Current Events > My wife is applying for MAID (Medical assistance in death).

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Supaitwo 04/19/23 6:44:42 AM #408:	Ryvell posted... Just wanted to let you know that I admire how you've been able to navigate this situation with such grace. While I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you, I think the level of emotional intelligence and self-awareness you have is something we should all aspire to. All the best to you, brother. Very much this. --- After 25 years he's the very best like no one ever was. <cite>Supaitwo posted [p:972937482] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Ryvell posted... </cite><quote>Just wanted to let you know that I admire how you've been able to navigate this situation with such grace. While I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you, I think the level of emotional intelligence and self-awareness you have is something we should all aspire to. All the best to you, brother.</quote> Very much this.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Memorial_Bench 04/22/23 6:42:57 AM #409:	FratMilkyHolme posted... Same Supaitwo posted... Very much this. --- Thank You <cite>Memorial_Bench posted [p:973002232] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>FratMilkyHolme posted...</cite><quote>Same</quote>Supaitwo posted...</cite><quote> Very much this.</quote></quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TaylorHeinicke 04/24/23 10:17:44 AM #410:	Ryvell posted... Just wanted to let you know that I admire how you've been able to navigate this situation with such grace. While I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you, I think the level of emotional intelligence and self-awareness you have is something we should all aspire to. All the best to you, brother. --- St. Louis Battlehawks (5-4) <cite>TaylorHeinicke posted [p:973041403] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Ryvell posted... </cite><quote>Just wanted to let you know that I admire how you've been able to navigate this situation with such grace. While I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you, I think the level of emotional intelligence and self-awareness you have is something we should all aspire to. All the best to you, brother.</quote></quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
nononom0use123 04/24/23 10:22:38 AM #411:	Ive been coming to CE/GameFAQS since I was like 10 in 2000 or so. I remember seeing your posts throughout the years, TC. Im so so sorry for what youre going through. You seem like such a good dude and husband. Caring for someone like that for so long would be so devastating and hard and tough, but it sounds like youve been there every step of the way with her. As much as CE can be this crazy forum filled with trolling, we do care and wish you the best through this tragedy. I can only imagine being 5% or how good a husband you are to your wife. --- Imma mouse meowwww <cite>nononom0use123 posted [p:973041481] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Ive been coming to CE/GameFAQS since I was like 10 in 2000 or so. I remember seeing your posts throughout the years, TC. Im so so sorry for what youre going through. You seem like such a good dude and husband. Caring for someone like that for so long would be so devastating and hard and tough, but it sounds like youve been there every step of the way with her. As much as CE can be this crazy forum filled with trolling, we do care and wish you the best through this tragedy. I can only imagine being 5% or how good a husband you are to your wife. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 04/28/23 4:38:59 PM #413:	Thanks for all the positive vibes guys. Saskatchewan is a no go, our appeal was denied. So it means we will pursue out of province to BC. Some decent news on that front is that we will plan to go down to Vancouver on a Friday in June to do the second assessment, and assuming they give it a yes, they can do the procedure on the Sunday. The creamation service said they could complete their process and basically all they need is my payment and then urn and ashes would be mailed to me. So near the end of June this process will likely be completed. Fills me with so many emotions when I think about it. I am both fearful and nervous but also like, ready for my wife to finally get what she wants and be able to move on with the next part of my life. I still struggle with feelings of self loathing about even admitting to those feelings. Like I'm a bad person for being ready to move on and not be a care giver to a slowly dying wife. I am just one person and as strong as I know I am, even I will eventually hit a point where I just cannot be the care giver that my wife deserves. I am more fearful of that then the passing of my wife. Like, if they decide my wife doesn't get MAID in June, I don't know how much longer I can keep up with being the amazing care giver I have been. How long can I do this effectively? --- https://i.imgur.com/GWG5c3r.gif <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:973137381] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Thanks for all the positive vibes guys. Saskatchewan is a no go, our appeal was denied. So it means we will pursue out of province to BC. Some decent news on that front is that we will plan to go down to Vancouver on a Friday in June to do the second assessment, and assuming they give it a yes, they can do the procedure on the Sunday. The creamation service said they could complete their process and basically all they need is my payment and then urn and ashes would be mailed to me. So near the end of June this process will likely be completed. Fills me with so many emotions when I think about it. I am both fearful and nervous but also like, ready for my wife to finally get what she wants and be able to move on with the next part of my life. I still struggle with feelings of self loathing about even admitting to those feelings. Like I'm a bad person for being ready to move on and not be a care giver to a slowly dying wife. I am just one person and as strong as I know I am, even I will eventually hit a point where I just cannot be the care giver that my wife deserves. I am more fearful of that then the passing of my wife. Like, if they decide my wife doesn't get MAID in June, I don't know how much longer I can keep up with being the amazing care giver I have been. How long can I do this effectively? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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dummy420 04/28/23 6:00:50 PM #415:	Thats rough man and its ok to feel that way. Everyone has a limit and constant battling will make you reach it. Dont feel bad for having natural reactions. --- Trying is the first step towards failure, so just dont give it a shot and you cant dissapoint. <cite>dummy420 posted [p:973139053] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Thats rough man and its ok to feel that way. Everyone has a limit and constant battling will make you reach it. Dont feel bad for having natural reactions.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 04/30/23 11:22:15 PM #416:	It can be so hard to live in the moment sometimes when you know what is going to transpire later. All weekend has been watching hockey and baseball and anime, playing some video games... nothing different than any other weekend. We potentially only have like 8 of these left. --- https://i.imgur.com/GWG5c3r.gif <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:973185312] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>It can be so hard to live in the moment sometimes when you know what is going to transpire later. All weekend has been watching hockey and baseball and anime, playing some video games... nothing different than any other weekend. We potentially only have like 8 of these left. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
KaZooo 05/01/23 1:37:02 AM #417:	Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... Like I'm a bad person for being ready to move on and not be a care giver to a slowly dying wife. I believe in some degree or another, everyone thinks about this when someone else is dying, whether it be age, or ailment. My dad, being someone who was already difficult to get along with I was thinking the same thing. No, in all honestly I didn't want him to die, but the reality is that he was. Spending another 3-4 months to stretch his life with chemo, having to contend with his struggles and needs, and the person he persisted on being...unfortunately that didn't sound pleasant at all. My mom was looking at having to quit her job, me possibly having to stop helping my brother and sell my own car. All this in attempt to contend with a few months and no safety net to getting back to where we left off afterwards to still make a living. This wasn't some kind of hinderance from climbing the ladders in life or prospects of how this could affect me starting a family, this was putting the ability to support ourselves, period, at risk. Thinking like this really sucks. My uncle is now in a similar place, but on a longer timeline. He can't always catch himself losing his bearings but he's been trying. I do get frustrated about what that takes out of my time and funds. Not frustrated at him, but at the situation. Obviously not trying to make him feel bad, and me getting involved is in return for how much he did for my family. I have a clear bottom line I'm not just going to turn a blind eye to this. So through that, I've come to accept the fact that being frustrated is inevitable. You just learn to show it less or in a different way. It's not like your fundamental stance or care for a person changed. I imagine the people in question know it's a matter of time, and the things they can and can't do. My dad did have the thought cross his mind that he didn't want to become a burden. He had to drop everything before to take care of my grandmother, so he's aware of what it takes out of everybody. I'm sure my uncle's looking at life now as if all he's doing is passing time to watch the sun rise and fall. News and material things, they don't matter. He's absorbing the past more than the future now. You enduring your wife's process for so long is a pretty heavy weight, and blessing at the same time. Some people never are able to digest and accept the transition to death because they're taking it in under a shorter timeframe. It sounds like you've been able to go back and forth with it as well. I hope the appointment in Vancouver goes through how you and your wife see fit. won't get too into it, but I do believe the biggest target of frustration may be the infrastructure of society itself. Case in point, your long-winded journey in pursuing MAID. Arguably what goes into the resource depletion concerns for me is the US healthcare system and all the other legal work of attempted collection. --- Competing every night, both ends, shoot inside/outside, fast break, transition, Monta Ellis have it all <cite>KaZooo posted [p:973186950] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... </cite><quote>Like I'm a bad person for being ready to move on and not be a care giver to a slowly dying wife.</quote>I believe in some degree or another, everyone thinks about this when someone else is dying, whether it be age, or ailment. My dad, being someone who was already difficult to get along with I was thinking the same thing. No, in all honestly I didn't want him to die, but the reality is that he was. Spending another 3-4 months to stretch his life with chemo, having to contend with his struggles and needs, and the person he persisted on being...unfortunately that didn't sound pleasant at all. My mom was looking at having to quit her job, me possibly having to stop helping my brother and sell my own car. All this in attempt to contend with a few months and no safety net to getting back to where we left off afterwards to still make a living. This wasn't some kind of hinderance from climbing the ladders in life or prospects of how this could affect me starting a family, this was putting the ability to support ourselves, period, at risk. Thinking like this really sucks. My uncle is now in a similar place, but on a longer timeline. He can't always catch himself losing his bearings but he's been trying. I do get frustrated about what that takes out of my time and funds. Not frustrated at