best friends is a girl and her bf doesn't let her talk to guys. but she talks to me when he isn't around. My best friends boyfriend was kind of like that at first. But I think hes calmed down since then. And Ive hung out with him more. I guess it was because he didnt know me well at first... He was never mean about it or told her not to hang out with guys. I think he thought it was weird she was hanging out with me a lot. But I rarely came home to visit. And we always had a lot of catching up to do... And all of our other friends. We always want to get everybody together... --- Official King of Kings Switch FC: 7216-4417-4511 Add Me because I'll probably add you. I'm probably the LinkPizza you'll see around. <cite>LinkPizza posted [p:952498725] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>grimhilde00 posted...</cite> <quote>Also this argument really breaks apart with being bi. I'm attracted to all genders. Soooo am I supposed to have no friends?</quote> Most of the guys on the other board would want you to bring over women to have a threesome because guys are gross. Some even think its weird to be in a monogamous relationship when youre bi. We were trying to explain being bi doesnt mean you have to be non-monogamous. I dont think they liked that... magemaximus posted...</cite> <quote>i am not in a relationship. i just thought about the question because one of my best friends is a girl and her bf doesn't let her talk to guys. but she talks to me when he isn't around. </quote> My best friends boyfriend was kind of like that at first. But I think hes calmed down since then. And Ive hung out with him more. I guess it was because he didnt know me well at first... He was never mean about it or told her not to hang out with guys. I think he thought it was weird she was hanging out with me a lot. But I rarely came home to visit. And we always had a lot of catching up to do... And all of our other friends. We always want to get everybody together...</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
grimhilde00 04/05/21 4:36:50 PM #31:	LinkPizza posted... Most of the guys on the other board would want you to bring over women to have a threesome because guys are gross. Some even think its weird to be in a monogamous relationship when youre bi. We were trying to explain being bi doesnt mean you have to be non-monogamous. I dont think they liked that... I hope they're super vocal about that whenever they enter a relationship so people can nope right the fuck out of that --- aka kriemhilde00 <cite>grimhilde00 posted [p:952498957] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>LinkPizza posted... </cite> <quote>Most of the guys on the other board would want you to bring over women to have a threesome because guys are gross. Some even think its weird to be in a monogamous relationship when youre bi. We were trying to explain being bi doesnt mean you have to be non-monogamous. I dont think they liked that...</quote> I hope they're super vocal about that whenever they enter a relationship so people can nope right the fuck out of that </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ReturnOfFa 04/05/21 4:38:23 PM #32:	grimhilde00 posted... I hope they're super vocal about that whenever they enter a relationship so people can nope right the fuck out of that I find that most poly people are pretty vocal about it lol --- girls like my fa <cite>ReturnOfFa posted [p:952499015] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>grimhilde00 posted... </cite> <quote>I hope they're super vocal about that whenever they enter a relationship so people can nope right the fuck out of that</quote>I find that most poly people are pretty vocal about it lol </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
grimhilde00 04/05/21 4:39:34 PM #33:	ReturnOfFa posted... I find that most poly people are pretty vocal about it lol poly is different from assuming all bisexuals are non-monogamous I could definitely see holier-than-thou-polys being that way though --- aka kriemhilde00 <cite>grimhilde00 posted [p:952499062] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>ReturnOfFa posted... </cite> <quote>I find that most poly people are pretty vocal about it lol</quote> poly is different from assuming all bisexuals are non-monogamous I could definitely see holier-than-thou-polys being that way though </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Muscles 04/05/21 4:43:50 PM #34:	I don't see why not There's a couple reasons why it's a bad thing to be against that 1. They are their own person, you don't own them 2. It reeks of insecurity and will drive her away 3. If she wanted to cheat she could do it without guy friends so it wouldn't even accomplish anything --- Muscles Chicago Bears \| Chicago Blackhawks \| Chicago Bulls \| Chicago Cubs \| NIU Huskies <cite>Muscles posted [p:952499231] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>I don't see why not There's a couple reasons why it's a bad thing to be against that 1. They are their own person, you don't own them 2. It reeks of insecurity and will drive her away 3. If she wanted to cheat she could do it without guy friends so it wouldn't even accomplish anything </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MICHALECOLE 04/05/21 4:44:07 PM #35:	Kotenks posted... Controlling who your partner is friends with doesn't sound very healthy. Being very chummy with ex-BFs, I could see that leading to some tension based on how chummy they are. Certainly not grounds for an ultimatum. It'd probably end up being a conversation where both people let the other know how they feel about the situation. Having friends of the opposite sex and having friends that are your exes are two entirely different conversations <cite>MICHALECOLE posted [p:952499245] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>Kotenks posted... </cite> <quote>Controlling who your partner is friends with doesn't sound very healthy. Being very chummy with ex-BFs, I could see that leading to some tension based on how chummy they are. Certainly not grounds for an ultimatum. It'd probably end up being a conversation where both people let the other know how they feel about the situation.