Board 8 > You're hosting a 20 person pregame that's essentially byob

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As the host, how much booze do you provide? Me and a couple of friends are disagreeing.

A lot, and then store the rest of it for another time. This isn't hard.
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I always always always provide when I'm a host because I feel like it's tacky as hell to invite people to party at your place and then force them to bring their own drinks.

This is different if you're hosting something where you don't know who will be showing up I suppose, but I still provide plenty of booze.
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Not much. 20, 30 kegs tops.
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I would grab a couple nice six packs. It's not like the beer is going to waste. To only have enough for you and the friends is super tacky.
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When I have big parties, everyone just brings whatever they like. I usually bring the most because I'm alcoholic and more well off financially, and then other people bring the stuff they like. We all drink whatever we want and share each others things and it's a good time because no one cares who is drinking what.
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Jeff Zero posted...

Not much. 20, 30 kegs tops.

These must be pretty light kegs. I imagine you have hobbits or dwarves inside of them.
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I provide when I host stuff but this topic makes no sense. If it is byob then you only buy what you yourself are gonna drink.
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BYOB always needs to be catered for unless it's with a group of mates you know will take care of their end. Even then I'll always grab a keg a couple bottles of wine and a crate of beer minimum.

Nothing worse than trying to have a good time while someone's whinging they don't have anything to drink.
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But if its BYOB and they didn't bring shit, that one's kind of their fault.
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scarletspeed7 posted...

Jeff Zero posted...

Not much. 20, 30 kegs tops.

These must be pretty light kegs. I imagine you have hobbits or dwarves inside of them.

N-no!
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Well, it's byob in the sense that it was strongly hinted to bring your own **** and it's kinda common sense to do so. The pregame is for a farewell, so that's why the host wants to have some stuff to provide, but we disagree on how much exactly to provide.

In college I always provided enough assuming no one would bring anything. Maybe 20% of alcohol overall was brought by guests so that was necessary.

Now in adulthood I've found I only need to provide about 50% of the overall alcohol. About 1 beer per person and 1 handle per 20 people, and the guests will bring plenty to fill in the rest and have left overs.

Ultimately it's your party, and it's your fault if it ends up being weak or disappointing for some or all guests due to lack of alcohol. Or food, or ice, or whatever.

ffmasterjose posted...

But if its BYOB and they didn't bring shit, that one's kind of their fault.

Like this. You can say this all you want, but you can't avoid the fact that if alcohol runs out, people leave your party and it's less fun. Same if they get hungry and leave.

You can blame them all you want but it's still your party getting fucked. Just provide the damn stuff and have a good party.
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If it's just a pregame you don't need much, 1-3 drinks per person? I'd get a case of beer and maybe offer whatever bottle I already had, or vice versa. The main event is elsewhere.

BUT if it's a pregame I'm not sure why you'd expect many people to BYOB, for exactly the same reason. What, is someone gonna bring a couple of those single shot bottles of tequila or something? Nah they're just gonna show up.
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In Canada, its 0. Our liquor costs twice as much as America, and no one ever raises their nose to someone who doesn't provide guests with booze.

Food however, you should provide.
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In college, everyone provided for themselves or knew to ask people ahead of time. If you hosted a party, you never provided for people because everyone knew that alcohol costs money and nobody wanted to be a dick.


Your guys' drinking communities all sucked.
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HanOfTheNekos posted...

In college, everyone provided for themselves or knew to ask people ahead of time. If you hosted a party, you never provided for people because everyone knew that alcohol costs money and nobody wanted to be a dick.


Your guys' drinking communities all sucked.

Stop fraternising with peasants Han. Has Dark Souls taught you nothing?
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TomNook posted...

When I have big parties, everyone just brings whatever they like. I usually bring the most because I'm alcoholic and more well off financially, and then other people bring the stuff they like. We all drink whatever we want and share each others things and it's a good time because no one cares who is drinking what.

This is the correct answer
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In college most people were under 21 so that's part of it too. And most people brought crap like crat or pbr. If that's not the kind of vibe you want at your party then you have to provide.