him, but at the situation. Obviously not trying to make him feel bad, and me getting involved is in return for how much he did for my family. I have a clear bottom line I'm not just going to turn a blind eye to this. So through that, I've come to accept the fact that being frustrated is inevitable. You just learn to show it less or in a different way. It's not like your fundamental stance or care for a person changed. I imagine the people in question know it's a matter of time, and the things they can and can't do. My dad did have the thought cross his mind that he didn't want to become a burden. He had to drop everything before to take care of my grandmother, so he's aware of what it takes out of everybody. I'm sure my uncle's looking at life now as if all he's doing is passing time to watch the sun rise and fall. News and material things, they don't matter. He's absorbing the past more than the future now.You enduring your wife's process for so long is a pretty heavy weight, and blessing at the same time. Some people never are able to digest and accept the transition to death because they're taking it in under a shorter timeframe. It sounds like you've been able to go back and forth with it as well.I hope the appointment in Vancouver goes through how you and your wife see fit. won't get too into it, but I do believe the biggest target of frustration may be the infrastructure of society itself. Case in point, your long-winded journey in pursuing MAID. Arguably what goes into the resource depletion concerns for me is the US healthcare system and all the other legal work of attempted collection.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BettyWhite 05/01/23 1:39:22 AM #418:	Damn man.. My heart goes out to you both. --- Thank you for being a friend <3 <cite>BettyWhite posted [p:973186974] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Damn man.. My heart goes out to you both. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 05/01/23 1:44:15 PM #420:	Telling my story here helps me to process things. Guilt is one of those things that is hard to process and work through, especially when it is guilt about being a person. Having professional help from my psychologist has been great. He reminds me to take the personal out of it and give myself the same advice I would give another in my same situation. It's still hard to do though. To not feel guilty for human thoughts and feelings when you feel like you have to be more than human for someone you love. But that isn't fair to me and my wife is never asking for me to be more than myself. --- https://i.imgur.com/GWG5c3r.gif <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:973195118] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Telling my story here helps me to process things. Guilt is one of those things that is hard to process and work through, especially when it is guilt about being a person. Having professional help from my psychologist has been great. He reminds me to take the personal out of it and give myself the same advice I would give another in my same situation. It's still hard to do though. To not feel guilty for human thoughts and feelings when you feel like you have to be more than human for someone you love. But that isn't fair to me and my wife is never asking for me to be more than myself. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 05/06/23 2:11:01 AM #422:	I went through some fairly significant trauma this week. I was one of the first responders to one of my youth (I'm a supervisor for group homes designed for at-risk teenagers) who was successful in a suicide attempt. It's been a rough week. Oddly I've been the most put together of my colleagues and they've been leaning on me for strength and support. I think the process my wife and I have gone through has led me to be far more understanding and like, capable of dealing with suicide. --- https://i.imgur.com/GWG5c3r.gif <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:973293810] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>I went through some fairly significant trauma this week. I was one of the first responders to one of my youth (I'm a supervisor for group homes designed for at-risk teenagers) who was successful in a suicide attempt. It's been a rough week. Oddly I've been the most put together of my colleagues and they've been leaning on me for strength and support. I think the process my wife and I have gone through has led me to be far more understanding and like, capable of dealing with suicide. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MabusIncarnate 05/06/23 2:15:58 AM #423:	I've been here through all of this, just never commented, but wanted to offer my support here. If you ever wanna come hang out with us in the discord sometime, play some Mario Kart just let me know, get your mind off things. --- "They speak of progress, in red, white and blue. It's the structure of the future as demise comes seething through." <cite>MabusIncarnate posted [p:973293850] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>I've been here through all of this, just never commented, but wanted to offer my support here. If you ever wanna come hang out with us in the discord sometime, play some Mario Kart just let me know, get your mind off things. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
NES4EVER 05/06/23 3:40:26 AM #424:	Absolutely heartbreaking, and im sorry you are both in this situation, but at the same time glad you have each other. If youre in the vancouver area and you need someone to sit down and talk with/vent to/etc., message me. --- *nu-horsemen 4evar* [A GameFAQs Moderator was deleted by this message] <cite>NES4EVER posted [p:973294528] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Absolutely heartbreaking, and im sorry you are both in this situation, but at the same time glad you have each other.If youre in the vancouver area and you need someone to sit down and talk with/vent to/etc., message me. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