</quote>Having friends of the opposite sex and having friends that are your exes are two entirely different conversations </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ReturnOfFa 04/05/21 4:44:52 PM #36:	grimhilde00 posted... poly is different from assuming all bisexuals are non-monogamous I could definitely see holier-than-thou-polys being that way though true. sounds like those presumptive folk (always silly) need to mellow out. --- girls like my fa <cite>ReturnOfFa posted [p:952499270] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>grimhilde00 posted... </cite> <quote>poly is different from assuming all bisexuals are non-monogamous I could definitely see holier-than-thou-polys being that way though</quote>true. sounds like those presumptive folk (always silly) need to mellow out. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
JigsawTDC 04/05/21 4:52:18 PM #37:	I don't think there's a problem with your partner being friends with their exes as long as you have good communication and boundaries. I'm friends with some of my exes still, as is my partner. Neither of us feels threatened or jealous. Sure, some insecurities could pop up, which is understandable, but again, if you have good communication and trust then this isn't a real issue. <cite>JigsawTDC posted [p:952499572] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>I don't think there's a problem with your partner being friends with their exes as long as you have good communication and boundaries. I'm friends with some of my exes still, as is my partner. Neither of us feels threatened or jealous. Sure, some insecurities could pop up, which is understandable, but again, if you have good communication and trust then this isn't a real issue. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
kukukupo 04/05/21 5:04:27 PM #38:	Male friends? No Male co-workers / associates, sure. <cite>kukukupo posted [p:952500037] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>Male friends? No Male co-workers / associates, sure. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
grimhilde00 04/05/21 5:13:53 PM #39:	kukukupo posted... Male co-workers / associates, sure. I find it very strange that you felt this needed to be addressed at all --- aka kriemhilde00 <cite>grimhilde00 posted [p:952500377] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>kukukupo posted... </cite> <quote>Male co-workers / associates, sure.</quote> I find it very strange that you felt this needed to be addressed at all </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lil_Bit83 04/05/21 5:30:09 PM #40:	I see that as a red flag that one person is overly jealous and possessive. I mean sure, its natural for people to get insecure and jealous from time to time. We've all been there. Hell, I still worry myself, thinking I'm not good enough for my guy and fretting that he'll ditch me for someone better. But if your SO tries to limit who you spend time with based on gender, or flat out forbids you, its time to either work it out as a couple, or tell them to hit the road. I dated this guy once, who got pissy for me even asking someone what time it was, and had the gall to start following me into public restrooms. You can't imagine what a shock it is, to come out and see someone perched on the sink like a goddamn vulture staring at your stall. I ditched him fast, and never again. I find open and honest communication about your worries works better, then being a control freak. --- 2DS FC tempest 1478 9807 1205 <cite>Lil_Bit83 posted [p:952500926] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>I see that as a red flag that one person is overly jealous and possessive. I mean sure, its natural for people to get insecure and jealous from time to time. We've all been there. Hell, I still worry myself, thinking I'm not good enough for my guy and fretting that he'll ditch me for someone better. But if your SO tries to limit who you spend time with based on gender, or flat out forbids you, its time to either work it out as a couple, or tell them to hit the road. I dated this guy once, who got pissy for me even asking someone what time it was, and had the gall to start following me into public restrooms. You can't imagine what a shock it is, to come out and see someone perched on the sink like a goddamn vulture staring at your stall. I ditched him fast, and never again. I find open and honest communication about your worries works better, then being a control freak. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Blightzkrieg 04/05/21 5:32:56 PM #41:	There's absolutely nothing wrong with your wife or gf having guy friends as long as she lets you watch them fuck --- https://imgur.com/1XbPahR <cite>Blightzkrieg posted [p:952501014] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>There's absolutely nothing wrong with your wife or gf having guy friends as long as she lets you watch them fuck </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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PunishedOni 04/05/21 5:43:29 PM #43:	i can't imagine having a partner so cum-brained that i don't trust them around anyone whose sex theyre attracted to --- my boyfriend has the highest single-season WAR/g/nmol in low-T baseball history <cite>PunishedOni posted [p:952501380] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>i can't imagine having a partner so cum-brained that i don't trust them around anyone whose sex theyre attracted to </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BADoglick 04/05/21 5:48:50 PM #44:	If you're that paranoid and controlling then you deserve to be cheated on --- BADoglick to the Max! <cite>BADoglick posted [p:952501547] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>If you're that paranoid and controlling then you deserve to be cheated on </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MICHALECOLE 04/05/21 5:54:19 PM #45:	BADoglick posted... If you're that paranoid and controlling then you deserve to be cheated on What if you werent paranoid and controlling but then you were cheated on and it made you paranoid and controlling? <cite>MICHALECOLE posted [p:952501770] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>BADoglick posted... </cite> <quote>If you're that paranoid and controlling then you deserve to be cheated on</quote>What if you werent paranoid and controlling but then you were cheated on and it made you paranoid and controlling? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Far-Queue 04/05/21 5:57:17 PM #46:	The only way my wife is allowed to have guy friends is if she's fucking them --- https://imgur.com/ZwO4qO2 "I'm a pathetic Simp and am proud to be exploited" - Lord_Shadow <cite>Far-Queue posted [p:952501852] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>The only way my wife is allowed to have guy friends is if she's fucking them </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BADoglick 04/05/21 5:58:26 PM #47:	MICHALECOLE posted... What if you werent paranoid and controlling but then you were cheated on and it made you paranoid and controlling? Still your problem and you have to own it. Not your future partner's fault that your previous one was terrible. Accusations of fidelity tend to become a self fulfilling proposition. "They think I'm cheating anyway, might as well. They don't trust or respect me, might as well" --- BADoglick to the Max! <cite>BADoglick posted [p:952501888] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>MICHALECOLE posted... </cite> <quote>What if you werent paranoid and controlling but then you were cheated on and it made you paranoid and controlling?</quote> Still your problem and you have to own it. Not your future partner's fault that your previous one was terrible. Accusations of fidelity tend to become a self fulfilling proposition. "They think I'm cheating anyway, might as well. They don't trust or respect me, might as well" </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GunslingerGunsl 04/05/21 6:00:58 PM #48:	FrozenBananas posted... Probably not would your gf / wife like you to have female friends? I dont fuckin think so Haha what? I'd never be with anyone who would ask me to give up my friends who I've known longer than them. Crazy. <cite>GunslingerGunsl posted [p:952501971] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>FrozenBananas posted... </cite> <quote>Probably not would your gf / wife like you to have female friends? I dont fuckin think so</quote>Haha what? I'd never be with anyone who would ask me to give up my friends who I've known longer than them. Crazy. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
OhhhJa 04/05/21 6:05:02 PM #49:	I'm cool with it as long as they aren't like weirdly close. My SO has multiple guy friends amd I'm on good terms with them. They're all cool dudes and we can all get together and grab a beer or something. It gets a little more complicated if you're SO has a friend of the opposite sex that they're very close with. In that situation, one or the other (usually the guy), has some feelings. Had that happen with an ex one time. Kept telling her that her close friend liked her. She denied it, even though she probably knew, until he finally spilled his guts on the phone one day and she cut him off after that <cite>OhhhJa posted [p:952502112] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>I'm cool with it as long as they aren't like weirdly close. My SO has multiple guy friends amd I'm on good terms with them. They're all cool dudes and we can all get together and grab a beer or something. It gets a little more complicated if you're SO has a friend of the opposite sex that they're very close with. In that situation, one or the other (usually the guy), has some feelings. Had that happen with an ex one time. Kept telling her that her close friend liked her. She denied it, even though she probably knew, until he finally spilled his guts on the phone one day and she cut him off after that </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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MICHALECOLE 04/05/21 6:14:48 PM #51:	Zangulus posted... Your past trauma is not a valid excuse for treating people like shit. True, true. But past trauma is still pretty traumatic. I just wish therapists were easier to see.. and cheaper.. and people supported it instead of looking down on it. i should see a therapist <cite>MICHALECOLE posted [p:952502433] in should a g... [t:79389083]...</cite> <quote>Zangulus posted... </cite> <quote>Your past trauma is not a valid excuse for treating people like shit.</quote>True, true. But past trauma is still pretty traumatic. I just wish therapists were easier to see.. and cheaper.. and people supported it instead of looking down on it. i should see a therapist </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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