BYOB can definitely be a different category altogether from a party though. It's like the difference between a dinner party and a potluck. And I don't know about y'all but I don't usually go to a potluck hungry.
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I always provide a lot, and my guests are cool and always bring something. We usually wind up with a ton of food and drinks and it turns into a great time. I rarely drink outside of parties and I always have a full bar ready to go that's mainly the result of friends bringing extra provisions to our get-togethers.

As the host, my rule is to assume nothing and have everyone covered, whether it's BYOB or not. If you have tons of extra stuff, congrats - you'll have a great night and enough to do it again next time. It's always better to be seen as a gracious host who throws a bomb party than to risk having a lame party.
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If you have the money, buy as much as you can (in a reasonable quantity given the amount of guests, of course). Worst case scenario you are left with a bunch of leftovers for another occasion/yourself.
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Uh, you can just have a teetotaller party and watch Crocodile Hunter reruns.
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Also given the scenario, I'd say you should prioritize quantity over quality.
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MenuWars posted...

Nothing worse than trying to have a good time while someone's whinging they don't have anything to drink.

This.
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When a friend does this for college football weekends for like 4-6 of us he provides a keg on draft, plus like 12 bottles in the fridge plus a few spirits and mixers laying around.

He does it every weekend so a lot of stuff just rolls over each week and then people turn up with either nothing or a 6 pack every now and again

There is a flip side though - for a 4th of july hangout once my friend got a large keg. Forgot how big it was, but we were just like 5 or 6 people and didn't even finish half of it, so towards the end we were just miserable and struggling to finish this keg.
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This is literally for a PREGAME not a party. Don't buy shit. It is byob.

Otherwise if a party do what every other college party does. Buy a keg and charge $5 a solo cup to drink out of it.
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Corrik posted...

Buy a keg and charge $5 a solo cup to drink out of it.

what a shitty party
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foolm0r0n posted...

Corrik posted...

Buy a keg and charge $5 a solo cup to drink out of it.

what a shitty party

Well look who's organizing it lol
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I'm going to hell for laughing at that aren't I?
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gearofages posted...

Uh, you can just have a teetotaller party and watch Crocodile Hunter reruns.

Sure, Before or After the frontal Lobotomy?
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Hardcore_Adult posted...

MenuWars posted...

Nothing worse than trying to have a good time while someone's whinging they don't have anything to drink.

This.

why are you guys inviting this socially oblivious douchebag to your parties
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Kenri posted...

Hardcore_Adult posted...

MenuWars posted...

Nothing worse than trying to have a good time while someone's whinging they don't have anything to drink.

This.

why are you guys inviting this socially oblivious douchebag to your parties

Maybe they are inviting girls to their party who aren't old enough to buy alcohol, who want to get drunk and have sex.
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TomNook posted...

Maybe they are inviting girls to their party who aren't old enough to buy alcohol, who want to get drunk and have sex.

Maybe. I didn't even consider that they might be that much younger than me.
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That's definitely not the case for me.

But in general in the party economy, if you want cool people to come, you need to have a good party. One that isn't $5 for some shitty beer keg.
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Always imply BYOB and provide enough for like 5 drinks per person + whatever you want. I mean really it depends how lit your friends like to get, you'd know that better than us.
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foolm0r0n posted...

Corrik posted...

Buy a keg and charge $5 a solo cup to drink out of it.

what a shitty party

I can't imagine you have ever been to a college party ever if you have never seen this done before. I remember being a cheapskate with my friends and we would just go from party to party down in Oakland with a red cup we pre-bought to get around giving $5 at every party we went to. Basically, every single party was ran this way.
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Guess my college had less shitty parties

I mean we did have the shitty frat bro gatekeeping where once you got inside you got to wait for 30 minutes in a crowd of people to get half a cup of warm keystone. Definitely would've prefered the dumb $5 cup thing, but of course that wouldn't stop anyone since like you said, anyone with the tiniest of brains could just bring their own cup, or pick up one of the dozens laying around.

But those aren't really parties, more like really bad clubs that only first years go to. The actual parties at my school generally provided alcohol with requested, but not required BYOB.
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Well thinking huge ass college parties are going to provide free beer to an entire party of randoms is just silly. It is how they made money back to host future parties. Parties that had canned beer always collected tabs for trading in for future parties.
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Dude's party I am going to on Saturday is hiring a bartender. It is byob... bring a case or bottle of liquor and you can drink whatever is there not just what you brought but he wants you to contribute something to the stash.
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Corrik posted...