kurdt032 05/06/23 3:43:43 AM #425:	Just read this topic. There's nothing I can really say other than that I'm thinking of you and wishing you both all the best. I can't even imagine what you're going through. --- Darren Lacey is granny bashing scum <cite>kurdt032 posted [p:973294548] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Just read this topic. There's nothing I can really say other than that I'm thinking of you and wishing you both all the best. I can't even imagine what you're going through.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lorenzo_2003 05/07/23 9:42:52 AM #426:	Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... I went through some fairly significant trauma this week. I was one of the first responders to one of my youth (I'm a supervisor for group homes designed for at-risk teenagers) who was successful in a suicide attempt. It's been a rough week. Oddly I've been the most put together of my colleagues and they've been leaning on me for strength and support. I think the process my wife and I have gone through has led me to be far more understanding and like, capable of dealing with suicide. Man, that is rough. Do you also have to contact their next of kin, or otherwise put their affairs in order? --- ... <cite>Lorenzo_2003 posted [p:973317905] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... </cite><quote>I went through some fairly significant trauma this week. I was one of the first responders to one of my youth (I'm a supervisor for group homes designed for at-risk teenagers) who was successful in a suicide attempt. It's been a rough week. Oddly I've been the most put together of my colleagues and they've been leaning on me for strength and support. I think the process my wife and I have gone through has led me to be far more understanding and like, capable of dealing with suicide.</quote>Man, that is rough. Do you also have to contact their next of kin, or otherwise put their affairs in order?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 05/09/23 9:27:54 PM #427:	Lorenzo_2003 posted... Man, that is rough. Do you also have to contact their next of kin, or otherwise put their affairs in order? Nah our higher management dealt with that. We are doing a ceremony as an organization tomorrow. We will have a traditional feast afterwards --- https://i.imgur.com/GWG5c3r.gif <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:973372669] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Lorenzo_2003 posted... </cite><quote>Man, that is rough. Do you also have to contact their next of kin, or otherwise put their affairs in order?</quote>Nah our higher management dealt with that. We are doing a ceremony as an organization tomorrow. We will have a traditional feast afterwards</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 05/11/23 11:37:37 AM #428:	Had a good session with my psychologist today. Got to say some things out loud that filled me with some guilt to feel. It is nice to just say those things, put them out in the ether, and have a professional let you know how common those feelings are and how valid they are. --- https://i.imgur.com/GWG5c3r.gif <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:973403592] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Had a good session with my psychologist today. Got to say some things out loud that filled me with some guilt to feel. It is nice to just say those things, put them out in the ether, and have a professional let you know how common those feelings are and how valid they are.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 05/12/23 8:01:34 PM #429:	Sheesh, went to my hometown for my dad's retirement party and blew two tires on the highway. Ugh --- https://i.imgur.com/GWG5c3r.gif <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:973434727] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Sheesh, went to my hometown for my dad's retirement party and blew two tires on the highway. Ugh</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Supaitwo 05/13/23 7:26:40 PM #430:	Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... Sheesh, went to my hometown for my dad's retirement party and blew two tires on the highway. Ugh Thats just fucking unfair, was the party ok at least? --- After 25 years he's the very best like no one ever was. <cite>Supaitwo posted [p:973453697] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... </cite><quote>Sheesh, went to my hometown for my dad's retirement party and blew two tires on the highway. Ugh</quote>Thats just fucking unfair, was the party ok at least?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DarthDemented 05/13/23 7:27:31 PM #431:	Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... Sheesh, went to my hometown for my dad's retirement party and blew two tires on the highway. Ugh That's how most horror movies start. JAKAS didn't make it. --- Paula Wood. My love, my life. 1980-2021 https://store.steampowered.com/wishlist/profiles/76561198210788964/#sort=order <cite>DarthDemented posted [p:973453716] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... </cite><quote>Sheesh, went to my hometown for my dad's retirement party and blew two tires on the highway. Ugh</quote>That's how most horror movies start. JAKAS didn't make it.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 05/13/23 8:01:40 PM #432:	Retirement party was good. We are doing Lobster Night now, fundraiser for a local charity. Got 4 new tires since I have an AWD. My dad paid for it since, in his words, he was the reason I braved the terrible roads. Lol! My dad is pretty decently well off so it's fine. XD --- https://i.imgur.com/GWG5c3r.gif <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:973454264] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Retirement party was good. We are doing Lobster Night now, fundraiser for a local charity. Got 4 new tires since I have an AWD. My dad paid for it since, in his words, he was the reason I braved the terrible roads. Lol! My dad is pretty decently well off so it's fine. XD</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
KaZooo 05/13/23 8:08:14 PM #433:	Good to hear it was a salvaged situation. Generally hope you and the wife are able to get along with the day-to-days in the meantime. --- Competing every night, both ends, shoot inside/outside, fast break, transition, Monta Ellis have it all <cite>KaZooo posted [p:973454376] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Good to hear it was a salvaged situation.Generally hope you and the wife are able to get along with the day-to-days in the meantime.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 05/19/23 2:02:09 PM #435:	Making some travel plans to get to Vancouver. Maybe go a day earlier to check out some stuff? --- https://i.imgur.com/GWG5c3r.gif <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:973577246] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Making some travel plans to get to Vancouver. Maybe go a day earlier to check out some stuff?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lorenzo_2003 05/22/23 6:02:12 AM #436:	Bump plus I hope you and your wife are enjoying the weekend. --- ... <cite>Lorenzo_2003 posted [p:973631349] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Bumpplus I hope you and your wife are enjoying the weekend.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SweetNut_Farm 05/22/23 11:22:00 AM #437:	Thinking of you. --- "I travel not to go anywhere, but to go.". FC: SW2901 6515 7606 DA:627659809021 <cite>SweetNut_Farm posted [p:973635217] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Thinking of you.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 05/22/23 11:32:26 AM #438:	I've been working all weekend but despite that it has been a fairly nice weekend too. Can't ask for much more than that. --- https://i.imgur.com/GWG5c3r.gif <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:973635413] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>I've been working all weekend but despite that it has been a fairly nice weekend too. Can't ask for much more than that. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GeraldDarko 05/22/23 11:42:57 AM #439:	Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... Retirement party was good. We are doing Lobster Night now, fundraiser for a local charity. Got 4 new tires since I have an AWD. My dad paid for it since, in his words, he was the reason I braved the terrible roads. Lol! My dad is pretty decently well off so it's fine. XD So, after the retirement party, you retired your vehicle. https://i.imgur.com/SY6Z83p.mp4 --- Carpe petat <cite>GeraldDarko posted [p:973635604] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... </cite><quote>Retirement party was good. We are doing Lobster Night now, fundraiser for a local charity. Got 4 new tires since I have an AWD. My dad paid for it since, in his words, he was the reason I braved the terrible roads. Lol! My dad is pretty decently well off so it's fine. XD</quote>So, after the retirement party, you retired your vehicle. https://i.imgur.com/SY6Z83p.mp4</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SHRlKE 05/24/23 4:45:41 PM #440:	Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... Thanks for all the positive vibes guys. Saskatchewan is a no go, our appeal was denied. So it means we will pursue out of province to BC. Some decent news on that front is that we will plan to go down to Vancouver on a Friday in June to do the second assessment, and assuming they give it a yes, they can do the procedure on the Sunday. The creamation service said they could complete their process and basically all they need is my payment and then urn and ashes would be mailed to me. So near the end of June this process will likely be completed. Fills me with so many emotions when I think about it. I am both fearful and nervous but also like, ready for my wife to finally get what she wants and be able to move on with the next part of my life. I still struggle with feelings of self loathing about even admitting to those feelings. Like I'm a bad person for being ready to move on and not be a care giver to a slowly dying wife. I am just one person and as strong as I know I am, even I will eventually hit a point where I just cannot be the care giver that my wife deserves. I am more fearful of that then the passing of my wife. Like, if they decide my wife doesn't get MAID in June, I don't know how much longer I can keep up with being the amazing care giver I have been. How long can I do this effectively? Youre an inspiration. Youre going to feel whatever youre going to feel. There is no rule book. The fact youve kept it together this long is a tribute to your character. When you need help dont be afraid to reach out. There is no shame in that. Yes youre wife is going through hell but so are you. I can only speak of personal experience but when I had a relative who was in hospital on end of life care for a few months its mentally exhausting and those feelings you mention are completely normal. Its weird. When you see someone you love going through this I felt the grieving process started before they were even gone. For me every time I saw my family member it was like going through that pain every time. There will be a sadness if youre wife does go but there will also be a certain weight lifted as well. Speaking to friends and family this is also natural and not something to beat yourself up over if the time comes. --- Come join us at the Sudoku + Other Pencil Puzzles Community Board. https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/boards/1572-sudoku-plus-other-pencil-puzzles <cite>SHRlKE posted [p:973688777] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... </cite><quote>Thanks for all the positive vibes guys. Saskatchewan is a no go, our appeal was denied. So it means we will pursue out of province to BC. Some decent news on that front is that we will plan to go down to Vancouver on a Friday in June to do the second assessment, and assuming they give it a yes, they can do the procedure on the Sunday. The creamation service said they could complete their process and basically all they need is my payment and then urn and ashes would be mailed to me. So near the end of June this process will likely be completed. Fills me with so many emotions when I think about it. I am both fearful and nervous but also like, ready for my wife to finally get what she wants and be able to move on with the next part of my life. I still struggle with feelings of self loathing about even admitting to those feelings. Like I'm a bad person for being ready to move on and not be a care giver to a slowly dying wife. I am just one person and as strong as I know I am, even I will eventually hit a point where I just cannot be the care giver that my wife deserves. I am more fearful of that then the passing of my wife. Like, if they decide my wife doesn't get MAID in June, I don't know how much longer I can keep up with being the amazing care giver I have been. How long can I do this effectively?