Well thinking huge ass college parties are going to provide free beer to an entire party of randoms is just silly

My school literally did it. Every frat party did. Of course they had communist lines to get shit beer, but still. But yeah, those are more like clubs than parties. Definitely not what this topic is about.

Also I can't imagine a college party where the hosts are so poor they need to sell tickets to buy beer. All our frats were rich kids trying to seem cool, so a couple hundred bucks here and there didn't meant anything. They just wanted the biggest party, and apparently free warm kegs of keystone and vodka kool aid was their master plan for that? Not the smartest bunch I guess.
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foolm0r0n posted...

Corrik posted...

Well thinking huge ass college parties are going to provide free beer to an entire party of randoms is just silly

My school literally did it. Every frat party did. Of course they had communist lines to get shit beer, but still. But yeah, those are more like clubs than parties. Definitely not what this topic is about.

Also I can't imagine a college party where the hosts are so poor they need to sell tickets to buy beer. All our frats were rich kids trying to seem cool, so a couple hundred bucks here and there didn't meant anything. They just wanted the biggest party, and apparently free warm kegs of keystone and vodka kool aid was their master plan for that? Not the smartest bunch I guess.

Really shouldn't compare a frat party to a regular party.
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Or you can make it Prohibition Era-themed and just provide cheaper drinks.
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Corrik posted...

foolm0r0n posted...

Corrik posted...

Buy a keg and charge $5 a solo cup to drink out of it.

what a shitty party

I can't imagine you have ever been to a college party ever if you have never seen this done before. I remember being a cheapskate with my friends and we would just go from party to party down in Oakland with a red cup we pre-bought to get around giving $5 at every party we went to. Basically, every single party was ran this way.

Yeah, where I'm from on campus at Purdue parties were the same way. $5 for a cup seems normal to me.
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Corrik posted...

Really shouldn't compare a frat party to a regular party

I'm not
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wg64Z posted...

In Canada, its 0. Our liquor costs twice as much as America, and no one ever raises their nose to someone who doesn't provide guests with booze.

Food however, you should provide.

From Western Canada (Calgary), I can confirm

Maybe it's a Canadian thing, or maybe it's me being in a family and circle of friends where everyone drinks, but me, and pretty much everyone I know, will BYOB to basically everything - the possible exception is maybe small family dinner parties (but even then I'm usually bringing something). If I go to a friends dinner party I'm definitely bringing booze, and so will all the guests, but the host will generally have something on hand.... definitely not enough to support the party though. I'm 32 now, so if I'm hosting something I'll definitely have something on hand, generally lots, but in my teenage years and young adulthood, if you didn't bring enough you better hope your friends like you or hope you're near a liquor store, because you'd be SOL otherwise.
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Kain66 posted...

you better hope your friends like you

pretty much
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Kain66 posted...

wg64Z posted...

In Canada, its 0. Our liquor costs twice as much as America, and no one ever raises their nose to someone who doesn't provide guests with booze.

Food however, you should provide.

From Western Canada (Calgary), I can confirm

Maybe it's a Canadian thing, or maybe it's me being in a family and circle of friends where everyone drinks, but me, and pretty much everyone I know, will BYOB to basically everything - the possible exception is maybe small family dinner parties (but even then I'm usually bringing something). If I go to a friends dinner party I'm definitely bringing booze, and so will all the guests, but the host will generally have something on hand.... definitely not enough to support the party though. I'm 32 now, so if I'm hosting something I'll definitely have something on hand, generally lots, but in my teenage years and young adulthood, if you didn't bring enough you better hope your friends like you or hope you're near a liquor store, because you'd be SOL otherwise.

In Eastern Canada (Halifax) and yeah, agreed on all fronts. I mainly attribute it to the insane price of liquor we pay here. Also it's courteous to offer rids to the liquor store for anyone who still needs booze, and also because we can't sell Liquor in corner stores and gas stations like in America.
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