</quote>Youre an inspiration. Youre going to feel whatever youre going to feel. There is no rule book. The fact youve kept it together this long is a tribute to your character. When you need help dont be afraid to reach out. There is no shame in that. Yes youre wife is going through hell but so are you. I can only speak of personal experience but when I had a relative who was in hospital on end of life care for a few months its mentally exhausting and those feelings you mention are completely normal. Its weird. When you see someone you love going through this I felt the grieving process started before they were even gone. For me every time I saw my family member it was like going through that pain every time. There will be a sadness if youre wife does go but there will also be a certain weight lifted as well. Speaking to friends and family this is also natural and not something to beat yourself up over if the time comes. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 05/24/23 8:15:45 PM #441:	SHRlKE posted... Youre an inspiration. Youre going to feel whatever youre going to feel. There is no rule book. The fact youve kept it together this long is a tribute to your character. When you need help dont be afraid to reach out. There is no shame in that. Yes youre wife is going through hell but so are you. I can only speak of personal experience but when I had a relative who was in hospital on end of life care for a few months its mentally exhausting and those feelings you mention are completely normal. Its weird. When you see someone you love going through this I felt the grieving process started before they were even gone. For me every time I saw my family member it was like going through that pain every time. There will be a sadness if youre wife does go but there will also be a certain weight lifted as well. Speaking to friends and family this is also natural and not something to beat yourself up over if the time comes. Absolutely. I've been in grief since I created this topic... so like 8 months now? --- https://i.imgur.com/GWG5c3r.gif <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:973695014] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>SHRlKE posted... </cite><quote>Youre an inspiration. Youre going to feel whatever youre going to feel. There is no rule book. The fact youve kept it together this long is a tribute to your character. When you need help dont be afraid to reach out. There is no shame in that. Yes youre wife is going through hell but so are you. I can only speak of personal experience but when I had a relative who was in hospital on end of life care for a few months its mentally exhausting and those feelings you mention are completely normal. Its weird. When you see someone you love going through this I felt the grieving process started before they were even gone. For me every time I saw my family member it was like going through that pain every time. There will be a sadness if youre wife does go but there will also be a certain weight lifted as well. Speaking to friends and family this is also natural and not something to beat yourself up over if the time comes.</quote>Absolutely. I've been in grief since I created this topic... so like 8 months now? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 05/26/23 3:51:49 PM #442:	Met over Zoom with the first doctor. She pretty much said it will happen without saying outright that it is a guarantee because she legally can't say that. She was asking if there was a spot in Vancouver she wanted to die, etc.etc. One more month to the day basically. I'm oddly at peace with all this. It is horrible what has happened to my wife and I. Having an end date for my wife's suffering provides a lot of comfort. I have been thinking recently that I'm not only losing my partner but also my best friend. I'm far more scared to lose my best friend over my partner, you know? --- https://i.imgur.com/GWG5c3r.gif <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:973734546] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Met over Zoom with the first doctor. She pretty much said it will happen without saying outright that it is a guarantee because she legally can't say that. She was asking if there was a spot in Vancouver she wanted to die, etc.etc. One more month to the day basically. I'm oddly at peace with all this. It is horrible what has happened to my wife and I. Having an end date for my wife's suffering provides a lot of comfort. I have been thinking recently that I'm not only losing my partner but also my best friend. I'm far more scared to lose my best friend over my partner, you know? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Cocytus 05/26/23 3:53:12 PM #443:	Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... I have been thinking recently that I'm not only losing my partner but also my best friend. I'm far more scared to lose my best friend over my partner, you know? Big time. But you'll make it man. --- Is this reverse psychology? And if I ask, will you lie to me? <cite>Cocytus posted [p:973734571] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... </cite><quote>I have been thinking recently that I'm not only losing my partner but also my best friend. I'm far more scared to lose my best friend over my partner, you know?</quote>Big time. But you'll make it man. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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SHRlKE 05/26/23 6:04:53 PM #445:	Heart goes out to you bro. Ive been keeping my wife updated and she shares the comments made in here. Nothing else to add that hasnt already been said. If there is one silver lining from this entire topic, and I only say they cause I cant think of another more appropriate phrase, its that its a reminder to us all not to take anything for granted. --- Come join us at the Sudoku + Other Pencil Puzzles Community Board. https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/boards/1572-sudoku-plus-other-pencil-puzzles <cite>SHRlKE posted [p:973737185] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Heart goes out to you bro. Ive been keeping my wife updated and she shares the comments made in here. Nothing else to add that hasnt already been said. If there is one silver lining from this entire topic, and I only say they cause I cant think of another more appropriate phrase, its that its a reminder to us all not to take anything for granted. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 05/27/23 12:02:09 PM #446:	I did want to thank everyone for letting me use this space to just work out my thoughts and feelings on everything. It is nice to have a cheering section as well as I work my way through this all. I've taken June 21-30 off from work to take my wife to Vancouver and give myself a week off to just kinda get myself adjusted to my new life? My family all lives in the city. I have a brother, two sisters, both my parents, 2 nieces and 4 nephews. I have an amazing network of support. I am as prepared as I feel I can be in order to get through it, you know? --- https://i.imgur.com/GWG5c3r.gif <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:973750087] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>I did want to thank everyone for letting me use this space to just work out my thoughts and feelings on everything. It is nice to have a cheering section as well as I work my way through this all. I've taken June 21-30 off from work to take my wife to Vancouver and give myself a week off to just kinda get myself adjusted to my new life? My family all lives in the city. I have a brother, two sisters, both my parents, 2 nieces and 4 nephews. I have an amazing network of support. I am as prepared as I feel I can be in order to get through it, you know? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
dummy420 05/27/23 12:14:38 PM #447:	Legit always feel free to hit me up. I cant feel what your going through but I can listen. I wish you the best and want you to always feel free to vent. --- Trying is the first step towards failure, so just dont give it a shot and you cant dissapoint. <cite>dummy420 posted [p:973750236] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Legit always feel free to hit me up. I cant feel what your going through but I can listen. I wish you the best and want you to always feel free to vent. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SHRlKE 05/27/23 1:06:27 PM #448:	It sounds crazy youd have to take this time off from your PTO. Surely your work should give you it as compassionate leave? --- Come join us at the Sudoku + Other Pencil Puzzles Community Board. https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/boards/1572-sudoku-plus-other-pencil-puzzles <cite>SHRlKE posted [p:973751075] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>It sounds crazy youd have to take this time off from your PTO. Surely your work should give you it as compassionate leave?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 05/27/23 2:18:46 PM #449:	SHRlKE posted... It sounds crazy youd have to take this time off from your PTO. Surely your work should give you it as compassionate leave? Oh yeah, I will get Bereavment leave. --- https://i.imgur.com/GWG5c3r.gif <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:973752609] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>SHRlKE posted... </cite><quote>It sounds crazy youd have to take this time off from your PTO. Surely your work should give you it as compassionate leave?</quote>Oh yeah, I will get Bereavment leave.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
UnfairRepresent 05/27/23 2:42:46 PM #450:	kurdt032 posted... Just read this topic. There's nothing I can really say other than that I'm thinking of you and wishing you both all the best. I can't even imagine what you're going through. ^ --- ^ Hey now that's completely unfair! http://i.imgur.com/yPw05Ob.png <cite>UnfairRepresent posted [p:973753104] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>kurdt032 posted... </cite><quote>Just read this topic. There's nothing I can really say other than that I'm thinking of you and wishing you both all the best. I can't even imagine what you're going through.</quote>^</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
BlazinBlue88 05/27/23 5:38:42 PM #451:	Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... I did want to thank everyone for letting me use this space to just work out my thoughts and feelings on everything. It is nice to have a cheering section as well as I work my way through this all. I've taken June 21-30 off from work to take my wife to Vancouver and give myself a week off to just kinda get myself adjusted to my new life? My family all lives in the city. I have a brother, two sisters, both my parents, 2 nieces and 4 nephews. I have an amazing network of support. I am as prepared as I feel I can be in order to get through it, you know? I just can't imagine what you're going through man. Bittersweet can't fully describe the end result of this situation. I would fall apart if I ever lost my wife and I've told her such. You're very strong and I know your wife appreciates everything you've done to help her through this situation. --- http://i.imgur.com/R15aJJ3.png http://i.imgur.com/NJqp6LS.png <cite>BlazinBlue88 posted [p:973756531] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... </cite><quote>I did want to thank everyone for letting me use this space to just work out my thoughts and feelings on everything. It is nice to have a cheering section as well as I work my way through this all. I've taken June 21-30 off from work to take my wife to Vancouver and give myself a week off to just kinda get myself adjusted to my new life? My family all lives in the city. I have a brother, two sisters, both my parents, 2 nieces and 4 nephews. I have an amazing network of support. I am as prepared as I feel I can be in order to get through it, you know?</quote>I just can't imagine what you're going through man. Bittersweet can't fully describe the end result of this situation. I would fall apart if I ever lost my wife and I've told her such. You're very strong and I know your wife appreciates everything you've done to help her through this situation.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Memorial_Bench 05/30/23 5:42:24 AM #452:	BlazinBlue88 posted... I just can't imagine what you're going through man. Bittersweet can't fully describe the end result of this situation. I would fall apart if I ever lost my wife and I've told her such. You're very strong and I know your wife appreciates everything you've done to help her through this situation. Couldn't have put it better --- Thank You <cite>Memorial_Bench posted [p:973806022] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>BlazinBlue88 posted...</cite><quote>I just can't imagine what you're going through man. Bittersweet can't fully describe the end result of this situation. I would fall apart if I ever lost my wife and I've told her such. You're very strong and I know your wife appreciates everything you've done to help her through this situation.</quote>Couldn't have put it better</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SweetNut_Farm 05/30/23 6:42:50 AM #453:	Thinking of you and sending positive energy. --- You can't unring the bell. FC: SW2901 6515 7606 DA:627659809021 <cite>SweetNut_Farm posted [p:973806418] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Thinking of you and sending positive energy.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 06/01/23 12:09:14 AM #454:	Thanks for the well wishes! We are into our last month together should everything work out how we want it to go. --- https://i.imgur.com/GWG5c3r.gif <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:973849070] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Thanks for the well wishes! We are into our last month together should everything work out how we want it to go.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DarthDemented 06/01/23 12:23:56 AM #455:	Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... Thanks for the well wishes! We are into our last month together should everything work out how we want it to go. Hey buddy I've been down the widow road. If you need someone to talk to I can DM my number, my kik, my snap, or discord. It's gonna be rough buddy. I've considered you a friend since our days on LUE and it helps to sometimes have a friendly stranger to be sounding board. Especially someone who's been through it. --- Paula Wood. My love, my life. 1980-2021 https://store.steampowered.com/wishlist/profiles/76561198210788964/#sort=order <cite>DarthDemented posted [p:973849274] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted... </cite><quote>Thanks for the well wishes! We are into our last month together should everything work out how we want it to go.</quote>Hey buddy I've been down the widow road. If you need someone to talk to I can DM my number, my kik, my snap, or discord. It's gonna be rough buddy. I've considered you a friend since our days on LUE and it helps to sometimes have a friendly stranger to be sounding board. Especially someone who's been through it.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jeff_AKA_Snoopy 06/01/23 12:32:12 AM #456:	DarthDemented posted... Hey buddy I've been down the widow road. If you need someone to talk to I can DM my number, my kik, my snap, or discord. It's gonna be rough buddy. I've considered you a friend since our days on LUE and it helps to sometimes have a friendly stranger to be sounding board. Especially someone who's been through it. My friend, I definitely appreciate it. I might take you up on that offer. Did you feel... ready for it? Like, I feel like I'm ready for it. I'm at peace with it and in many ways looking forward to being able to enter the next phase of my life. I'm not "happy", but more like I am ready to no longer be a care giver to a horribly sick wife. --- https://i.imgur.com/GWG5c3r.gif <cite>Jeff_AKA_Snoopy posted [p:973849370] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>DarthDemented posted... </cite><quote>Hey buddy I've been down the widow road. If you need someone to talk to I can DM my number, my kik, my snap, or discord. It's gonna be rough buddy. I've considered you a friend since our days on LUE and it helps to sometimes have a friendly stranger to be sounding board. Especially someone who's been through it.</quote>My friend, I definitely appreciate it. I might take you up on that offer. Did you feel... ready for it? Like, I feel like I'm ready for it. I'm at peace with it and in many ways looking forward to being able to enter the next phase of my life. I'm not "happy", but more like I am ready to no longer be a care giver to a horribly sick wife.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Ivany2008 06/01/23 12:36:39 AM #457:	Enjoy your time together. At least you know what is going to happen and you can prepare yourself for what is to come. It won't be easy, so just try and keep your head up. I would like to make a quick suggestion if you haven't already addressed it, and that's make sure to get general affairs in order. My uncle passed in January, and it saddens me to think of all the nonsense that my aunt had to deal with after his passing. How some companies could not understand that a dead man couldn't come in to cancel a bank account or even to change the name on the house they owned. <cite>Ivany2008 posted [p:973849427] in My wife is... [t:80180353]...</cite> <quote>Enjoy your time together. At least you know what is going to happen and you can prepare yourself for what is to come. It won't be easy, so just try and keep your head up. I would like to make a quick suggestion if you haven't already addressed it, and that's make sure to get general affairs in order. My uncle passed in January, and it saddens me to think of all the nonsense that my aunt had to deal with after his passing. How some companies could not understand that a dead man couldn't come in to cancel a bank account or even to change the name on the house they owned.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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